Where can I meet a decent guy?

Errata

Whats wrong with someone who has the self confidence to think they are attractive?

I have no idea, but as internet and print Lonely Hearts ads are two thirds full of people who describe themselves as attractive there are clearly a lot of them about.

teffers

www.plentyoffish.com

Site looks rough and ready but it's 100% free and worked brilliantly for me (GF of 6 months).

Just make sure you're flexible and realistic, avoid the temptation of creating your 'prefect man' list - you just aint gonna find him - think about what REALLY matters.

Unfortunately, just like life, there are plentyonutters around but use your brains and be particular (about finding the qualities that matter to you) and take it slow.

Oldernotwiser

DigitalJedi wrote: »

So are you saying that she can't possibly be attractive just because she's not got a job and puts looking after her kids before going out?

Get a grip! Whats wrong with someone who has the self confidence to think they are attractive?

It can be a very narrow line between self confidence and over confidence - you're only to look at the X Factor auditions!

flutterbyuk25

teffers wrote: »

www.plentyoffish.com

Site looks rough and ready but it's 100% free and worked brilliantly for me (GF of 6 months).

Just make sure you're flexible and realistic, avoid the temptation of creating your 'prefect man' list - you just aint gonna find him - think about what REALLY matters.

Unfortunately, just like life, there are plentyonutters around but use your brains and be particular (about finding the qualities that matter to you) and take it slow.

I'd second this site too. I've not met anyone special on it yet (been on about 3months) but have meet 2 very nice genuine guys who are now good friends.

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financegirl

flutterbyuk25 wrote: »

I'd second this site too. I've not met anyone special on it yet (been on about 3months) but have meet 2 very nice genuine guys who are now good friends.

x

what a lovel email sig, you have, did you make that up, or is it a famous quote from somewhere?

flutterbyuk25

financegirl wrote: »

what a lovel email sig, you have, did you make that up, or is it a famous quote from somewhere?

It's a quote.

I worked at a summer camp in America last year which was for disadvantaged kids and this quote was on a poster on the wall in the staff office. I think it's very apt and reminds me of the best summer ever

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financegirl

it's made me really broody and how true - no one goes to their deathbed thinking I'm glad I drove a 4x4, or put all those hours in at work, but they do remember the memories they have with their loved ones..

Mind you, wouldn't mind a 4x4:rotfl::rotfl:

financegirl

lilly81 wrote: »

Hiya,

I'm a 27 year old single mother, and I'm just so fed up with being single!
I dont work, all my friends are married with kids, and I just dont seem to meet men in my everyday life. I don't drink, and maybe get a night out every couple of months.
I have tried internet dating for 2 years and I just think its not worth it. I'm very attractive but seem to get the wrong type of attraction!
Any ideas????
LillyX

Sorry and in relation to the OP - I think it is fantastic that you think you are very attractive.

1) if you don't love you, no one else will

2) When you are out on those dates - if you act like a prize, it will make him believe he is getting a prize.

3) I have seen many times, stunning woman, who come across as nervous, jittery, no self confidence and it's very apparent they have no confidence, this is then interpreted by others and the beauty is diminshed in the eye of the beholder.

4) And exactly the opposite - rather average looking women who are comfortable and confident in their skin - it's very sexy and men are very easily manipulated:rotfl:

5) In terms of dating people, I think it's really accepted that internet dating is the way forward - you could go out all weekend, every weekend and still not meet him, also think of it as a refined search - saves a lot of messing about.

6) Dont mean to be rude - but why don't you work? Surely you could manage a PT job a couple of evenings a week.one weekend day etc. You need something to talk about with your date, your interests and a passion for life - do volunteer work or something. I know you are a mum, but I would be put off i went out and had a date who didn't work/have a hobby/have a passion for something.

Keep us all updated, oh and you know you said you are attracting the wrong sort of attention, have you got a close friend that could give you a honest valuation about your appearance - I've been told by countless people that my skirts are far too short for work:rotfl:

MrsE_2

financegirl wrote: »

it's made me really broody and how true - no one goes to their deathbed thinking I'm glad I drove a 4x4, or put all those hours in at work, but they do remember the memories they have with their loved ones..

Mind you, wouldn't mind a 4x4:rotfl::rotfl:

I wouldn't have anything else:D

bestpud

Are you fed up being single, or just fed up in general?

Do you need a man or a life?

You say you don't work, or go out much, and your social life seems to depend on your friends, who all have partners.

Maybe you'd meet someone if you did get out and about, either through work, or a hobby? And, if you didn't, you'd at least have something else to think about?

What do you mean by attracting the wrong type?

Perhaps you need to 'sell' yourself differently if you are consistently attracting a certain type?

I may be wrong, but I'd have thought describing yourself as very attractive would attract ultra confident males, and then I ask myself why they are using a dating site if they are that confident with women...

If you want personality, it may be better to focus on different aspects of yourself?

Personally though, I'd give up on the internet dating and get out of the house more!

Perhaps I'm just cynical... :cool: