Alcohol self help thread II

feelinggood_2

Al_Mac wrote:

Are you saying he doen't love you? Or you don't love him? Or both? Sorry for being blunt

I'm not sure

liley9

hi everyone i'm new on this thread(only now plucked the courage up to join in) and need some advice my mother has been an alcohol for quite some time but things have got got much worse latley. ok i'll start from the begining when we were young (i have a brother and sister) she never drunk at all then about 10 years ago she started drinking every weekend, then it got to after 7 every night to relax now she gets up and has a drink first thing in the morning.she started going through the menopause and it all started getting to much for my dad and he bailed out. We arranged for her to see the doctor he was not interested all he did was give her a sick note and we booked a appt with a counciler and she refused to go she has now started stealing off the neighbours when she runs out of money even though with with her social money we all give her so much each week which still isn't enough and the police has been involved. sorry for such a long post but we just dont dont where to go from here any advice greatly welcomed.

chas1937

Really does sound as though your Mum is an alcoholic although no doubt she wont see it that way just now.You and your brother and sister could try going too either Alateen or Alan-Non as starters and you will learn there from others in your own circumstances and how they best dealt with it.Until your Mum finally accepts she has drink problem there is really not much more you can do.Alcoholism is a killer and if not dealt with either leads to death or being locked up in secure unit and sure your Mum wont want that.

ac

today, the way im feeling right now....

i could fall................ but im not going to xxx

had some info thats messing with my head.....
and now my heads messing with the info........
havent a clue wot todo.....
just plod on i guess xxxx

hows all ???????

feelinggood_2

Well done on 17 weeks AC!

I'm alright, spoke to OH, he think maybe I have a drinking problem, then he said I shouldn't drink, and I got scared and back tracked hehe.
I'm making small steps tho!

Edinburghlass_2

ac wrote:

today, the way im feeling right now....

i could fall................ but im not going to xxx

had some info thats messing with my head.....
and now my heads messing with the info........
havent a clue wot todo.....
just plod on i guess xxxx

hows all ???????

don't you allow any info to mess with your head ac, just take it out of your head, place it in an envelope and put it in the bucket.

lewt

I'm in the process of getting clean and my life sorted here http://www.perryclaymanproject.org.uk/ it is the best treatment centre i have been in and thats a few. the councillers are topps with their own experence of alcoholism and addiction it is a 12 step 12 weeks program and works from the big book of alcoholics anon. i never thought i would be able to knock the drink on the head but these people have helped me. hope this helps some1 at least. see you all soon Lewt X

ac

Edinburghlass wrote:

don't you allow any info to mess with your head ac, just take it out of your head, place it in an envelope and put it in the bucket.

wish it was that simple xxx

OH's told me hes got close to someone at work
but hes ended it ...

so my head is killing..... doubts keep attacking me
and i am on my own...... just got an empty house and my
full head..

but still an alcohol free zone.....

x

feelinggood_2

ac wrote:

wish it was that simple xxx

OH's told me hes got close to someone at work
but hes ended it ...

so my head is killing..... doubts keep attacking me
and i am on my own...... just got an empty house and my
full head..

but still an alcohol free zone.....

x

I'm so sorry AC, that must be really hard for you.
Wish I could do something, but don't think I can, just sending you lots of hugs

feelinggood_2

I'm still sober
Went back to the doctors today, talked a bit more and I've set myself some goals. So I'm getting there
I've decided to start taking orlistat (xenical - a weightloss drug) and try and maintain my high levels of exercise. She expects me to lose 2-3lbs a week which is good. I'm not sure why I'm dieting, I don't personally have a problem being 'fat' but I know other people do. I do like the control that comes with dieting, helps me keep on track with other things. The doctor also said I can't drink while taking it, which I know is a fib, but I'm trying to convince myself! :rotfl:
Also, I'm going to try and tackle the worst thing, my ocd. Its a random and not very nice one, I pick my skin hehe. Trying to figure out some coping stratagies, but I can't really figure any out. My only options are distraction methods - but they don't really work seeing as I want to do it pretty much all the time! But my mum is posting me some cross stitch, so that will help sometimes. I could stop doing it if I wore gloves all the time, but that might make me look a bit odd. Wondering if I should just do it tho. Or if I could get a complete body stocking hehe. I can manage to do it if I can't touch my skin, so gotta figure out a way around that.
I'm also starting to think that I should get out more, stop being online so much and stop being unfaithful. Saying it like that makes me sound so nasty, but I'm not doing it to be nasty, just helps me cope. Only problem is, I've met a great great guy, and I don't want to hurt him. But I might never leave my OH. Should I end it now, or what? Grr, life!