MSE Parents Club Part 4

Sami_Bee

ManOnTheMoon wrote: »

Thanks I've tried your approach but she's stubborn. She isn't doing main college, I think she's too late, but their are other courses that are still taking enrollments. I've told her, even if she just does a few hours on a leisure course...

if you can convince her to do a-levels and she's bright enough, call the local colleges as often lots drop out in the first few weeks
My friend didn't get good enough grades to automatically get in but called the college twice a week once the term had started and got in

3onitsway wrote: »

You are aware that when someone says "don't ask" it makes us want to know even more!

There'll be more meet ups i'm sure - and they'll be easier once the big ones are back at school! (17 days to go.......not that i'm counting!)


That sounded worse than it meant to! I am interested , but i'm happy with mine now!
I didn't like the first slingy type thingy I got, but I had a go of a friends Mei Tai one and bought my own! She loves it in there - but she is bl00dy heavy!

No Mel this time - but I may still come along!

Shold be a sling meet every month
Chris has been asking after Liv :rotfl:
I was thinking maybe at some point we could do a group (therefore discount rate) trip to the zoo

elle_gee wrote: »

Wasn't Benjamin Button the one MFD slept through or walked out halfway through when she was still pregnant? Bizarre either way, if it's true or if I made it up! :whistle:
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My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Evening All!!
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WALKING WITH DINOAURS was BL00DY BRILLIANT :j:j:j

If anybody knows of anyone else going then tell them that they can take their cameras (but no flashes allowed!!) we didn't take ours then we were gutted when we were told we were welcome to take pictures :rolleyes:
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Twas Sami's sister that walked out of it...but I have in my head that she was on a cruise

I loved it...but cried most of the way through it! I was overdue and it started with a woman dying in childbirth and the father leaving the baby on a doorstep

In no way related to our choice of name.

MIL is going to see the dinosaurs with her friends plus LO (10)
Her friend was her flatmate at uni, they're the same age but shes a mum to a 10yo but MIL is a granny to my boys


Yep sis walked out when she was on the ferry (not 'quite' as classy as a cruise :rotfl:)the boat had broken so its was free to try and appease them - didn't work

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

I guess it is just me! Benjamin has only worn a baby hat (by which I mean the cutsie ones that come with little outfits - not woolly hats) once


But as I said before I am a bad mommy!!! He rarely wears a coat or a cardigan either

I hate baby hats too :P the only one Ed has worn is that cap in my photos that was a gift and I just pop it on him coz it makes me laugh :rotfl:
Chris hated hats so i just made sure all his coats had a hood so Ed has got hand-me-downs.
Most of the baby hats are in a box being sent to Afghanistan, Tine is there time to send some later this week or will that not get there in time?

MrsTinks

Well there is now 4 1/2 oz of milk for the emergency store LOL I am off to bed - I've been watching Pretty Woman on my own and it's been great! No grumbling in the corner about girly flicks and no wanting Gears Of War on the 360... bliss!

I'm however knackered and I'm going to go to bed - night night all!

3onitsway

Fritha wrote: »

That's ok, you don't have to be looking for a new one just generally like them (deven just as a concept!) :-) *relaxes again* (It's my first sling meet, well not my first one the first one I've organised so I really want it to go well! It's bound to bloody rain as well!)

Checked the forecast - yes, rain! :mad:

Glamazon wrote: »

just wanted to say how nice it is that there are so many MSE'ers going to sling meet on Monday. As some of you all know each other, make sure you come and talk to me I'll be the pregnant one!

not sure where to park though!

I'll be the one looking jealously at your bump! (I still miss my bump!)

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Forgot to say - I got my feeding dress through this morning - it is lovely but it doesn't fit very well

Going to see if I can take it in a bit tomorrow to make it wearable...

Have you got a link to a pic? Was it an Emma Jane one?

Sami_Bee

AF - its in the user CP or look here for help Unofficial A-Z MSE

MrsTinks

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Tine is there time to send some later this week or will that not get there in time?

