why do we go from one crisis to another?

bunnybaby_2

its either financial or personal?

the past 6 years have been crap one way or another and some days i feel that i have just had enough!

why cant we get a lucky break for a change?

lynzpower

Aww whats happened hun xx

bunnybaby_2

too many things to mention

maybe one day i will write a book

Broken_hearted

We go from one challenge to the next and we learn to be better stronger people. You can do it without their help, everyone here will help you.

Ceri_2

know how you feel. Feel like I am going from one bad thing to another and all at the moment are to do with work, tax codes & paying out for things that have to be done (Car, glasses etc) I'm feeling really down at the moment but am sure I will feel better in 2010

dottyanne

I think we all have bad times in our lives, but money worries etc can take us down to the depths of despair - ive had crappy things happen to me throughout my life, im 33 so i guess theres a lot more good and bad to come my way before i pop my clogs, however, i've never felt so bad as i did before i had my lightbulb moment and i cant wait to be debt free - i think that will be a monumental day i wont ever forget!!

ceegee

Because life can be a right pain in the ****, that's why. I know exactly where you are coming from. You have to have hope. You must hang on and trust that things will improve. It is very hard, things have been going from bad to worse for me for 12 years....it just goes piling on and on and on. And you look at other people and you think "why are they doing alright? Why do they have all the good luck? I work hard and do everything rght and yet still it goes from bad to worse."

I don't know why it works out that way.....it just does. Please try and take comfort that there are others in the same boat. Come on here and have a good old whinge if it helps! I do!! Sometimes I feel I only come on here to have a good old moan, but then I see others in the same boat and I realise that it ain't just me. There are lots of people who are in the same boat and feel exactly the same way!

:coffee: :grouphug:

bunnybaby_2

thanks i just feel we are always treading water and every now and again someone pushes us back under!

it just seems like this is it forever..

heppy23

I've read a book called "The luck factor" by Richard Wiseman. He basically says that so called "lucky" people tend to attract good things happening to them because of their outlook on life and their attitude to risk.
So called "unlucky" people miss out on things because they have a negative outlook.

I am a firm believer in self fulfilling prophecies - that is if you go round saying everything is awful then it tends to stay that way because you get trapped in certain behaviour patterns.

dippy-dora_2

I think it's just life. It's how we deal with it that matters, try and take each situation as a challenge and believe you are the greatest at challenges, nothing can beat you!

i find this mentality helps a great deal.

I also have a saying 'Will it matter in a hundred years' and 'In the scale of the universe does it matter?' Well, it might but putting things in perspective can help, even by writing down your challenges and looking at them from a different angle can help you get in the right mindset to work on sorting them out....well this is the theory anyway!

Ceri_2

heppy23 wrote:

I've read a book called "The luck factor" by Richard Wiseman. He basically says that so called "lucky" people tend to attract good things happening to them because of their outlook on life and their attitude to risk.
So called "unlucky" people miss out on things because they have a negative outlook.

I am a firm believer in self fulfilling prophecies - that is if you go round saying everything is awful then it tends to stay that way because you get trapped in certain behaviour patterns.

So my boiler breaking down, needing new glasses, new tyres in the last 3 months is down to me having a negatvie outlook? I don't think so!