Not getting tea or coffee!

davetrousers

Good day

It's my GF's cousin's wedding tomorrow. We've found out this week that for the meal (at the reception) that we're not going to be sat with people we know, the idea being that we talk to other people. PMSL

And now we find out we're not going to get a cup of tea or coffee after the meal. It's laughable.

Not my family so I do find it quite funny. Though I do intend to buy my own coffee and then walk around with it, proclaiming it as odd that no coffee was provided.

talulahbeige_2

I think you need to worry about more important things in your life other than missing a cup of coffee and having to talk to a big scary stranger!
Maybe there are people attending the wedding who don't know anybody and the couple getting married thought it would be nice to make it alot more comfortable for them by mixing up the groups. Groups of people who know each other can be very intimidating for some. You never know you may meet someone you like!

snapping_crocodile

Why do you find it funny, it's their day and they are entitled to do what they want. They invited you to share their day with them, not judge them on their choices! Maybe they don't like tea and coffee....or maybe they were trying to say a few pennies? With regards to sitting with people you dont know, if you don't find it easy talking to new people, or if you don't get on with them, you only have to sit with them for a short period, after the meal you can go off and talk to others

roxalana

I can see that not getting a free cup of coffee may seem like you are not being well looked after/ it has been poorly planned, but please spare a thought for the people that did plan it.

Upon planning my own wedding, I have been surprised at the seemingly reasonable requests that venues seem to think are absolutely ludicrous! "What - you would like at least 70% of your guests to have a seat at your wedding? Really?"

A friend of mine got told 5 days before her wedding, where the buffet had been booked 10 months in advance that as she had agreed a buffet for 70 of her 100 guests (which is the normal ratio - plus she also had a hog roast) they would only provide her with 70 plates and sets of cutlery...

I have also been to weddings where we were deliberately sat with people we didn't know (although we aren't doing this at our wedding). I am quite shy so was very nervous about this but my fears were unfounded (even though I was at a table of non native english speakers!) and I had plenty of time to mingle at non formal parts of the day with people I did know.

All I will add is - if you are going to go to a wedding with an attitude it is likely to be an unenjoyable shambles, then you will probably have a bad time - if you go in with an open mind, you may find that you enjoy it!

lindaatno9

davetrousers wrote: »

Good day

It's my GF's cousin's wedding tomorrow. We've found out this week that for the meal (at the reception) that we're not going to be sat with people we know, the idea being that we talk to other people. PMSL.

Why is that funny?

davetrousers wrote: »

And now we find out we're not going to get a cup of tea or coffee after the meal. It's laughable.

Not my family so I do find it quite funny. Though I do intend to buy my own coffee and then walk around with it, proclaiming it as odd that no coffee was provided.

And why would you want to do that at someone elses wedding?

lindaatno9

roxalana wrote: »

All I will add is - if you are going to go to a wedding with an attitude it is likely to be an unenjoyable shambles, then you will probably have a bad time - if you go in with an open mind, you may find that you enjoy it!

Maybe they should decide not to go and spare the couple the expense. Or even invite someone they really do want there and who won't be bothered by not having coffee!!

GettingHitched

I cant believe someone would be so petty, and insensitive at someone elses wedding

Stephb1986_2

If your that bothered about a cup of tea or coffee maybe you should take your own kettle and make a drink for everyone if you think they are going to be that shocked at not getting one!

You should be happy that you was invited. I hope that the bride doesn't read this board because if it was me I would be rather upset and then you show your two face tomorrow.

What a bloody cheek!

More front than Blackpool!!!

lindaatno9

Stephb1986 wrote: »

More front than Blackpool!!!

With the lights on!!!!!!

underlay_guru

Methinks the OP is bored at work and has posted this for a bit of a laugh...

...is that right Mr davetrousers?

lindaatno9

Totally mr Guru. But we like to keep our posters entertained. :beer: