Alcohol self help thread II

jake2

yes you should babes shirley knows wats she talking about been there

trust me babes:A

jny

just having a screammmmmm - kicked K out - a binge alcoholic whose binges are getting more frequent - smelt alcohol at about 6pm mentioned it asked are you drinking - ranted all night about how he cant believe I said that (I am certain I can smell it but you start doubting yourself - despite in the past 3 years we have the same routine and I havent as yet been wrong) at 11pm he announces he has just drunk half a bottle of vodka he had found because I had accused him - he might as well do it and demanded I go to the machine and get £50 He can be quite bullying so you half think I better had and he can get out and go but I feel so weak giving in to him - so he can go to his brothers (like thats not going on vodka) and he'll be back tomorrow and me like a doormat will put up with the DT's and go to Tescos and buy 4 bottles of cider a day for the next fortnight so he can come down gradually, kids put up with it and just get used to it but I dont let them bring their friends in or invite them round - same old routine - (I didnt accuse him I asked was he drinking again and not shouting and ranting just asked the question ) after he has come down hes great for a few weeks then I start getting anxious that its all gonna start up again -but I keep puttin up with it AAaaaaRRRRRRRRRggggggggggggggHHHHHHHHHHHHhhhhhh feel better fror shouting and crying - alanons website not working

micheleen

:grouphug: jny it's a lousy situation. Al-anon website has been out for weeks now, you can still phone them on 020 7403 0888 though. Hope things can get better for you, but you can always rant here

Al_Mac

jny:grouphug: . Best I can offer:o Sorry

jake2

jny you can sound off any time here......thinking off you:grouphug:

shirl xxxxx

Al_Mac

Woke up this morning feeling a bit odd, just worked out why:eek:

Had a dream last night, about the party we're off to tomorrow. Had one beer:o The next thing I knew I was waking up:eek: As if I'd gone on a bender and not remembered.:eek:

This is my sub concious telling me not to;) Cause I had been thinking this was a good time to try it;)

My mind is abviously cleverer than me:o

jake2

you mind is clever you may be ok with a beer but you may not some times i can have a couple be fine other times i head for a binge
my lot not concerened about the odd bottle wine i hit the spirits i cant get off

you may have a beer nothing else but if it sets the cravings off you be uncomftable your strong now mac you do what right for you:A

jny

:grouphug: :grouphug: Thanks Guys - felt better for my rant thanks I didnt feel so lonely, didnt want to talk to my family as I think they are fed up, if I rant at them they just say well leave him - k similar to jake2 sometimes ok with some cheap stumpies for the england match (which 6/7 times out of 10 leads to a craving for vodka -the minute a drop of vodka - boom - he'll be on bottles of vodka for the next week then its the cider for a week and half to wean him of it (I feel embarrased when I go to the shop and have to buy a few bottles of cider every day but hes to out of it to go and looks rough and hes embarrassed about looking drunk and rough) - once again thanks guys I know I will put up with it all again I just hate it and the poor kids get it in the neck because I snap all the time because of the stress - I'll try not to

jake2

hi a community detox mite work but he needs to want to

my jon often gone out and got me lager wen i been on a binge to stable me out he knows he doing wrong but cant bear the withdrawel

there seems to be something there that he thinking about it 4 bottles cider

in 2 weeks is pretty good has he had any dry days coming off spirits is hard

mac tiger ac myself know that the cider keeps him stable wine or lager for me

its the vodka he mostly addicted to detox worked for me i had a few slips

scince febuary with bacardi but i had a lot more in the past your family going

to say leave him that easiest way out for them my family abandoned me

i wouldnt be answering this post would he consider reading the thread

there another one aswell you stay posted babes even just for a rant:A

Al_Mac

If you love him, stick with him as long as you can. Your kids have to a be a prime concern, followed by you, with him last. Accepting he has a problem, big thing, hard to do. Stopping drinking and staying stopped are two different things. Get the kids out of the house one night. Sit him down, start with, I love you....... People think I should leave, I don't want to, you have to realise the damage this is causing to us and the children, we can get through this, YOU need to want to. Plan it, I'm sure others will have advise. Al x.