MSE Parents Club Part 4

elle_gee

MFD, how did your day at work go?

Sami, my colleague used to often row with her hubby and he frequently used to go away for work. If they'd had a row and she'd not asked where he was going, it was always known as "Wales".. as in "Where's your DH tonight?", "Dunno, Wales? "

Rhys has been randomly waking up, roaring, then slamming his head back on my chest and sleeping again.. Been going on for hours! Thankfully, Daddy came home and they're both now asleep on the sofa (don't worry, am keeping an eye on them).

Savvy_Sue

feelinggood wrote: »

Talking about swimming, I want to take Toby soon. Are there any alternatives to a swimming costume, something that would cover my arms?

What you need is UV swimwear, the kind you'd buy if you were going to Australia.

Millie's_Mum wrote: »

Feelie, I don't know about hiding your arms when swimming, I assume you mean you need someting long sleeved and I can't think of anything, our local pool won't even let you wear a t shirt, so you might have to ring and check,

I can't see that they'd stop you wearing a UV suit, but it would be worth checking.

Millie's_Mum wrote: »

Or (and this might be a genius idea,) go in your pyjamas and take a brick too and say you are doing your lifesaving!

:rotfl: Inspired!

searching_me

on the getting dressed thing ... if im not going out im in my pj all day and all night then all day ... lazy maybe but it feels great x

Savvy_Sue

ladybirdintheuk wrote: »

Then DH woke me up at 6am because he was randy. Still can't get it into his head that I'm not interested at the moment, and even if I was I wouldn't be at that time of the morning anyway. Need to sit him down and have another chat at a "neutral" time and remind him again that 6 months ago I tore in all directions AND THEY HAD TO STITCH MY CLIT BACK TOGETHE, so I am a) all covered in scar tissue and b) still rather traumatised. We only discussed it about 2 weeks ago, but I obviously [STRIKE]he didn't listen[/STRIKE]I didn't explain myself very well . And him keep pestering me and getting arsey with me when I'm not interested, is really not helping.

I'll start by saying that if DH woke me, ever, at any time, for this reason, he'd be likely to lose his dangly bits, but I remember reading about a sex therapist who was advising an older couple who were having problems with the full act. She asked them how many more children they were planning to have - when the answer was clearly none. Because there is fun to be had ...

And this is not to put pressure on you, BUT, if ever there was a time for kissing and cuddling without going 'all the way', then surely this is it.

So, are there things he can do for you which don't go anywhere near your stitches? And can you do anything for him in return?

ladybirdintheuk wrote: »

I thought I had, but obviously either I didn't make it clear enough, or it didn't go in. (Or he is aware he is being insesnative and doesn't care, but I don't think it is that!)

Well, there is a 3rd option, which is that he loves you, and wants to show you that he loves you, and this is the only thing he can think of ATM.

I mean, we all know that most men are thinking about it all the time.

Anyway, I write as one who has sometimes found sex to be yet another thing I'm expected to do for someone else, although DH was wanting to demonstrate that it would be nice for him to do something for me. If that makes sense.

And, will you promise not to hit me if I ask, gently, if you need to go and talk to someone about the trauma? If not yet, then soon ...

Now, they sent me home from work because I had a headache and a 5 minute sneezy fit, and now DS1 wants to know what I'm doing on the computer if I've got a headache? Should he be worried that he's sounding like his mother? But I'm off to bed for a nap, see, I don't even need the excuse of a baby or disturbed nights! (although DH snores for England!)

Fritha_2

SusanC wrote: »

Oooh I'm getting jealous. Am I the only one who hasn't got something from Bizziebaby yet?

No, I haven't either!

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Will you all p1ddle off with your bizzie baby freebies :mad: What's wrong with me??? Why haven't I got anything??

And nor has MFD! Seconded, you can all piddle off, I'm not afraid to use the i! ;-)

r.mac_2

SusanC wrote: »

Oooh I'm getting jealous. Am I the only one who hasn't got something from Bizziebaby yet?

nope - I haven't had anything either...they must be waiting to send us extra-special things to test

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Why don't you just swap 'em for the next size? I did in tesco no receipt and no problem :cool:

I did this aswell - told them my husband had been 'helpful' and bought the wrong size - they happily swapped them for me

SusanC_2

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

Although, I'm still convinced that we overwash these kids, and using shampoo / bubble bath / showergel can definitely aggravate eczema. Just wetting their hair may be enough to get the baked beans out on a day to day basis.

Water's all we've ever used. Except for the time when OH persuaded Alice to wet her hair by saying she could have shampoo on it if she did. He hadn't thought through the implications of putting shampoo on (i.e. the necessity of rinsing :eek:).

r.mac_2

Sami_Bee wrote: »

right oh. on mothercare site in prams etc I clicked on 'help me choose' and said space is tight + from birth suitable not sur if link will work so will type what it came up with that can be parent facing http://www.mothercare.com/gp/search/277-9510965-5383344?ie=UTF8&rs=42768041&finderFlag=0&viewID=results&mcb=core&size=44&rh=p%5Fm%5F8%3Afrom%20birth%2Cn%3A42768041%2Cn%3A47050031%2Cn%3A47047031&page=1
bugaboo bee
bugaboo chameleon
quinny speedi
maxi cosi mura
Chicco for me
ABC design 3tec

HTH xx

I can totally recommend the bugaboo chameleon. I love mine and I do think it's worth the money - but possibly not if you don't use it from birth!!!! WHy not go somewhere you can play with them???

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Only me! Catching up slowly whilst I wait for my hubby to bring my son back (How DARE they not be home when I get back from work :mad: :rotfl:)


How dare they :mad:





The powders don't seem to do anything for Benjamin think I might try a full one next time and if it doesn't do anything I may well have some up for grabs

They used to work for Annabel and now we need a full dose to make a difference - she's very cute though and opens her mouth when she sees me get them out. Thanks for the anbesol recommendation - got some today.

Do we allow SCRUMMY mummies on here the rest of us are more like scummy mummies most of the time

With my new shiney shoes and my washing my hair every day - I am one of the scrummy mummies ;);):rotfl:

Welcome scrummy!

SusanC_2

searching_me wrote: »

on the getting dressed thing ... if im not going out im in my pj all day and all night then all day ... lazy maybe but it feels great

I don't stay in my pyjamas in case people knock on the door.

r.mac wrote: »

nope - I haven't had anything either...they must be waiting to send us extra-special things to test

Here's hoping.

r.mac_2

just picking up the water and bath products comments - I have only used water since birth but LO does have dry skin. Dr said that there is a fine line between baby eczema and dry skin and she seemed to be not too bad, but recommended we try oilatum - what a difference! I would recommend it to others although with it's hefty price tag get it on the NHS minor ailments scheme for free.

I' m off to play with the stacking cups we bought earlier