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Rant about family
TheEffect
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I need to rant to get this off my chest and calm down a little. I'm 18, and work full time.
My aunt (40), cousin (19) and her boyfriend (19) all moved to Spain. My mum visited them on holiday. While my mum was out there, my cousin fell out with her boyfriend, phoned me on my mums mobile 3 days ago and asked if I could book her a flight home. Her mum (my aunt) said she doesnt have enough money to pay for the flights as she hasn't got paid, and the boyfriend doesnt have a bank account. She promised me she'd bring the money to me the next day. I booked her a £200 flight, and the next day, I never heard from her. I phoned her and she said 'I left my bank card in Spain and my money goes in Friday, I'll bring it round Friday'. I was annoyed as she lied. She didn't have the money to bring to me the next day, so now I have to wait till Friday.
My nan phoned me earlier and said '(My cousin) has booked a flight to go back to Spain friday at 8am as she's made up with her boyfriend'. I had not heard anything from my cousin and so rang her and said 'How are you coming to me friday if your plane leaves at 8am' ... she just said 'err, i'll get the money out at 12am and leave it at aunt 2's house (where she's staying).
She's messing me around, can't be bothered to phone me, and I'd be very surprised if she leaves on that plane without leaving a penny for me. I did her a favour and this is how she repays me.
Secondly, I asked my brother (20) for some money to go food shopping as we have nothing in the fridge while our mother is away. He said he'll leave some money on the table. He never did, I went shopping anyway and have been asking him for 2 days now for some money and he seas 'Oh, I'll give you some tomorrow'....
Also, my brother had a house party last Saturday, and I stayed in a travelodge as I knew the house would get wrecked, and I hate his friends. I came back the next day, the house was wrecked, he still hasn't done anything (I've been slowly cleaning stuff up since saturday as i cant live in a !!!! hole), but I've asked him to clean the downstairs toilet constantly since saturday, yet its still uncleaned, full of toiletroll, bottles, beer, !!!! and all sorts...
He kept me up all of last night because he invited 4 friends around and they just played music loud, shouting and laughing around till 4am, despite me asking him 3 times to shut up.
He's just come back with a crate of beer and 1 of his friends...
I'm at the end of my tether and feel my whole family is just useless. My mum just said 'He's out of order and I'll have words when he comes back'. I don't want to keep ringing my mum and telling her whats happening, as I'm 18 years old and should be able to sort out my own problems, but I'm just at the end of my tether now.
He hasn't walked the dog, fed the dog, picked up any of the dog dooh in the garden since our mother left for the holiday. I've done everything, including my own washing (god knows what he's wearing... probably same clothes).
I might be the abnormal teenager who doesn't automatically think ''Great, no parents, party, drink, wreck house, do !!!! all for two weeks''...
Am I just being an antisocial sado...? I neede to get that off my chest.
My aunt (40), cousin (19) and her boyfriend (19) all moved to Spain. My mum visited them on holiday. While my mum was out there, my cousin fell out with her boyfriend, phoned me on my mums mobile 3 days ago and asked if I could book her a flight home. Her mum (my aunt) said she doesnt have enough money to pay for the flights as she hasn't got paid, and the boyfriend doesnt have a bank account. She promised me she'd bring the money to me the next day. I booked her a £200 flight, and the next day, I never heard from her. I phoned her and she said 'I left my bank card in Spain and my money goes in Friday, I'll bring it round Friday'. I was annoyed as she lied. She didn't have the money to bring to me the next day, so now I have to wait till Friday.
My nan phoned me earlier and said '(My cousin) has booked a flight to go back to Spain friday at 8am as she's made up with her boyfriend'. I had not heard anything from my cousin and so rang her and said 'How are you coming to me friday if your plane leaves at 8am' ... she just said 'err, i'll get the money out at 12am and leave it at aunt 2's house (where she's staying).
She's messing me around, can't be bothered to phone me, and I'd be very surprised if she leaves on that plane without leaving a penny for me. I did her a favour and this is how she repays me.
Secondly, I asked my brother (20) for some money to go food shopping as we have nothing in the fridge while our mother is away. He said he'll leave some money on the table. He never did, I went shopping anyway and have been asking him for 2 days now for some money and he seas 'Oh, I'll give you some tomorrow'....
