Going out on a date

alyth

financegirl wrote: »

also, why would anyone take their kids along to their first date???

doesn't seem fair on them at all.

you could meet alone after work.lunchbreak etc, there is always sometimes some spare time. I find it very strange that kids would be dragged along on a date

!!!!!! - you're in the middle of a divorce, you have two kids yet you want to go on a date with someone who has two kids and she wants to bring them along as well - how complicated can your life get?

Total agree, is your date looking for a new daddy, why on earth would someone bring their kids along on a date, you want to get to know the person first, then introduce the kids - slowly!

I would suggest sorting out your own situation before starting dating, let alone someone with two kids of such a wide age gap which suggests they have seperate fathers.

MrsE_2

alyth wrote: »

I would suggest sorting out your own situation before starting dating, let alone someone with two kids of such a wide age gap which suggests they have seperate fathers.

:eek::eek::eek::eek::eek:

Judgemental:rolleyes:

alyth

wait for the OP to reply - unfortunately probably true though!

galvanizersbaby

MrsE wrote: »

:eek::eek::eek::eek::eek:

Judgemental:rolleyes:

Yep! OP asked for ideas on where to take them not judgements and a lecture

galvanizersbaby

alyth wrote: »

wait for the OP to reply - unfortunately probably true though!

Perhaps OP hasn't been able to establish the paternity of the children in question yet for you :rolleyes:

jack*tigger

In answer tot he original question - how about a soft play area. Big kid can run around. Baby can have a little crawl, you can chat with Mum ! Job done !

barnaby-bear

Floss wrote: »

This may cast a little light on the situation.... here

And TBH, I think it is a bit quick.....but as already noted, we do not know the whole story, only the part that the OP has given.

It wasn't clear if they've been separated 10 hours or 10 months TBH.... I think he was asking about finalising it and certainly sounds like they are living separately

newcook

does the woman see it as a date or is she thinking its more that you need a friend to talk to while you go through your divorce and bringing the kids along to prove its not a date...

RickHoughton

financegirl wrote: »

you're not wasting any time are you?

Why don't you sort out your own divorce, your children, before seeing another woman and trying to play perfect daddy to kids you don't even know!!

Why should I waste time?? Should I become a monk just because my soon to be ex wife is a !!!!!!?? Or should I carry on with my life and try to find happyness again?? Just because I'm getting a divorce doesn't mean my life should stop surely, and I'm not trying to play perfect daddy to anyones kids apart from my own.

Floss wrote: »

This may cast a little light on the situation.... here

And TBH, I think it is a bit quick.....but as already noted, we do not know the whole story, only the part that the OP has given.

Too quick?? Maybe you could tell me how long I've been seperated then?? Oh hang on, you can't, so do me a favour and shut up. I was asking for advice on where to go for a date, not for people to judge me for moving on too fast, or dating a woman, who has had a life in the past and has a couple of kids from it.
As was said by someone else, I did mention in the first post that I was getting a divorce.


Thanks to all the posters that have given some good ideas.
The rest of you, well, I can't write what I really want to.

RickHoughton

alyth wrote: »

wait for the OP to reply - unfortunately probably true though!

What difference does it make whether the kids have different fathers?? I'm sure there are countless women out there that have 3 or 4 kids by different blokes, all because they've made a bad choice in their life, or because an ex has died or something. Why should that stop people having other children because they aren't in the relationship that bought them their first child??