The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 4

graemecarter

Wanna_Bee_Free wrote: »

I'm annoyed that every morning I feel like death, hungover and haven't slept and then every morning I say today I'll be af and then by the evening I'm clinking a couple of bottles from sainsbugs and repeating the daft cycle. I think if I was sleeping better I would be more able to cope. Because I'm not and 'deserve' it I'm drinking too much wine every night and then not sleeping. And it's stooopid of me.

Still, I have had more AFDs this year than the previous decade, so that's good!

The familiar routine, we have all been there.
Amazing how I used to promise myself that I would be AF when I would wake up groggy etc, and then 12 hours later I would have a beer or glass of wine!
The cycle would repeat itself, and if I could break it, it would soon creep back.
That is my alcoholism - I would promise myself something, and later break that promise because I wanted a drink.
This is why I needed help with being AF - I would be my own worse enemy and not do what I intended to do.
Thank god it isn't like that any more. The feelings of hopelessness when I was drinking when I promised I would not were awful. Now when I say to myself 'I am not going to drink today' I don't. And that makes me stronger, as I achieve that goal every day.

Alcoholism wears you down and breaks your spirit. The failing at a constant quest to be AF is so tiring. That's why one needs to change themselves. Alcohol is not the problem here. Life is the problem, and alcohol is a temporary solution, which stops working.
Put down the drink and one is still the same. One will have cravings, and break their AF run.
Change yourself and the desire to drink is lifted - you don't even want to drink any more. No bells ever

honeybear_2

Oh it's nice to catch up with you all In between spending far too much money & drinking, I have actually been working really hard so haven't had the time to post!

glasgowgirl

Graeme - a question for you...

In the past I've got really drunk at work nights out. There's always been a big drinking culture where I work and everyone would always get hammered - the difference being that I drank so quickly that I'd be really drunk really early and have to be helped into a taxi home.

People make jokes about my drinking, which is embarrassing and upsetting. I want to make a new start and put these drinking days behind me. I feel like I have to change jobs and go somewhere where people don't know about me and the things I've done in the past, but this seems a bit drastic.

I've changed my behaviour and mainly don't go on these nights out anymore - if I do, it's just for 1 and then home. But will people's perception of me ever change? Is it easier to move on?

Thanks.

So_Sad_Angel

Hi Everyone,

Well another year older today....but this year I am determined to remember the day right through until I go to bed. Got family `do` tonight & this is going to be my biggest test yet!!

Wish me luck:D:D

...& have a great day everyone.

Angiexx

Marru

Hello,

Had a hell of a drive last night in dreadfull traffic and DD didn't go to sleap in the car and was being noisy and asking silly questions all the way. Anyway thanks to BF I am ok now as he fed me and calmed me down.

Jo very well done you!!

Angie: Happy birthday!

For those who have been talking about spirituality HERE is a book that I highly recommend. Always makes me feel good. And no by no means I would not consider myself as religious.

Need to go so byeeeeee!!

Marru

glasgowgirl

Happy birthday Angie!! _party_ xxx

graemecarter

glasgowgirl wrote: »

Graeme - a question for you...

In the past I've got really drunk at work nights out. There's always been a big drinking culture where I work and everyone would always get hammered - the difference being that I drank so quickly that I'd be really drunk really early and have to be helped into a taxi home.

People make jokes about my drinking, which is embarrassing and upsetting. I want to make a new start and put these drinking days behind me. I feel like I have to change jobs and go somewhere where people don't know about me and the things I've done in the past, but this seems a bit drastic.

I've changed my behaviour and mainly don't go on these nights out anymore - if I do, it's just for 1 and then home. But will people's perception of me ever change? Is it easier to move on?

Thanks.

Yes, but it will take a long time. People remember the drunken incidents much more than the usual ones as they are more memorable.
Could take 6 months or more, and one screw up and you'll be back to square one.

People judge you on your actions, not your intentions.

However, the nice thing is that what other people think of you is none of your business :rotfl:

honeybear_2

HAPPY BIRTHDAY ANGIE!



XX

jo1972

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DC, well done on abstaining last night :j

Wanna_Bee_Free wrote: »

I'm annoyed that every morning I feel like death, hungover and haven't slept and then every morning I say today I'll be af and then by the evening I'm clinking a couple of bottles from sainsbugs and repeating the daft cycle. I think if I was sleeping better I would be more able to cope. Because I'm not and 'deserve' it I'm drinking too much wine every night and then not sleeping. And it's stooopid of me.!

WBF, this is me all over, it's all part of the illness, spent all day wishing I hadn't drank, hoping I'm not going to drink later, then it's like worzel gummage, I get a new head on and all those thoughts are banished and I skip gleefully to the counter with armfuls of alcohol and so it starts again. Wish there was something I could do to help, you just need to get a day or 2 behind you so you can feel some strength in your convictions (easier said than done I know!). Give it a go, take each 15/30 minutes as it comes, don't have alcohol in the house but say that if you really 'NEED' it then you can go get it, it's your life and you can make the decisions, post on here A LOT, read a book, keep yourself busy. I find that one of my triggers is cooking, so we've eaten quick and easy stuff over the past couple of weeks, I have to keep out of the kitchen as much as possible. Be aware of your triggers and try to shy away from them. Keep yourself safe from them till your resolve is stronger and the cravings are not happening as much, by then you will find it easier to deal with coming face to face with a trigger. Good luck xx

Can't believe I didn't drink last night, felt like carp this morning and took me a good few seconds to remember what happened last night when I woke up! I was in a tremenously bad mood though tremendously bad :eek: it seems to have worn off a bit now but feel v.v. irritated today. Got so much to do and have no energy to do it, just a normal day then :rolleyes:

Hope you all have a great day

:wave:

xx

glasgowgirl

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Thanks Graeme. I really like this quote - going to try to remember this.

Have great weekends everyone.

xx