Where can I meet a decent guy?

Lotus-eater

I'll tell you what, I'm a std sort of guy and when I see someone class themselves as "very attractive" I give up, I don't even bother thinking about it.
I don't want an X factor wannabe, I want a normal person, i don't even want someone who likes X factor. If you want someone that does, then say so.

I would disagree with the person above who says to get out of the house more though, that's easy to say, sometimes difficult and hard to do. Believe in yourself and concentrate on what you like, decide on what you really like.
It's easy to say and not always easy to do

lilly81

GOD U PEOPLE ARE SO NARROW MINDED!
Here's my life story then you will see why I dont 'get a part time job' or 'go out more'
My son is on the asperger spectrum and at present we are going through the diagnosise process.
I had a fantastic FULL TIME JOB in my chosen careeer- no not in a supermarket but as an accountant, I was also part way through my DEGREE, thats right a single mother that is educated-shocking I know :eek:
I had to give up this career to care for my son, as he was suspended from school 3 times because of his behavour.
I can not work as I have at least one meeting a week to do with my son's problems. He also suffers from night terrors which means he has nightmares at least once a night and gets up at 5am.
Sorry if I come across as agressive above but you kinda hit a raw nerve!

I wrote that im attractive on here but i dont on dating sites.

iolanthe07

If you had told us all this sad story in your first post, people would not have suggested that you go out and get a job, and you would not have got angry and aggressive. We can only comment on such facts as we are given.

financegirl

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I'll tell you what, I'm a std sort of guy and

Really, wouldn't be shouting that one from the rooftops dear, STD means an abbrievation for something you wouldn't want to go near.....

bestpud

lilly81 wrote: »

GOD U PEOPLE ARE SO NARROW MINDED!
Here's my life story then you will see why I dont 'get a part time job' or 'go out more'
My son is on the asperger spectrum and at present we are going through the diagnosise process.
I had a fantastic FULL TIME JOB in my chosen careeer- no not in a supermarket but as an accountant, I was also part way through my DEGREE, thats right a single mother that is educated-shocking I know :eek:
I had to give up this career to care for my son, as he was suspended from school 3 times because of his behavour.
I can not work as I have at least one meeting a week to do with my son's problems. He also suffers from night terrors which means he has nightmares at least once a night and gets up at 5am.
Sorry if I come across as agressive above but you kinda hit a raw nerve!

I wrote that im attractive on here but i dont on dating sites.

Do you think we are mind readers?

Even if you'd left out the bits about your child, I'd have thought it prudent to mention you are a professional but not able to work at present, when asking why you aren't having much luck with dating...

FWIW, I'm a single mum and part way through a degree too - lots on here are, so step off your high horse!

Do you mention your son when you write ads?

Do you think that puts men off - lack of knowledge and all that - some people are, sadly, still very wary of disabilities? That sounds awful, but I hope you know what I mean?

What sort of guy are you getting? Why are they not suited to you? Maybe working that out will help you target your ads at more suitable ones?

I'm still not convinced a man is the answer to your problems...

lilly81

OK I apolgise, its just a bit of a rubbish situation not being able to work.

I'm looking for that special someone to have adult company, adult chats and snuggles! All the things you miss by being single. My friends are great but when my son's asleep im' just on my own.
Its also the end of a long summer holidays and I think the lack of sleep is getting to me.
My plan is to start swimming once a week when my sons at school and also look into getting another hobby during the day.
I just dont seem to meet any males in my day to day life

bestpud

lilly81 wrote: »

OK I apolgise, its just a bit of a rubbish situation not being able to work.

I'm looking for that special someone to have adult company, adult chats and snuggles! All the things you miss by being single. My friends are great but when my son's asleep im' just on my own.
Its also the end of a long summer holidays and I think the lack of sleep is getting to me.
My plan is to start swimming once a week when my sons at school and also look into getting another hobby during the day.
I just dont seem to meet any males in my day to day life

Lol, that's the bit I love about being single!

What hobbys are you thinking of?

I ask as flower arranging is less likely to invole males... Not impossible but certainly less likely than something sporty for example.

Swimming will be good all round as the exercise will lift your mood as well as get you out and about.

moneysavermum_2

I have been a single mother of 3 young children for 2 1/2 years. I have done the internet dateing but like the other lady I have virtually no free time to date. i have now got used to the idea that I am doing it 'flying solo'. I work 30 hours a week, at times i find it physically and emotionally draining but study with ou each year..hoping one day i will stumble on mr right. I think its important to carve out a life for yourself and i found so many men on the internet have the attitude 'whats in it for me!!!';)

moneysavermum_2

Also in my opinion the men ive met on the internet are 'looking at what you can bring to the party' . I think internet dateing is a useful tool to initially meet but you need to take things very slowly to create something worthwhile

Lotus-eater

financegirl wrote: »

Really, wouldn't be shouting that one from the rooftops dear, STD means an abbrievation for something you wouldn't want to go near.....

Good point But I don't care what people think of me on here, so I'll live with it.

Just like to add that I'm not single, but if I was, I'd be internet dating. You get such a choice and don't have to faff around finding out if someone likes the same things you do. You just ask or state it straight off. I'm always brutally honest, never try too hard to talk myself up, I am what I am, this is what I like, I find it cuts down on the timewasters.

For some reason I always seem to find women I like in real life, when I'm with someone, not when I am single :rolleyes: I think that must be a state of mind.