Quick Marriage Question

bubbles_2

Funny you should post this..

Just the other day i was thinking about this...

I had ALWAYS planned to get married abroad without any friends/family or parents.. just me and OH .. we had been together years and didnt see the marriage as any more than a peice of paper.

BUT.. a wise man advised us..our parents should be there, it wouldnt be right.

Now im all grown up and i look back and think..how RIGHT he was. I def would have regretted doing it now and im sure it would have broken my parents heart deep down.

We threw our reception in a family members back garden under a cheap argos marquee and flew abroad on possibly the best holiday ever thanks to the cheap wedding!

HTH bubs x

Lady_S

Voyager2002 wrote:

What a difficult situation.

Personally, both my wife and I have children from previous marriages. And my feeling is that it is important that the children are present: preferably they should play some part in the ceremony to make it clear that they belong to the family that the wedding creates/celebrates. It is sad that the ex-partner cannot accept the new marriage, but such a person has no right to mess up your wedding.

The only idea we can come up with is to tell everyone we are having an engagement party. Invite people along. But the kids a nice dress/whatever they want for the party and then when everyone is assembled at my house, tell them what is really happening and run down to the nearest registry office.

In a way I am angry I am being cheated out of having the do I want, but on the other know that I will be angry if she ballsed up the proccedings.

Callisto

I just couldn't get married without my Mum being there. She's been brilliant and a real support to me over the years and I want her to be involved in the planning and the day.

We were considering getting married in Cyprus as it seemed much cheaper, but OH's Mum refused to fly, so we are now staying in the UK to marry. I think my main fear is having to say my vows in front of loads of people... I know I would hate the attention, so I am deliberately looking for a small venue and keeping the guest list to 40 maximum, so that means we can only invite the most important people and we literally won't have room to invite cousins we don't see from one year to the next and people we don't know.

I agree with other posts that weddings can be done cheaply in this country, it just depends how much you are willing to compromise. The most important things to us is to have a nice civil venue and good food. We are compromising by having an M&S cake, no vintage car, no DJ, making own stationery, tiara and jewellery and Mum's friend will do the photography.

shellybelly_3

i've decided my mum should be there, so we are looking at Gretna Green, don't know ifs its 'romantic' or 'chessey' - no offence to anyone who got married there.

We are going to have immediate family there for the day and a meal afterwards then have a reception a few days later.

But if anyone ha any money saving ideas please feel free to let me know!! (we're in Glasgow btw)

System

Sri Lanka is relatively cheap and is a very popular destination. Me and our lass got married there and had a great time. You can even tie in a few nights in the Maldives.

Lenny

across

Callisto wrote:

I just couldn't get married without my Mum being there. She's been brilliant and a real support to me over the years and I want her to be involved in the planning and the day.

We were considering getting married in Cyprus as it seemed much cheaper, but OH's Mum refused to fly, so we are now staying in the UK to marry. I think my main fear is having to say my vows in front of loads of people... I know I would hate the attention, so I am deliberately looking for a small venue and keeping the guest list to 40 maximum, so that means we can only invite the most important people and we literally won't have room to invite cousins we don't see from one year to the next and people we don't know.

I agree with other posts that weddings can be done cheaply in this country, it just depends how much you are willing to compromise. The most important things to us is to have a nice civil venue and good food. We are compromising by having an M&S cake, no vintage car, no DJ, making own stationery, tiara and jewellery and Mum's friend will do the photography.

dont worry about being the star for the day it is great fun there is nothing quite like it when you walk up the aisle and everyone looks rounds to see how beautiful you look it is great the vows are brilliant you wont notice anybody else but your husband (and your lovely ring that you cant wait to wear of course!!)when you say them it is great! the nicest moment of all for me was when the church door opened at the end of the aisle the bell was ringing the light came in on us and we walked outside into the sunshine with a feeling of a new life ahead of us it is perfect honest! enjoy it cos it's all downhill after that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!smelly nappies perhaps!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!good luck! :T

Rachie_B

theres no way id have gotten married without my mum there! if we had planned on getting married abroad, then she got ill we would just have changed plans and had a small wedding over here

but i guess it depends if you are close to your mum or not? and how she'd take it if you were to go ahead and get married abroad without her there?

we toyed with the idea of getting married abroad but when it came down to it we wanted our grandparents there ,2 of whom wouldnt have been able to fly ,so we settled on having a wedding here