Also, my brother had a house party last Saturday, and I stayed in a travelodge as I knew the house would get wrecked, and I hate his friends. I came back the next day, the house was wrecked, he still hasn't done anything (I've been slowly cleaning stuff up since saturday as i cant live in a !!!! hole), but I've asked him to clean the downstairs toilet constantly since saturday, yet its still uncleaned, full of toiletroll, bottles, beer, !!!! and all sorts...
He kept me up all of last night because he invited 4 friends around and they just played music loud, shouting and laughing around till 4am, despite me asking him 3 times to shut up.
He's just come back with a crate of beer and 1 of his friends...
I'm at the end of my tether and feel my whole family is just useless. My mum just said 'He's out of order and I'll have words when he comes back'. I don't want to keep ringing my mum and telling her whats happening, as I'm 18 years old and should be able to sort out my own problems, but I'm just at the end of my tether now.
He hasn't walked the dog, fed the dog, picked up any of the dog dooh in the garden since our mother left for the holiday. I've done everything, including my own washing (god knows what he's wearing... probably same clothes).
I might be the abnormal teenager who doesn't automatically think ''Great, no parents, party, drink, wreck house, do !!!! all for two weeks''...
Am I just being an antisocial sado...? I neede to get that off my chest.
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No you're not being anti social at all. People (ie your family) are taking advantage of your good nature. If I were you I'd start flat hunting.0
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sophieschoice wrote: »No you're not being anti social at all. People (ie your family) are taking advantage of your good nature. If I were you I'd start flat hunting.
On £250 a week (£200 after tax), there's no way I could afford a flat. Plus I'm going to University in 2010 and trying to save money. I'd love a place of my own, but I just cannot afford it.0 -
It's very hard at any age to deal with family not pulling their weight, IMO, so don't beat yourself up over it.
Next time your mum goes away, try to get yourself away too rather than being left with your brother.
AND make sure you haven't got the money to buy other people any more flights!Signature removed for peace of mind0 -
Firstly, I would phone up and cancel the flight, as even though you won't get much of the £200 back for cancelling, you probably won't get the money from your cousin either, and it'll teach her a lesson about lying.
Secondly, I would consider taking all the mess in the house that your brother made, and dump it in his room. If he can't be bothered to clean it up, then he can have it in his own space. My brother was like that too when he was younger, although me being the oldest, I had to tidy up, as it was me who would get in trouble for the mess!Should've = Should HAVE (not 'of')
Would've = Would HAVE (not 'of')
No, I am not perfect, but yes I do judge people on their use of basic English language. If you didn't know the above, then learn it! (If English is your second language, then you are forgiven!)0 -
Just to update, she got on her plane at 8am without leaving a penny.0
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Get your mum to embarrass your cousin when she gets back to Spain into giving her the money for the flight to give to you when she gets home.
You are being put upon by your brother and cousin, but, just maybe, it's a lesson learnt for the future. Families, you can't choose them like you can your friends.
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Is your mum still out there visiting them? If so, I'd get her to ask for the money and make sure your aunt knows she owes it to you so she can ensure her daughter pays up if possible.0
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I suggest you ring your Cousin in Spain and ask her to send the money over today. Tell her she can Western Union it or give it to your Mum to bring back with her.
If your Mum has not received the money or you have no confirmation of the Western Union transfer then tell them never to ask anything of you again.0 -
Firstly, I would phone up and cancel the flight, as even though you won't get much of the £200 back for cancelling, you probably won't get the money from your cousin either, and it'll teach her a lesson about lying.
She can't cancel the flight - the cousin used it to get home.....and has now flown back to Spain.
OP - you are being taken for a mug......use it as a learning curve and don't let it happen again.0 -
Well, if she left her bank card in Spain, she was never going to pay you was she?
And if she lives in Spain, you're not likely to see your money again, I'm afraid.
I would never let her forget if I were you and harass her constantly (and her mother) until I got the money back. £200 is a lot of money. What a cheek!LBM: August 2006 £12,568.49 - DFD 22nd March 2012
"The road to DF is long and bumpy" GreenSaints0
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