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Hi QB

Re Chutney, if you have any left over just give me a call Also, if your father really likes the gift then next year you can go scrumping for ingrediants

You will let us know when and how the op goes won't you? You know we're all here with lots of support for you (hug)

golfiematt

gl with the op.

Pea-pod

Hi there QB

Sorry to hear your news. You must be feeling devastated. Hope all goes OK with the operation (do you have a date for it yet?) and please come back to let us know how you get on.

*Jellie*

That news must have been a shock. I hope it all goes well for you.

Great to see you so close to you MFD

pammyj74

Aww QB, at least you know now the reason and it can be sorted.
A month recouperating is one of the many reasons for becoming MF and being able to without stress.
Heres hoping next year brings you good news and a complete lifestyle change

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Hey QB
sorry to hear about the health issues but maybe a good thing to at least know what is happening? hope you get a date sorted for the OP and here's to lots of new starts in 2011 eh?
take care and have a good xmas
tyo x

pammyj74

Hope you are OK QB,

Just wanted to wish you a

Merry Xmas and hope you have a fab 2011

I hope that becoming MF will take a bit of strain off your situation. Health and Happiness hun xx

*Jellie*

Happy Christmas!
:santa2:

Queen-Bee_2

Dear Everyone

Thank you so much for your posts. I'm nearly MF now - less than a week to go - but the joy that finally I'm going to own my house has been overshadowed by the knowledge I almost certainly won't be able to have children. And I'm failing miserably to be brave about it. The wife of one of OH's friends announced yesterday that she's going to have a third baby in August, and whilst I'm delighted for her, the reality of a future without a family is very hard to bear.

On the MFW front, I popped into the BS today to ask what happens come next Wednesday when my last DD becomes payable. Unfortunately, the manager told me she couldn't give any advice at all re mortgages, couldn't tell me about the pros & cons of leaving a notional £1 on the account and said it was too late to adjust my DD to ensure it didn't take the usual £4k payment (thereby resulting in an overpayment and possible automatic redemption of the mortgage!!!).

Just as well that I had the name of someone in the centralised 'Customer Experience' team, who, when I called them was able to give me most of the info I was after in five minutes flat. Given that BSs are mainly about mortgages, I was surprised that the branch manager's knowledge was so limited.

For the time being, I've arranged to leave my mortgage account open, with a notional £1 balance on it. However... Can anyone tell me what the pros and cons of this arrangement might be?

Thanks in anticipation,
QB

katsu

QB - I don't want to cause upset so please read this as coming with caring thoughts...

The OP might work and you could have children. If not you could look at adoption or fostering. Can you be a fantastic aunty or adopted aunty to a friend's child? What about mentoring schemes for older young people (IYSWIM)? John Lennon is apparently attributed with the quote "life is what happens whilst we are making plans". You can't tell how it will turn out so all you can do is to do your best.

Also - it is perfectly normal to be cross or upset about it sometimes if you want children and it doesn't work out. People here and in real life will support you and understand you feeling sensitive about other people's babies.

All the best.