Taxis back to basics...debt and mortgage free before 50(feb 2014)

macgirl

Hi Taxi, so sorry to hear your news but so impressed by your strength and determination.

My Mum's friend is a nursing sister and says the number one thing you need to beat cancer is positivity - so you are already on the right track. She herself had breast cancer 15 years ago and is great now (she decided on a mastectomy, in case you're wondering).

I know far more people that have survived it than not and my own sister (who is an oncology nurse in the US) says today it is more often a chronic illness rather than a death sentence. I hope that is encouraging. I would echo the advice to stay off the internet (apart from here of course).

You WILL get through this - stay positive xxx

Lenza_Quidditch

taxi73 wrote: »

Firstly Lenza...am so sorry that you have had to go through everything and am glad to see that you are getting to the back end of treatment.
Everybody is welcome here and post whatever they want and what you posted was fantastic and will be a big help.
I stopped looking around the internet a couple of weeks ago you'll be pleased to know.

As for finances ...you are right if worst comes to the worst I can offer them £1 per month or whatever.

hypno06 wrote: »

Don't apologise for butting in, Lenza, when you have such good advice!! Hope your treatment is successful x

Thanks Taxi - and glad to hear about the 'net and thanks Hypno - scan next week so we'll see. I've followed both your diaries - and others - on and off for years (how stalkeryweird does that sound :rotfl:) and am glad the debt's still heading in the right direction!

Lenza x

Pippajo

When I posted earlier I just wanted to say hugs but was not able to take the time and read properly.

I am sitting here cuddling my puppy filled with tears (my DH thinks I'm nuts ) but this is such an amazing place. The comments, thoughts, advice and support are amazing. I hope to God that I don't ever need it but if I ever do, well what a truly amazing group of "friends"

I have followed you but never posted directly on your diary but I'll keep popping in to check up and see how you are doing. x

Seaxwyn

HI taxi. I'm glad to read your comments and see that you are tackling this with the usual taxi good sense. I hope the nurse will be helpful and you get all the information you need to make decisions about what treatment course to pursue. I have had several friends go through this, including my very best friend, and they are all alive and well now with the cancer experience left behind. That's not to belittle what a horrible thing it must be while you are dealing with it. Very best of luck and good courage to you and your OH.

taxi73

Well what can I say...I'm overwhelmed by all the support you are all giving me.It's lovely to hear about people that have come out of it the other side..that keeps me going....
Anyone lurking please post you are very welcome and nobody bites here.
Am feeling a little low tonight...feeling like I should cry but can't quite IYSWIM....think maybe it's because I'm tired.Maybe it's because I've done the practical stuff.

taxi73

Lenza...all the best and everything crossed for your scan next week....
We are all here for you as well...please keep posting xxxx

jtr2803

Taxi, I wish I could wave a magic wand and make everything better for you and it pains me that I can't, I don't know you personally but I can see how much your strength and personality has rubbed off on everyone else.

I hope that you can continue to be strong and we will all be behind you every step of the way x

taxi73

Thanks JTR....I'll be fine..I'm bound to have different feelings different days I'm sure.I'm sure normal positivity will be resumed tomorrow..lol
Just debating whether to start my WWs again as it can only stand me in good stead for the road ahead...as the last couple of weeks I've eaten loads of chocolate and ice cream.

liloandstitch

Hi taxi, like all the others I have heard your news, and am shocked and concerned for you. I was diagnosed with Cervical cancer Christmas 2008, and the shock and fear I felt will remain with me for the rest of my life. It was at the same time as Jade Goody, and I thought that I was going to die. It did take time to have all the tests and scans and things sorted, and it took 2 months for me to get through the system and have my surgery. But I got there, and the delay was because I wanted to explore all my options and retain my fertility if humanly possible. I was lucky to be referred to a wonderful professor who carrys out fertility sparing surgery in suitable cases - many nailbiting tests to find out if I qualified - medically fortunately yes, although I was too old and the type of cancer I had was a rarer form, he agreed to go ahead anyway. I have been in remission for a year with every hope that that will continue and if I am lucky enough to have another child then that is in Gods hands. I am now determined to enjoy my life in full, and smell the flowers and feel the wind - very liberating.

I found that it was the little things that bothered me far more than the big things, so dont be afraid to stand your ground and look for other ideas if something is important to you. It isnt always possible, but often there is more than one way of doing something and you are offered the usual way but not necessarily the only way iyswim. Try not to underestimate the impact of little things, if you like certain things then indulge yourself, it really does help you to feel special to yourself - if you want to buy a new magazine/packet of biscuits/outfit/whatever every day you are in hospital - DO IT! I dont mean dont worry about the money, but make sure that you put yourself and your OH first, and if it makes you happy go for it.

If I can be of any help in any way, please pm me

Love and hugs, lilo

taxi73

Thanks Lilo...glad to see you have been in remission for a year...that's wonderful.

I have been looking at things in more perspective since I found the lump...I like to sit in the countryside as it calms me...but can't do that everyday as I can't afford the diesel..lol...
Think I'll feel better once treatment starts...just feel a bit in limbo now.