Are you a Bridezilla?

Yellowbug

i agree...a guest in a white dress would probably push me over the edge slightly lol

id be cool with black tho, but thats cus I know a lot of my friends are attached to black

maggie.....im pretty sure id still be your friend if you said that to me lol





oh i bet this makes me a bridezilla......i told my friends/close family, that if the p**s me off they wont be coming/or we will just !!!!!! off and do it without them lol

IWantToBeFree_2

maggie111 wrote: »

Charming!

I don't think I've said anything that awful
1) I wanted to go to a spa that I have been to previously and love, on my hen night with my 4 closest friends
2) I would be disappointed if someone turned up to our wedding and didn't bring a card
3) I didn't want anyone to wear a white dress.

I'd like to think I'd have at least 1 friend left!!

It's what you do with your beliefs that count, not the fact that you have them. I'm sure I'd be shocked living a few days in your mind.

Thanks to the other "bridezillas" who posted after me!

You wanted your BMs to go to an expensive spa, not always easiest thing to do in this current economic climate, you expected guests to bring gifts (not just cards) and also wanted to dictate what they wore.....

I personally couldn't care less what anyone wore to my wedding, and I didn't expect (or even want) any gifts! All I wanted was a nice day, and for my family and friends to share it with me, and the only think I expected of them was to behave themselves!

maggie111

I wanted my BMs to go to an expensive spa yes. What's wrong with that? Had I refused to have them as my BMs if they didn't, threw a hissy fit, or anything different then fine, that would make me a bad person. I said "£xxx hen weekend all in - is that ok?" and they said no, so I didn't do it! In fact, 2 said no and I didn't go ahead without them.

And don't presume to know when it was - in the economic climate 2 years ago, and with the jobs they had it wasn't totally unreasonable. They simply had other priorities for cash, and that's ok - I'm hardly cross about it.

For the wedding I was planning, yes I would have been disappointed if some of the guests turned up without presents. There are some who would have had no reason not to bring one, except through meanness and that would have bothered me. For the wedding I am planning now I expect no presents. And the reason I wanted presents was for purely sentimental reasons, I would love to pass things down to my children, I have a very cherished wedding present of my grandma's.

And I didn't "dictate" what I wanted them to wear, I had my own private opinions of what is acceptable wedding attire. I assume you have limits somewhere as well.

I could easily spout off that I'm having a small, simple wedding and I want to make the guests life as easy as possible - which is true. But it would be false to say some "bridezilla" thoughts hadn't crossed my mind

Other people may argue against this, and I really don't care - I've tried to explain as best I can as to why I had these thoughts. Don't tell me you never had any bridezilla moments as I simply wont believe you

rinroo

I dont think I have done anything Bridezilla (ish) but then again I watch Bridezillas on wedding tv, and so I go off that!!

I did drop two bridesmaids - my sisters but they were not talking to me - non wedding related - completely not even my fault!, even after I offered the olive branch on more than 3 occasions they snubbed it -so tuff!

We are not asking for anything - no gift lists - thats not why were getting married.

I will be miffed if anyone wears white - but I know my sister will given half the chance!

My bridesmaids chose their own dresses, I did pick the colour, they are choosing their own shoes and hairstyles.

I refuse to invite cousins I never see - why should we spend the money?

I wanted to go abroad for my hen do, but all of my friends (and me included) have small children, so we can't. No biggy we'll do something else.

I do/ and will get a bit fussy over attention to detail, like the centrepieces, invites, hair, flowers,cake etc..but only because of the amount they cost and the overall look is important to me.

