Alcohol self help thread II

lewt

as suf b said the best thing i can recomend is getting to a few meetings. even https://www.stepchat.com. but you dont tend to find the fellowship thing there. which is what it's all about, i just got back from a lovely meal with a fellow member and some1 who is coming back off a relasoe. it was a really good time then we come back to mine for a cuppa. i find it really great to talk to others who are the same as me. in emotion's. there's something like solidarity there. cause after the drinking stop's the alcoholism illness is still there that needs to be arrested on a daily basis. and talking about things that go on in our heads to each other help somehow.

It would be murder on my own i know that from when i tried it before.

the fellowships the way forward i think. again as suf b said you dont know if you dont try it.

habibi_2

Polly_Wolly wrote:

Thank you, have found my way here again, head very hot & heavy feel so stupid letting things get on top of me.

Polly Well done for posting, you've taken the hardest step. Have you subscribed to this thread under Thread Tools at the top(ish) of the page. It took me months to realise I could do that!

I've not had a good couple of days. I don't feel great physically then everything seems to go wrong.

My friend fell down the stairs after our meeting last night, she has MS. She dislocated her shoulder and broke the socket bone. I went to see my Father who's in respite care for a week. He's fine but it upset me. Too tired to go to my dance class. It's early bath and bed for me I think.

How is everyone else?

jayne.doe

Polly if you dont want to post at the moment you can always pm me. I joined this thread when i reached a really low period. I might not sound it but i have curbed my drinking and this is a direct result of the people on here who have helped me. Beer, Al, Lewt Suffolk Ac and Fg you will find they know what you are talking about which was a huge shock for me at first.:) I didnt think i had a drinking problem.:rotfl:

Chrismojam

habibi wrote:

I've not had a good couple of days. I don't feel great physically then everything seems to go wrong...My friend fell down the stairs after our meeting last night, she has MS. She dislocated her shoulder and broke the socket bone. I went to see my Father who's in respite care for a week. He's fine but it upset me. Too tired to go to my dance class. It's early bath and bed for me I think.How is everyone else?

Relaxing bath and bed sounds like a good idea;)

Sorry to hear you are not feeling too good.....I'm sure it will pass...you have alot of inner strength from what I gather.....and very thoughtful you are too;)

I hope your friend is ok....is she quite bad with the MS or has this happened in a relapse?? I know MS is bad either way....but I've known 3 people at work...all affected by MS in completely different ways....

Hope your dad is ok too...;)

Re the dance class....sometimes you just need to take some time out for yourself....I'm sure you'll be back to your old self soon.

Take care XXX

habibi_2

Chrismojam wrote:

Relaxing bath and bed sounds like a good idea;)

Sorry to hear you are not feeling too good.....I'm sure it will pass...you have alot of inner strength from what I gather.....and very thoughtful you are too;)

I hope your friend is ok....is she quite bad with the MS or has this happened in a relapse?? I know MS is bad either way....but I've known 3 people at work...all affected by MS in completely different ways....

Hope your dad is ok too...;)

Re the dance class....sometimes you just need to take some time out for yourself....I'm sure you'll be back to your old self soon.

Take care XXX

Thanks for that - cheered me up. That was sweet of you.

My friend is not so bad but she will not always use her stick. How are your work friends?. My Dad is fine too really considering what he has wrong with him. You think your parents are going to be strong for you forever, it's a shock when they start getting frail.
I think you're right about the time out - I don't do it enough

Chrismojam

Polly_Wolly wrote:

Thank you, have found my way here again, head very hot & heavy feel so stupid letting things get on top of me.

Hiya Polly....glad you have found your way here again....and hope you manage to stay here!

I'm sure you will find a lot of help here....I have...even if I might not necessarily hae acted upon it:o ...seriously though, the people on this thread have helped me and made me laugh at times..and sometimes that's more important;)

Take care XX

Chrismojam

habibi wrote:

Thanks for that - cheered me up. That was sweet of you.

My friend is not so bad but she will not always use her stick. How are your work friends?. My Dad is fine too really considering what he has wrong with him. You think your parents are going to be strong for you forever, it's a shock when they start getting frail.
I think you're right about the time out - I don't do it enough

One was a children's social worker I worked with up until about 5/6 years ago...from what I gather she used to get extremely fatigued...more so than the other physical problems that can happen I think...but...she was a dedicated social worker...I don't remember her having much time off sick because of her illness...and she was already in her late 50's ...nearer 60 I'd say....I think she was due to take early retirement as I was leaving...I'm pretty sure she didn't really want to though...but alot of other stuff going on at the time....took the 'joy' out of the job sadly....

One other I knew, but didn't work with...she had more physical syomtoms such as not able to walk properly...kind of floppy feet/legs if you know what I mean? I'm pretty sure she was only a few years older than me...I'm nearly 33...I think she won't even be 40 yet.

The other I know now in my current job....he's a lovely guy....probably early 40's...found out only a few years ago...just comes across as such a lovely family guy....young kids...I've known him about 5.5/6 years...never known him to be the slightest bit miserable...has a smile for everyone...not really sure how the ms affects him? Don't really notice any physical symptoms.....and because he seems 'so well' most of the time....I don't really like to ask?? Don't know him 'well enough' to ask such questions??

Re thinking parents are going to be strong for you forever....I know quite a few people with the same experiences...I think I thought my dad would be around forever and a day...that was a shock....that's been nearly 20 years since he left us:rolleyes: with my mum...I don't she had the strength to support herself in the first place..never mind anyone else:rolleyes:

I think we could all do to take time out.........and probably not just a few hours here and there....I've been thinking about going off to a retreat somewhere for a week....not sure were? I heard about one is Scotland somewhere.....I'll have to look it up....;)

Take care XX

habibi_2

I'm trying to make the most of my parents while I can. It's sort of an amends too. Do you ever see your Dad, if you don't mind me asking?

I have been on some retreats locally. I was going to try some others but not got there yet. There is a Buddhist retreat in Yorkshire (I think) where you can work for them and not pay so much. There's one in Shropshire too. There's also one in the Lake District but I'm not sure who runs it. Do you know of them? Let me know if you find a good one.

Take care
M x

beer2006

Quiet, I guess everyone has been saved

xx

Is there an echo in here or is it just me

quack

Al_Mac

I've just been to the school musical:T It was very good:j

Nancy was best, then Fagan;)

So what would I love to do for two hours? Sit in a crowded room, with very little personal space, surrounded by strangers, little ventilation etc

Back row, aisle seat and ready to run for the door:rotfl: Did all my breathing exercises, all my positive thoughts, did it work, did it !!!!!!y:eek:

The things you do for your kids:rolleyes: