Neighbourhood watch..iv'e upset a neighbour..

00ec25

Debt_Free_Chick wrote: »

If your role is Neighbourhood Watch co-ordinator, then be clear about what's involved - effectively, crime prevention, but without any real powers.

Some of the issues that you have been dragged in to seem to be matters that the HA should be sorting out - no wonder you have their "full support" if you're doing their job for them, unpaid!!!

as was discussed on the previous thread the OP appears to have overstepped the mark of what others would see as the (restricted) role of a crime related neighbourhood watch co-ordinator

what these continued posts asking for advice on how to behave as an amateur social worker dealing with other people's problems have to do with a board related to buying, renting and selling property is another matter...

resign and move on

Debt_Free_Chick

gabyjane wrote: »

So which other side would you like to hear then?

Basically a few neighbours have emailed me with regards mainly to this lady who sent me the letter, they have problems with her as she parks her numerous cars in thier spaces..opposite thier drives etc. I then forward to the HA and job done, most residents are happy from what i hear but she is obviously not..guily concience springs to mind!

As a suggestion, rather than forward these to the HA, you could reply to the residents and suggest they take the matter up directly with the HA.

Two reasons - you don't want to be seen to be "supporting" or agreeing with those complaining. And, in the future, you don't really want them contacting you about matters outside of your NW role. If you keep "helping", they'll keep involving you.

When people mention two sides of the story, it sometimes helps to imagine how this situation appears to the lady who wrote the letter. Perhaps she sees this as a matter between herself and the other neighbours affected, but that you have "intervened" and "reported her formally" to the HA?

You, on the other hand, see nothing wrong in what you've done - but I think the other neighbours have dragged you in to a dispute that does not involve you. If you don't want to be involved, then just quietly back out ....

Running_Horse

gabyjane wrote: »

So which other side would you like to hear then?

Neither. It's none of my business. What exactly are you hoping people here will tell you? This is not Ricky Lake where you get a baying audience on your side.

barnaby-bear

00ec25 wrote: »

as was discussed on the previous thread the OP appears to have overstepped the mark of what others would see as the (restricted) role of a crime related neighbourhood watch co-ordinator

what these continued posts asking for advice on how to behave as an amateur social worker dealing with other people's problems have to do with a board related to buying, renting and selling property is another matter...

resign and move on

Children playing football *IN THE PARK" = "antisocial behaviour"

Somebody in road, parked in front of someone else's house = "Criminal" (neighbourhood watch is about crime prevention not civil squabbles)

Personally if I lived in the OP I'd be more concerned about the parents disrupting other kids education by insisting on term time holidays.... but that's the OP's "own business"..... :rolleyes:

gabyjane

Id'e have gone to get the park sign put up anyway regardless of nhw..the parking is not my issue/prob and i ahve to say it has all come to a close as im not going any further with it..i am cross the local copper who patrols the area has not ticketed her car numerous times for the sake of others and i am also cross that the HA suggested i sent a letter out when all it has done is cause grief.
Don't worry im going to sit back and watch the fun from now on!

Debt_Free_Chick

gabyjane wrote: »

Id'e have gone to get the park sign put up anyway regardless of nhw..

Then it's important that you make it clear that you support this personally, but that your support is not the official support of NHW

the parking is not my issue/prob and i ahve to say it has all come to a close as im not going any further with it..i am cross the local copper who patrols the area has not ticketed her car numerous times for the sake of others

The Police will have no power to ticket her car if it's on HA-owned land - it will be the HA's problem. And therefore, your annoyance is personal and not the official stance of NHW. The NHW response is that "this is nothing to do with us and can only be addressed by the HA"

and i am also cross that the HA suggested i sent a letter out when all it has done is cause grief.

I think the HA have "had you" here, by getting you to front an issue which does not involve you. Beware for the future and push-back on matters which are their responsibilty otherwise they shall be very happy for you to take the flak on their behalf!!

Don't worry im going to sit back and watch the fun from now on!

I don't blame you!

gabyjane

Well just rung the HA as there is a meeting on friday which i cannot attend..it was a very informative call tbh..i told him i was no longer getting involved with the roles as posted above..the letter i had was not what i wanted/expected and was tbh downright awful and that was that..he kind of went quiet and then said i'm so sorry as she has had a similar one off us..will have had it any day..she is in breach of many things in her house and it is being dealt with, he thought id'e meet him fri though so didnt tell me..i was almost in tears as obviously someone agrees with me then as i havent reported her for ANYTHING she has got 2 letters coming down on her and knows she is disliked..we will see what happens.

Can i also say AGAIN..it is the neighbours complaining about her not me

LittleMissAspie

wxmlad wrote: »

i dont talk to my neighbours, apart from the odd hello and a smile. I like to keep it that way.

Same here. Four houses here and none of us talk to each other, I don't even know their names. It works fabulously. Half the time I feel like we don't even have any neighbours, it's so peaceful

The easiest route to a stressful life is to get involved in other people's problems.