Should get there in time yes I have a small stack to go during the week - I'm planning on staggering them as they look at me funny when I walk in with 6 at a time :rotfl:

money_maker_3

I got my 2 boxes sent on Friday
Your friend wont know what hit her with all this stuff arriving !! I am so glad its all going to a good cause instead of festering in the attic in the hope it may be used at some point

3onitsway

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Shold be a sling meet every month
Chris has been asking after Liv :rotfl:
I was thinking maybe at some point we could do a group (therefore discount rate) trip to the zoo


MIL is going to see the dinosaurs with her friends plus LO (10)
Her friend was her flatmate at uni, they're the same age but shes a mum to a 10yo but MIL is a granny to my boys

And Liv has been asking after Christopher too - he's the cutest little boy in the world, don't ya know!
When we were going to meet Mel this week, she was quite upset that it wasn't Sami, Christopher and Edgar! (But she soon got over it when she met Luca, Jaden and Kai! - she's such a trollop!) :rotfl:

Good idea for the Zoo! http://www.chesterzoo.org/Visit/Groups/Admission.aspx
Its even cheaper if we go in term time when the big ones are at school. (I won't tell mine!).

iQueen

Hi MOTM :wave:

I understand exactly what you mean. I raised 5 children alone.

In answer to your situation, I would agree, there is a very real danger in not going out - we lose our social skills, we lose our confidence and our self esteem is diminished. This means that when all the children have flown the nest, we are completely bereft and can be in real danger of becoming reclusive.

It is important for you to maintain or develop some personal social activities, among your own peer group, just as it is important for your girls to do the same in their peer groups. Failure to do this makes us social cripples, leading to loneliness and depression.

My children were also protective towards me, for similar motives. Children can be very protective of the status quo, and they do not see that they are actually placing you under a moral obligation. They are young animals, biologically programmed to protect themselves. However, this will not last forever. My children became particularly protective around the age of 16. I think it is a natural reaction to their own growing up - the scary unknown future and the wish to be accepted as adult (before they are ready!) As they become more independent and preoccupied with their own lives, they become more self absorbed, and loosen their grip on you! (Mind you, by the time you've been through this phase with most of your 7, it will have seemed endless!)

I believe that a good basic education is the next most important provision for a child's welfare after a secure loving relationship and basic shelter, food and clothing. This provides our children with the opportunities that we are unable to ensure them after childhood. It was understood from the earliest age that my children would be at school until they were 18 and had A Levels - this was not fixed in stone, privately, I would have read the situation of each individual child at the time, but they grew up with that expectation. My argument was that with A Levels, they could go round the world, become lavatory attendants, whatever... with my blessing, because they would have the basic qualifications to go back into education or train for a successful career later on, if they chose to. No doors would have been closed.

I was very keen on my girls acquiring the keys to a good career - I did not want them raising their own children in poverty, if they were unlucky in their relationships.

All five of my children are now highly successful professionals, happy and settled.

It is important that you persuade your 16 year-old daughter to go to college... full-time! This is what 16 year-olds should be doing, for their education and/or vocational skills, for the development of their adult social and interpersonal skills, and as a stepping-stone into the adult world. The days of daughters staying at home to help with the housework or to look after siblings are long gone, and I'm sure you do not wish to burden your child with your responsibilities.

I advised my own children, and the young adults I have recently been teaching, to keep an open mind career-wise, stay in education, studying whatever they enjoy most, until they recognise the work they want to do for life. None of my children discovered their vocation until their early twenties, but they had great experiences on the way.

I hope this will be of some help - lone-parenthood is the loneliest job. You are welcome to pm me if you fancy a less public chat about the situation.

iQueen

MrsTinks

Thanks MM - I did warn her that she'd be inundated with 100's of boxes now lol I'm hoping she can take a picture of everything before it gets handed out or even if they do a few pics of the people benefitting If she can I'll post them up here and on the charity thread

My_Fathers_Daughter

Sami_Bee wrote: »

I hate baby hats too :P the only one Ed has worn is that cap in my photos that was a gift and I just pop it on him coz it makes me laugh :rotfl:
Chris hated hats so i just made sure all his coats had a hood so Ed has got hand-me-downs.
Most of the baby hats are in a box being sent to Afghanistan, Tine is there time to send some later this week or will that not get there in time?

I get all paranoid when people say long post then quote me loads like I need to be told off or something :rotfl:

Do you think they need baby hats in afghanistan


That is clearly a joke - don't shoot me!!!

3onitsway wrote: »

Have you got a link to a pic? Was it an Emma Jane one?

LOL it is MUCH more fancy than an Emma Jane number

Organic cotton dontcha know



http://www.welovefrugi.com/mother-clothes/index.htm

The bit in the middle is really baggy!! And the dress is a little loose. Perhaps should have gone for a smaller size

Will try to tighten up the middle bit tomorrow...otherwise I will cut it out and wear it with a vest top underneath.


The clothes are lovely but pricey - I wouldn't look if you have a baby girl!!!