Bed wetting help

fernliebee

Oooh also as well as caffienated drinks like cola, blackcurrant can be an irritant to the bladder so should be avoided too. Like someone mentioned above it was suggested that he drink more in the day, and have a big drink at one time, rather than lot's of little sips, as this trains the bladder to hold greater amounts iyswim.

Keeping_Motivated

Hi whether the bed wetting is emotional or not it sounds like this 9 year old has had to deal with stuff that most of us could not cope with as adults who have choices and who could walk away, this little girl was trapped in a sense with no control with a father she must have been scared of.

So my suggestion would be to check if the school has a counsellor and get her someone she can confide in in a confidential way. If the school does not have a counsellor then look on the net for any organisations in your area that offer counselling to children.

If your sister is in denial then she may not welcome her daughter going to a counsellor but if you can try and encourage it.

Also could you be a confidante to your niece, maybe she would open up to you. Don't mention the bedwetting just ask/ tell her if she ever wants to talk to you about things then you are there.

Good luck

pinksprinkles

I echo the words of others who say get in touch with the school nurse.

I know the situation isnt the same, but I hope knowing how we percervered and got help in a similar situation may give you a little insight on how your neice may get help.

My son, also 9, has/had a problem with soiling himself from quite a young age, but all the Dr would say is that he was constipated and give me another type of medication to try & help him. I kept asking for him to see a specialist but each time was told by the GP that he needed to tick all the medication boxes first. The medication made my sons life hell and he had to have a lot of time off school.

I spoke to the school and they told me if the dr wouldnt send me to a specialist to get the school nurse involved, I told the GP this and he immediately refered us to a specialist!!!

The specialist was fab and acknowledge he had a medical problem that should have been dealt with a long time ago, and that now it would take a lot longer to treat.

I was called into school due to the deputy head hearing about my sons problem, she hadnt been told before and wanted me to let her know everything as she was concerned for him. I burst into tears telling her (I'm not one to cry normally), and after giving me some sympathy she immediately rang the school nurse to see if she could think of anything else to help my son, and also to support me.

The school nurse is fab, she rings me every month with any info she has, and lets me destress to her. She's made plans for when he goes to secondary school if hes still having problems, shes got info of other agencies and colleagues who can help us out, and she also has a little meeting with my son every couple of months to see how he's feeling, discuss any problems/issues hes got.

The specialist is treating his medical problem, the school nurse is helping with both the medical & emotional side for not only my son, but also for me.

Get your sister to get in touch with the school nurse, and keep going, she knows her own daughter better than the GP.

karen24_2

I wonder if anybody could advise me. My six year old son (he's seven in May) is showing no signs of being dry at night. He has a statement of special educational needs at school, and although he's not had a formal diagnosis, it is thought that he shows a lot of signs of being on the autistic spectrum. We've talked about him not wearing a nappy at night anymore and he wants to try as his younger brother is pretty much dry at night, however his pyjama pants are always wet through in the morning. I'm concerned that if we bite the bullet and take away the nappy at night and he fails to stay dry for a long time it will be a major setback in his life, as he reacts badly to things not going right. It was easy with his brother as he just kept the pyjama pants dry for a week and we took it away, and he just has the odd accident now. I'm not concerned about the mattress as I bought special waterproof mattresses and I have drawsheets to put over the bedsheets so they can easily be removed in the night. I know I sound negative but it took me almost a year to get him dry during the day as I was advised not to go back to nappies once we made the commitment to pants. Thank you for reading.

Iheart2poundcoins

I'm not much help, but maybe talk to him and see if he would like to try say a weekend to begin with rather than going the whole hog.
Reward him if he stays dry and still reward him if he doesnt - important thing is I think he is willing to give it a go. ((hugs)) x

Ruby_Moon

karen24 wrote: »

I wonder if anybody could advise me. My six year old son (he's seven in May) is showing no signs of being dry at night. He has a statement of special educational needs at school, and although he's not had a formal diagnosis, it is thought that he shows a lot of signs of being on the autistic spectrum. We've talked about him not wearing a nappy at night anymore and he wants to try as his younger brother is pretty much dry at night, however his pyjama pants are always wet through in the morning. I'm concerned that if we bite the bullet and take away the nappy at night and he fails to stay dry for a long time it will be a major setback in his life, as he reacts badly to things not going right. It was easy with his brother as he just kept the pyjama pants dry for a week and we took it away, and he just has the odd accident now. I'm not concerned about the mattress as I bought special waterproof mattresses and I have drawsheets to put over the bedsheets so they can easily be removed in the night. I know I sound negative but it took me almost a year to get him dry during the day as I was advised not to go back to nappies once we made the commitment to pants. Thank you for reading.

If he isn't showing signs of not giving up then don't force it.
Bedwetting only becomes a big deal when a parent makes it a big deal. Some children take a long time, and never stop wetting beds until way into their teens.
You just clean up and never mention it. Let him wear his Dry Nights. It doesn't do any harm.

Mupette

Are there any pull up pants for him?

moving slightly away from the nappy to pull ups may give him confidence

Iheart2poundcoins

^ I think its cos he he is seeing his younger brother dry at night. Probably getting to that age where they start getting self concious about things.

karen24_2

Mupette wrote: »

Are there any pull up pants for him?

moving slightly away from the nappy to pull ups may give him confidence

Sorry for the confusion. They're the huggies pyjama pants he wears, he chooses to call them nappies. I've never made an issue of him wearing them or a nappy even when he used to poo in his nappy and empty it all over his room :eek:

Iheart2poundcoins

Fun with poo!
Gosh, I have it all to come :j