Neighbourhood watch..iv'e upset a neighbour..

gabyjane

Blacksheep1979 wrote: »

At least the kids are out playing a bit of sport rather than causing trouble or just watching TV. You say you're taking kids in your care there - do you have insurance? And do you think this area should just be kept for your business enterprise and anything that potentially affects this should be banned? Tbh I think you're out of order on that part - the rest seems fair enough though.

I agree! ..sports much better than hanging around in the local arcades etc BUT they don't just kick a football around they literally smack it as hard as they possibly can and mess about with it..again as i said we have lots of lovely areas to play near the park..right outsdie the gates infact so why do they have to do it right by the swings/slides etc..turn the table and take your own 2/3 yr old son or daughter up there would it bother you them not being able to play in a kids playground?..yes i have insurance ill remind the parents of that when i'm sat in A&E having a nose stitched up..

movingforward2010

i dont talk to my neighbours, apart from the odd hello and a smile. I like to keep it that way.

freakyogre

Right, think you know my opinion on this already, but i'm in a typing mood.

I personally wouldn't resign as wouldn't want to give her the satisfaction. I think she knows she has done something wrong by the tone of the letter (I am the OP sister and she's read it to me and quite frankly it is a childish and sarcastic letter). If she didn't think she'd done anything, or thought the original letter was aimed at someone else she would have done what every other neighbour did and file it/bin it/have a b!tch behind closed doors and get on with life. That fact that she has responded is such an unpleasant manners means to me means she's taken it that it's a dig at her and responded in such a way.

I think the neighbour who has made the complaint against them (who is now being friendly with them) needs to grow some balls and discuss the issue direct with them rather than using you as a go between. If they're not prepared to do this, then frankly, they should stop whining about it.
Maybe bring it up in the next meeting and say you have tried to resolve an issue between 'certain people' and you received abuse because of it. You never know, it might embarrass her into sorting herself out.

At the end of the day you're only trying to help them and if they're not prepared to accept it, sod them! If they really want it sorting out, they will go and have a word themselves. It isn't affecting you directly so leave them to it and carry on with the real problems that you can help with.


With regards to the balls in the park, no I personally don't think ball games played by 15 year olds should be played in a childrens park as it is dangerous for the younger children in there. It doesn't matter if no one has been hurt yet, there are plenty of other places they can go and do it.
Put it this way, if you sent your young children to a childminder and you knew there were older kids in the same park bashing a ball round, would you be happy to just leave it as no one had been hurt yet? I wouldn't and I don't even like kids! And on the off chance that your child did get hurt (say, knocked off a slide by a stray ball) you're telling me you wouldn't be slightly p'd off with childminder for allowing your child to play in the same park as them? And who would be to blame? (because there's always blame in this day and age) The older kids? The childminder?

If you do resign, i'd expect her to take your place seen as she seems to think she can do a better job herself. If she does, make sure you report every little thing to her as she seems to have so much time on her hands.

gabyjane

wxmlad wrote: »

i dont talk to my neighbours, apart from the odd hello and a smile. I like to keep it that way.

Ha!! see we do have lovely neighbours and we speak to most of them as it goes! we are all youngish tbh..maybe this woman feels a bit daunted by us all!!

movingforward2010

gabyjane wrote: »

Ha!! see we do have lovely neighbours and we speak to most of them as it goes! we are all youngish tbh..maybe this woman feels a bit daunted by us all!!

probably, im only 28. the older ones round here dont do anything apart from stand around gossiping, with nothing else to do, suppose i feel sorry for them, but i still dont talk to them

movingforward2010

from seeing things in our estate things always get messy( big big fall outs, hate campaigns) when parents get involved in kids arguments . I'd happily mow them all down:rotfl:

freakyogre

wxmlad wrote: »

from seeing things in our estate things always get messy( big big fall outs, hate campaigns) when parents get involved in kids arguments . I'd happily mow them all down:rotfl:

Can I be your neighbour? We could join forces and play kiddy bowling!

Running_Horse

gabyjane wrote: »

Well some are as there are replys to show that! I do enjoy my life thanks it seems to be my neighbours who don't!! i'm just the go between.

There are two sides to every story. So far we have heard one.

gabyjane

So which other side would you like to hear then?

Basically a few neighbours have emailed me with regards mainly to this lady who sent me the letter, they have problems with her as she parks her numerous cars in thier spaces..opposite thier drives etc. I then forward to the HA and job done, most residents are happy from what i hear but she is obviously not..guily concience springs to mind!

Of course from her point of view and only going by the letter as she is always 'too busiy' too attend the meetings she thinks and has told me in no uncertain terms that she can do what she likes..unfortunatly the neighbours with probs have photos of her in thier drive etc so she may thnk she is clever swapping numerous vehicles round all the time but the proof is there for all to see!..complete disrespect is how i see it BUT it is NOT my drive it affetcs so i have no need to fall out with her tbh, she has just taken her annoyance out on me as i'm the one who mediates/trys to sort..now i have calmed down! i see her as very immature and selfish..how proud she must feel!

Debt_Free_Chick

I'm confused as to your role but, whatever it is, you need to be clear about what you are supposed to get involved in - and what you are not to get involved in. Then stick to your role. If you start getting involved in issues that your role does not cover, you are on a hiding to nothing, as some (many?) will see that you are "poking your nose in" or simply waging a personal war against others.

If your role is Neighbourhood Watch co-ordinator, then be clear about what's involved - effectively, crime prevention, but without any real powers.

Some of the issues that you have been dragged in to seem to be matters that the HA should be sorting out - no wonder you have their "full support" if you're doing their job for them, unpaid!!!

Clarify your role and then stick to it - then any complaints against you can be justified as you are "doing your job". And if residents raise complaints about issues outside your role e.g. rubbish, parking annoyances, you can simply explain that your role does not cover this and they should take the issue to the Council/HA or whoever is responsible. You can not deal with matters where you have no powers/authority and if you take these issues on, you are really on a hiding to nothing - you won't be able to "resolve" them and you may find that you are making promises you simply can not keep.

I speak as a former Parish Council Clerk who frequently had all sorts of issues raised with me, which were nothing to do with the Parish Council. All I could do was to firmly, but politely, tell the resident to take the matter up with "xyz" (the appropriate authority).

As for the current letter of complaint, your best bet is to write back and thank them for their comments, which will be taken into account - that means nothing more than "I hear what you say"