November.2015.here.we.come

mum2one

Feels like its been an eternity since last posted, but a quick update on everything, guess my 40th bday was an eye-opener, its made me realise that life is important and yes I've had ups and downs, but Rome wasn't built in a day, think thats the best way to describe me!.

We had a nice break in Rhyl, thou went to the local market on the sunday, half way round it rained for England.... but got the bargians - some hair accessories for DD,and socks for me.

We got back from Dom Rep yesterday, absolutely shattered, and sunburnt.... despite suntan lotion!! one tooth less..... we went out to a posh show, got back to the hotel and as I was about to go up the small step, someone trod on the back of my dress and I fell face flat on the step, marble..... came off ok.

It was amazing, DD and I really bonded, shes been a little star, she did so much for me, simple things such as fetching the drinks, getting plates, rubbing cream in, I'm so grateful to her, in a way its made me realise that I'm not superwoman, and have to sometimes accept help.

On a positive note, we raised £500 towards the excursions, which made a massive difference.

Slept like a log, we had overnight flight home, DD had 1hrs sleep, we both went up to bed for a nap yesterday at 4pm, - eventually being woken up at 12 midday!!

Sorted out my bank accounts 2day, paid some bills and checked all online banking, just decided to see how everything goes over the next couple of months with outgoings, and make any decisions from there. xx

mum2one

Update the court saga....

The Cafcass officer was meant to have had their report prepared by mid April, mid March heard nothing, so spoke to solicitor who now has got off his rear and is being helpful, and said not to worry etc.... only whilst sorting through the post 2 letters start and mid April off the Cafcass officer needing to make an urgent appointment - even thou the solicitor gave them the dates in Jan re the holiday, so the cafcass have now had to apply to the court to get the next hearing postponed, luckly the solicitor has kept the court informed off the goings on, - best bit!! one part of me is fuming, the other just wants to stand up and shout don't you realise this is a waste of time-

update off the solicitor - the darling ex - who was due to have his cafcass officer visit cancelled it, and has not made a new appointment, (so much for wanting to be a part of his daughters life), yet until its all been sorted by the court, the solicitor reckons the court won't look favourable on him, - he never took part in the initial telephone consulatation with the cafcass officer, he never attended the court case, and now cancelled his personal visit with the court officer, yet I still have to jump through the hoops until the next court hearing is decided... xx

mum2one

Just realised hit the 3k mark.... getting there very slowly, just wished the cc companies would be nice to existing customers and give us all a 0% loyalty bonus!! guess can dream xx

The_Dragon

Sorry to hear the ex and the courts are still playing games, but :beer: on the Dom Rep holiday (ouch to the tooth though!)

taxi73

Glad you had a great holiday bar the tooth...trust you..lol
You'll look good in the eyes of the court and he'll look the idiot that he is ..but unfortunate that you have to jump through hoops

mum2one

Thank you both xx

taxi73

How's my little lady doing?
Hope your Mum and Dad ok too xxx

mum2one

Mum and Dad are like a kid with a new toy, since the bathroom has been done, the difference is amazing, - just to open the doors and walk into the shower, luxury.
There ova the moon to have DD back, thou she doesn't seem to realise how much they missed her. Bailey has been following her around as if to say your not leaving me again.
Thou he had the life of riley while they were away, he was having steak from the steakpie for his dinner, and he was going to bed for an afternoon nap!!

Madams ok, she still wants to be away, but she said she's glad to be home, she's got over the jet-lag bless her, and very exicted as she got her eggs today, just got a small one from me and then mum + dad. and said we'd get her a little present, she had one of my uncle, and 2 from the neighbours so she's done well. Thou bless her shes going to use some of the choc to make rice crispie cakes to share the chololate.

Think shes looking forward to the three day week next week!!

Think overall we're getting there, just hoping that the court case gets sorted soon, just can't stand it dragging on, - I've just lost the get up and go with Open Uni, - hopefully get my mo-jo back, start the dentist saga next week. xx

taxi73

Glad Mum and Dad are happy with the new bathroom.
I too hope the court case is finished soon and good luck at the dentist.

mum2one

Sorted at the dentist, bless him he's put a temporary cap on it, and go back May and June to get the crown fitted on other tooth, so it will be a case of 3 in one.

Got doc's next week, - more for the check in to see how everything is going, then Thurs got my appointment with the CAFCASS officer, not looking forward to that, as know that I'll have to take her ladyship to see them next, makes me laugh, he has cancelled all his appointments (hoping he's changed his mind and just done it to upset me), but I still have to jump through hoops until the court system decide otherwise......

I've just had enough with it all, thought it was post holiday blues, but I guess since all this saga with the court case, etc its just thrown me so behind with Open Uni, its at the stage where i just can't catch up, so looks like I'll try an finish the sports course, one assisgnment nxt week, then the last one 11th June, but the business course started in Feb, 7 weeks behind, the 2nd assisgnment I had to take a substitition, and the next one just haven'r even done the prep work. I know been worrying re money etc, but can see no other option but to drop out of the course and look at taking a year out of Open Uni that get me time to get this saga sorted.

I just feel like chucking things in and taking the easy route, but I'm just not coping with it all, just juggling too many balls in the air.

Waiting to see what happens with my DLA as thats up for renewal this yr, I've had a lady from the welfare office fill it in for me, I just couldn't get my head around it, and she said it could be turned down, but don't worry were appeal, its just like another bow thats breaking the camels back. I can see myself going down the slippery road,but am trying to keep aflaot.

Gone through finances, at the mo its just head above water, but with all the changes etc, I've mad some enquiries about help, one option that was recommended was bankruptcy, but don't want to go down that route, I want to pay the debts, - I guess the last yr, paying it off, then spending it to live on. Hopefully can get a DMP sorted, just mean the debts take longer, but at least be taking responsibility for them,

I know they say life begins at 40, but I guess with the quiteness of the hol, to the extent that it was just me and her ladyship, she didn't want to watch any entertainment, and was in bed by 945pm reading, gave me a lot of thinking time, and I need to put myself and my health first.

I feel positive that I have come to some decisions, while in principle, just doing the admitting there is a problem.

So to address-
Finish the sports course

Cancel businesses course

Postpone next yrs courses (or at least 1st course)

Attend the CAFCASS meeting, and see if I can get any answers

Hope the court will see sense and take into account that I have done everything by the book, yet he does nothing and still gets given the benefit of the doubt

Money - seek professional help

Credit cards - need to cut them up

Money - do a really suitable budget, - took some advice from cccs website and juggled figures and ideas around.

Get the dentist appointments sorted - get crowns fitted

go for that wonderful smear - I'm still on yearly repeats - precancerous cells on 2000, and even thou hate them with advengace - have some "downstairs problems" - which means a smear can take 30mins to get sorted....

Address me weight, - guess some of the hol photos really given me a kick up the bum, but guess need to get in the right frame of mind.

I know it sounds negative, but i'm trying to look for the positive and think that i'm getting my head together, and stopping being such a stubborn boo-boo.

Main thing I do is run away - my holidays have always been the escapism, but were away in summer holidays with family, (cheaper time), but bar Prague (bday prezzie), I don't want to have anything booked till I'm in a stronger financial position to do something.

off to bed, - shattered, haven't done much, but hate drills at dentist, even thou it was anithesitated - makes me yucky.

Hopefully now, admitted that need some help, can go and move forwad, not going to be easy - but I've taken the 1st step. xx