If the above make me a bridezilla - then Great I dont care, It's our wedding and it will be planned as we wish!

debs2327

mshelsbels wrote: »

Dont think I'm a bridezilla with expectations from my guests (I dont have any expectations - just want them to come and have a wonderful time)
I do, however, get a bit 'bridezillery' with other things! Like the wedding car needs to be clean, like the particular champagne cocktail we're having, like to specific table layout .....to name but a few!
If thats being a bridezilla then guilty as charged....I like to think of it as being a control freak!

i totally agree cos this is me im obsessed about things being symetrical or all being the same or to the colour scheme , as for the tables well i thought i had the tables sorted in my head but after going to a family party last night at the place where we having our reception im going to have to re think them cos they have round tables not square or oblong so pushing them together like id hoped isnt going to look right (its in a social club a club where h2b`s family has gone to for generations lovely little pub) so i might get a little bridezilla about how to have the tables , but i definatly dont expect my bridal party to buy anything xx

IWantToBeFree_2

maggie111 wrote: »

Other people may argue against this, and I really don't care - I've tried to explain as best I can as to why I had these thoughts. Don't tell me you never had any bridezilla moments as I simply wont believe you

Your putting upa good fight for someone who doesn't care!

I honestly don't think I had any bridezilla moments, the only moment I came close was when my bridesmaids were doing my head in about whether they wanted to wear straps or not on their dresses and changing their minds at the last minute. But instead of putting my foot down, I bent over backwards so I could try and give them what they wanted.

I just wanted everything to go smooth, and that meant not getting worked up and going all bridezilla. Even the night before the wedding I could have gone mad, my flowers were the wrong colour, I could have got them 'right' but it would have been a lot of work so I just went with the colour they were.

Maybe I was too laid back, but much rather that than turning into a nightmare bride.

kr15snw

I would like to say I am not a bridezilla, but I have invited people who live hours away to our wedding. So obviously they will need to stay the night, but that kind of cant be helped!

Guests can wear an old outfit, but I do ask that they at least wear weddingy attire.

I have asked my friends to come on a hen weekend (about £100 each). My bridesmaids have instantly agreed and other friends have done the same. If they cant make it then no problem, they can come on the night out in my home town instead

We are asking for gifts towards our honeymoon, as people have started to ask us what we want. We dont need anything for the house, and everyone whos invited has agreed this is a beautiful idea

heatherbelle_3

oh maggie - I'll back you up!

I'm going away to Marbella on my hen weekend and I would like my BMs to come but if they cant afford it then I wont worry about it - we'll do a night out in the UK too. I've organised acommodation through my timeshare so that is paid for and we are flying ryanair so I've made it as affordable as possible and they have a year to save up if they choose to.

I would be disapointed if someone turned up without a card/present. We have gone to all our weddings with gifts and a card with well wishes. Our gift list will have everything from small things up to large gifts that i know aunts and uncles are putting money together to buy.

I don't expect new outfits - I have a dress I wear to weddings amogst different circles of friends - noone knows its not new. As long as they are smart -its a wedding not a trip to the pub!

But if someone didnt bring a card or wasn't smart I wouldnt say anything I would keep my opinions to myself.

So maggie you aren't alone!

sunshinejoclaire

I was the eaxct opposite with my hen night! Some of my nearest and dearest wanted a pricey weekend away etc, but a couple of my girlfriends have small children so I put my foot down about it being a cheap night out!

As it was we went out in 80's gear (the girls wanted classy 80's, but as soon as they told me the theme i got the tackiest costume ever and most of them followed suit lol!) - I had a blast and made my own tutu

I probably was a bit BZish, but not too bad. I did throw a full on wobbler when a member of the Mr's family turned up to my wedding in a bridesmaids gown wearing a tiara though. I was not happy to say the least..

Sammy_Girl

According to the world of Wikipedia, the definition of a Bridezilla is as follows:

"A generic term used to describe a difficult, unpleasant, perfectionist bride who leaves aggravated family, friends and bridal vendors in her wake. A bridezilla is obsessed with her wedding as a perfect day and will disregard the feelings of the family, bridesmaids and even her groom in her quest for the perfect wedding"

Its not necessarily about the money. You could have a low budget wedding and still be a bridezilla.

If you go by the above definition, then yes I would say that I'm a bridezilla. I know what I want, and loved ones give their opinions, and I politely listen then decide that my way is the best way. I do this without thinking and sometimes I've had to stop myself, because I'm not usually such a control freak and I know I'm being rude but I just can't help it! I think it boils down to the pressure to have the best day of your life, and this pressure manifests in different ways to different people.