Weekly Flylady Thread 27th July 2009

hex2

hugs for you and yours Dolly - doesn't matter if it is expected, still hurts. Better IMHO to have memories of her as she was.

Jinky/Greenbee - Totally OT but I got two Jamaican Ginger cakes for £1 in the co-op so have just written out that sticky toffee recipe to take with me next week - can't make everyone else suffer just because I have no self control can I?

Sitting here is not getting anything done. Anyone up for yet another HHC starting NOW?

wilf55

Dolly so sorry i had four grandparents up to 7 years ago now have none...i miss them all so desperatly and still have tears every once in a while even now...i even talk to them still.....in my head!!

you will soon begin to remember happy times with them not the face that you have lost them

have an easy few days and take some time to think happy things!!

love and hugs to youxxx

Dustykitten

SarahShattered wrote: »

Dollyday so sorry to hear that sad news. FWIW, with regards to what your LO sees, try not to worry too much about being upset in front of her. It is sad, and you are upset, it's ok to show that you're sad because you've lost someone you love. ... but, that's just my opinion. (((hugs)))

This is just what I'd say too

dollydaydream07 wrote: »

she is only 3, and the only time my nan saw her was when DD was about 2 months old, i feel so awful for not going to see my nan more when i was home visiting, i just didn't like to see her going downhill so now feel awful as DD has never got to know her and feel awful as we knew it was going to happen in the next few weeks and i never went to see her before she has gone.
any ideas on how to deal with this and DD?

Thanks everyone for your kind words xx

Oh Dolly huge hugs sweetie. My Nan died earlier this year and she lived in the same town as me but I still felt guilty that I didn't visit more especially in the last weeks of her life but she knew I loved her, just like your Nan did. Time will help, but it is too raw right now, be kind to yourself.

Re your LO it is fine to be upset and please try to be honest with her. DS3 was not quite 3 when my Dad died. Obviously I was dreadfully upset but I told him the truth and hugged him. They need to learn how final death is and they will ask difficult questions but you owe it to them to be honest and answer. Children of that age are often fascinated by death. DS3 wanted to know what happens to the body, when does it become a skeleton, what happens to the person. For me I explained that our body is just our shell and we go upto heaven without it for we are who we are inside. I'm not really religious at all but it gave him an answer he was happy with. We did go through a few days of him simply saying he wanted Grandad back and then after a short time he would say we don't need to be sad anymore because it was a long time ago.

Lots of love to you, your Mum and your LO xxx

wilf55

sun starting to shine here but really windy washing out ds1 now out and moved off sofa

moved sofa and think i have found a dead dog under it....sorry just the dog hairs that have accumulated under it

ds1 been doing that much golf and we have been away at golf events that nothing has really been done

trying to catch up today at least a little

debs

lbnblbnb

hex2 wrote: »

Anyone up for yet another HHC starting NOW?

Bit late (1.13) but YES! GO!

SarahShattered

Dustykitten wrote: »

Oh Dolly huge hugs sweetie. My Nan died earlier this year and she lived in the same town as me but I still felt guilty that I didn't visit more especially in the last weeks of her life but she knew I loved her, just like your Nan did. Time will help, but it is too raw right now, be kind to yourself.

Re your LO it is fine to be upset and please try to be honest with her. DS3 was not quite 3 when my Dad died. Obviously I was dreadfully upset but I told him the truth and hugged him. They need to learn how final death is and they will ask difficult questions but you owe it to them to be honest and answer. Children of that age are often fascinated by death. DS3 wanted to know what happens to the body, when does it become a skeleton, what happens to the person. For me I explained that our body is just our shell and we go upto heaven without it for we are who we are inside. I'm not really religious at all but it gave him an answer he was happy with. We did go through a few days of him simply saying he wanted Grandad back and then after a short time he would say we don't need to be sad anymore because it was a long time ago.

Lots of love to you, your Mum and your LO xxx

Dusty.... that's what I'd have liked to have said! Beautifully put my wise friend.

Dustykitten

Magnificent Monday ~ Scabby Crabby kitchen!
all done

Tuesday Terrors ~ Master bedroom and landing

Strip the bed and wash the bedding and replace before bedtime!!
Vacuum the floors
Sort a pile of junk on the landing
dust and Deweb

Wednesday Warblings ~ Living room, hall and stairs!
All done

Extras
Make an appointment to have boilers serviced now..
15 minutes filing/shredding
Ring decorate ring Jakes mums

Thursday Thrills ~ Bathroom, Loo and Study
Level One
Set the pc to defrag/virusscan and go clear the floors..
Level two
Declutter the floors and empty the bins
Clean the bath, shower, loo, basins.. etc etc
Vacuum/mop floors
Level three
Wash the bath mats and shower curtains if needed
15 minutes filing

Extras
Catch up on phone calls you need to make
Delete 50 useless emails/links

New Weekly Challenge... You will get a heart for each day you complete the challenge..


Monday * List 5 of the items you should have found and photographed for rehoming/sale...
Tuesday * List/fling 5 more of the items you have ready to leave
Wednesday * List/fling another 5 items .. and get the tax credits renewal sorted!!!
Thursday * List/fling another 5 items.. have you done the tax credits yet??

johanne

DollyDD - ((hugs)) ... i cant give any advice as not had to deal with that yet as DD is only 15 months..... but my FIL died 4 days before my due date and it rips me apart he never got to meet her or get to know her and ive gone through all the what ifs.....so i can sympathise there. ((massive hugs))


Not flying today by looks of it as have to work.... trekking round the streets collecting soggy avon books cos it was dancing down with rain this morning and thunder and lightning - hopefully everyone sealed the plastic bags properly before leaving them on their steps so the books/orders themselves wont be wet... but i'll end up soaked and my hands covered in mud off the wet bags! :rolleyes: (or i'll end up knocking on 50 front doors cos people wont have put them out so it will take foooorever to collect them!!:rolleyes: ) All this for £20 a week?? Cant wait till im off income support and can keep all my earnings!! :mad:

hex2

Slowly plodding through but I need to do another HHC at 2.30 if anyone wants to join me?

kassey

Thursday Thrills ~ Bathroom, Loo and Study All done Soappie :j:D
Sorry for your loss DollyDD.