Quick Marriage Question

shellybelly_3

Hi

Just wanted a few peoples views on this. Myself and my other half want to get married, but we can't afford anything too fancy.

So we have looked into going abroad and seen some really good deals.

BUT my mum can't travel due to illness..... do you think its unfair on her not to be there (i'm her only daughter and this would be her only time to be the mother of the bride)

What should we do????

Broken_hearted

Get married at home and have a honeymoon later.

Bunnie1982

My brother and my sister in law got married at Shrewsbury Castle (just an example - Civil Ceremony) for £100, never had a reception but hired out a hall in the evening for £50 and got friends and family to help with buffet food (or have heard some people doing fish and chips)

Got my Mum to make the cake (she is now making my wedding cake) a friend to DJ and a friend to take photographs

jenniferpa

Yes it is unfair. Why not have a registry office wedding if you don't want anything fancy?

fsdss

dont do it !!!!

only joking

i think mum should be there, could you try and arrange a small do locally (doesnt have to be a church), then off on honeymoon for the blessing
congrats

Bunnie1982

What sort of budget were you looking at?

kit

This is interesting to read.... I think you should do what you want and not worry about your mum.

This may be an issue for me in the future - I want a tiny wedding, just me, OH and our DD. With 2 witnesses we dont know. However my OH's parents will flip out if we did it this way..... its a shame you cant have 'your day' the way YOU want it.

Eagle_1

shellybelly wrote:

BUT my mum can't travel due to illness..... do you think its unfair on her not to be there (i'm her only daughter and this would be her only time to be the mother of the bride)

I gotta say I think its very unfair in all honesty but you gotta do whats best for you and your partner. Can you honestly feel happy knowing your Mother couldnt attend ? Would your Mother be ok if you had it abroad and her not be there ?

Its a toughy, but in the same situation as you id be having it at home, but we are talking about you and not me....so do what you feel is best.

Miss_Cinnabon

You have got to do what you feel would make you happy, if you really want your mum there then have a little do at home and then go away.

I am also an only daughter but due to costs of weddings etc we have decided just to go to gretna with our kids.

It is hard as i would love my mum to be at my wedding but this is not possible as my bf family would ruin the day for me as they wanted to invite people i didn't want and so on.

It is your day no one else's so do what you want.

fiobee

shellybelly wrote:

BUT my mum can't travel due to illness..... do you think its unfair on her not to be there (i'm her only daughter and this would be her only time to be the mother of the bride)

You should know your mom best - will she be devastated not to be there or will she not be bothered so long as you're happy? My mom wouldn't mind but OH's mom would be really cut up. If you're not sure, ask her. You (hopefully) only get to do this once, so don't regret anything you didn't do.

Doozergirl

Is it a bad illness? It's just that I wanted to do things my way so I waited for the perfect venue but my mum wasn't there anymore to see me get married.

I don't mean to rain on your parade. There's definately a part of me that knows if I'd done it sooner she'd have been there to see her only daughter get married and I'd have been able to share the day with my only mum. :A

What's really important is that you and your fiance are happy. I hope you have a wonderful and long life together. Marriage is great