Alcohol self help thread II

jayne.doe

lewt wrote:

I have an antipodean? colleague

I think al means poss australian or new zealand from somewhere like that.

I love that al thats funny:) I walked home in the snow its so exhilarating, i loved it:)

Al_Mac

lewt honesty is great, but if you need a job, you probably need to be less honest. Doesn't mean you have to lie.

If it hurts your chances, just don't mention it

I know most of us wouldn't hold it against you, but we aren't as narrow minded

jayne.doe

I agree chances are they wont find out. I believe in being honest, but you arent lying. Get the job first then prove yourself, be indispensable.

Al_Mac

I've just had an urge for a fag or a drink, very intense for a minute or so

brodev

Al_Mac wrote:

I've just had an urge for a fag or a drink, very intense for a minute or so

It is easy not to drink when we don't want one,but it shows strength not to when we do. Well done.

Chrismojam

beer2006 wrote:

Ahh, just read this, you want an argument with him?

No...I'm not good at them for one!

I was annoyed at him because after upsetting my sis at 3/4 in the morning a few weeks ago with repeated texts about the importance of family...and how much he loved mum and didn't want her to die alone etc etc etc and making out he was the only one who 'REALLY' cares.....I then found out on Tuesday after speaking to mum....that he hadn't been in touch for weeks!

Admittedly, this could have been mother up to her tricks....but I very much doubt it....knowing my brother...he doesn't make the effort...never has....and mum wouldn't bother trying to trick us into phoning him to get him to phone her because she knows that we are not on good terms... (she used to do this all the time with me and sis:rolleyes: usually when she hadn't heard of us that day....could have spoken to her the night before mind:rolleyes: )

ac

mornin...........................

jayne.doe

Hi i hope everyone is okay, quiet day here. I like it like that:)

rose28454

Hi
This is my first post on this thread. My OH has been an alcoholic for about 25 years with brief respites now an then. Last July he attempted suicide and survived ( thanks to our son pulling out of the bath) and has had an immense amount of help from Turning Point and his family. He has had a problem with his job and has been offered early retirement in 2 weeks. We have severe financial problems so he will have to look for another job ( even part time) but the plan is 2 pay about £30000 off the mortgage anyway.
Last Sunday he said he wants to have a !!!!up when he leaves work in 2 weeks as he had the same job for 33 years. I told him it was not up to me to approve it but he should talk to his counsellor. Anywat last Monday ( his day off) he switched off his phone and when I came home at 4.30 he was in bed. I asked if he had been drinking and he swore not. The next morning I wrote him a letter imploring him not to put us through all that agony again. He went for counselling and said he spoke to his counsellor. Anyway I have had my supicions all week and about an hour ago I found him drinking Vodka that he had hidden in the bathroom. I agreed to keep quiet for this afternoon so our son ( 23) would not get mixed up in it. I went out and phoned my sister (who is also married to a recovering alcoholic) as I was sp upset. I removed the vodka 1st and when I came back home he had gone to bed. Our son is going out ot a friends tonight so I am going to ask my sister and hubby to come and talk to him. However I know it is over.
I just want some advice.
1 Do I let it all come to ahead before he retires and finds another job
2 Do I bide my time and try to protect my future by getting some of the mortgage repaid and keep the children in the dark
3 Do I tell him to leave now.

Sorry to ramble but I think maybe I should play it cool as I have struggled all my married life and after all he has put myself and my kids through and I want to secure my future financially if not emotionally.

beer2006

Hi Rose and welcome

I'm guessing he has issues with leaving his job and finding another, it must be a stressful time. Obviously he knows how this will affect you, as he is hiding the drink.
I suppose if you definately know it is over, then you should do whatever is best for you and the kids. Its very difficult to see what is actually happening from this side.

Sending you out some hugs, you sound a very strong resourceful lady, but sometimes we all need a hug

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