Where can I meet a decent guy?

Errata

also look into getting another hobby during the day.

Why not do some voluntary work ? If you're an accountant CAB would probably welcome and make good use of your skill. It would look good on your CV compared to a 'hobby' and you'd also meet plenty of males, both clients and other volunteers.

financegirl

nje24 wrote: »

I have been a single mother of 3 young children for 2 1/2 years. I have done the internet dateing but like the other lady I have virtually no free time to date. i have now got used to the idea that I am doing it 'flying solo'. I work 30 hours a week, at times i find it physically and emotionally draining but study with ou each year..hoping one day i will stumble on mr right. I think its important to carve out a life for yourself and i found so many men on the internet have the attitude 'whats in it for me!!!';)

Noooooo don't be like that, you will find him. Don't get used to the idea that you are flying 'solo', becuase that is the image you will sunconsciously project.

You're doing very well, studying and working - that's amazing, you're not just thinking oh well, and giving up, and claiming off the state.

Your children will grow up to be fine specimens watching you provide that example.

Go out (if you can just once a month to a NICE bar) and simple things, like popping to the shops, public transport, make an effort, nice clothes, bit of makeup, no slobby clothes, be happy and smiley and you never know.

I went through a very dark period of depression and desperation - binge comfort eating and dressing like Waynetta Slob, after reading a library of self help books!! (yes really!!!) and starting positive visualisation, things changed.

I was happy again and it came across - a guy asked me out as i was buying grapes in tesco, and do you know before that I walked around doing my business for a good couple of months grinning like a bl00dy cheshire cat.

If anything, it's funny to do, just to see people's reactions when you smile at them, we are such a miserable society aren't we?

Try it and never give up - remember we can create and choose the life we want:A

System

If P/T work isn't possible would it be possible to maybe volunteer somewhere for a few hours a week, this would give you a chance to meet new people. I met my bf in a nightclub (so classy i know!) so its sometimes a case of getting yourself "out there" so to speak.

Could never do the internet dating shizzle. I know it works for some people but i prefer getting to know someone in person and not over the net as its too easy for people to put on a front online

EslaDee

MrsE wrote: »

You really are obsessed with me

Do you trawl through the boards looking for my posts?

Don`t worry Mrs E, just put it down to your personal charisma and natural charm! I am not sure I am not a little bit envious - ones own cyber stalker - hmmmm. :-)

Lotus-eater

bestpud wrote: »

I may be wrong, but I'd have thought describing yourself as very attractive would attract ultra confident males, and then I ask myself why they are using a dating site if they are that confident with women...

I'm very confident, the reasons I would use a web site for dating is that I like a certain type of woman, you can ask questions on the web, that you can't over the bananas at Tescos for instance.
I wouldn't go for someone who classes themselves as very attractive, because the likelihood is that they are so far up their own backsides they can't see anything else. I'm not saying the OP is like that though and she as has already said, she doesn't say that when dating.

Errata

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

Could never do the internet dating shizzle. I know it works for some people but i prefer getting to know someone in person and not over the net as its too easy for people to put on a front online

Common sense dictates that people can only have a meaningful relationship in the physical presence of another human being. Dots on a screen ae just that and no more, so I'm with you on this.

Lotus-eater

Errata wrote: »

Common sense dictates that people can only have a meaningful relationship in the physical presence of another human being. Dots on a screen ae just that and no more, so I'm with you on this.

You can maybe only have a meaningful relationship when you have physically met, but until then you can find out an awful lot about each other online.
Are you saying that people who live apart and don't see each other very often can't have a meaningful relationship?

Errata

No, and if I'd wanted to say that I would have.

Lotus-eater

Errata wrote: »

No, and if I'd wanted to say that I would have.

Well whats the difference then? Only the place where you meet someone.

Emmzi

I met my best platonic mate in the internet. Besty mates for over a decade now. Thoruhg a common interest forum, not a dating site; which actually is not a bad place to start.

I'm with the pixel people, it works well AND lets you weed out a lot of creeps before you invest in coffee :-)