The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 4

Wanna_Bee_Free

Hey 69 chick, so sorry to hear how rotten you are feeling.

Hello, Ginger nights welcome to the thread. Hope it gives you the support and help you are looking for. Can we ask about your name (not wanting to be rude, I'm just curious...)

And I agree with Budgie, we need to know about Mr E!! Although the green light has already gone out so that's it for tonight I expect.

Another AFD for me tonight so I think that's 10/16. And less of a wobble earlier tonight too. Although still not an easy one.

Good night all!

graemecarter

glasgowgirl wrote: »

Hi,

Hope everyone's had a good day. 69chick - thinking of you, hope you're better very soon.

I agree that cutting down is a brilliant thing to do. Wish it could work for me, but I know I'm not capable of it. It's a weird thing, discovering alcohol relatively late as a teenager at 19 and being told by friends who care about you from pretty much that first drink that you just 'shouldn't drink'. Amazing how it transforms some people and not others into a different person and creates that unquenchable thirst to drink and drink until you're a danger to yourself.

Talking about blaming life's problems and ups and down on alcohol, I feel very, very lucky in that I've had a lovely life so far - close, loving family, strong friendships, good relationships, jobs and places to live, never been really hard up.

Yes, there have been sad moments - death of a loved one for example - and that's part of life.

I feel though though that, of the bad things that have happened, I have created those situations by abusing alcohol. Horrible accidents where I've been badly injured, embarrassing 'morning after' issues at work, letting family/friends down and feeling like a complete s**t afterwards - none of these things would have happened if I'd stayed sober.

I don't know if it's the alcohol gene or some kind of allergy - call it what you will, I am just someone who should not / cannot drink alcohol.

Sorry to go on, that was a bit heavy!!

Jo - won't be counting days anymore as aiming for an AF life!

xx

Great post - I identified so much with it (especially bits in bold)

Not every time I drank did something bad happen, but every time something bad happened there was alcohol involved.

I don't what it is - nature or nurture. A bit of both probably.
My first experience of drinking and I got sick and had some memory loss. I thought that was normal!! That set the precedent forever more.

I too have had a great, lucky and charmed life, and with me now off the booze, I have a greater chance at prolonging it.

graemecarter

fayjmck wrote: »

Waves to all the lovely normal faces - and I am rubbish at multiple messages but hi and hugs and love to you all and Hi to Gingernut

I am not AF today (1 glass of champage) as lodger has a birthday and brought the champagne from paris for her birthday - must be odd to be so far from home with no family etc- I wanted many more after one glass but thankfully the opportunity was not there - I have alot of work on and relish being sober and like E says clear headed.

Hugs to you all -

What happened to what you said yesterday 'I must remember it's the first drink that gets you drunk' ?? :rotfl::rotfl:

graemecarter

budget_babe wrote: »

Gc hugs and thankyou for your great posts as ever, though I do wonder where you put me on the alcohol wheel? Hugs matey xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi my love. :hello:

It doesn't matter what I think. It's how you honestly perceive yourself that counts.
Some people with mild alcohol issues think they are crazy alcoholics, and there are many people who drink themselves to death who never admit to themselves they have a drink problem!
So often you hear of people say 'Drink isn't the problem, but the wife/husband/job/kids/life etc is the problem' and 'you would drink like me too if you had my problems'

All I know is that I am an alcoholic (and I suspect RecoveringAlcoholic is too, but that's just a hunch;))

heath480

Hands up from me too I am an Alcoholic.So no Alcohol for me today.Waves and hugs to all the cutters down/quitters.:D

maman

10AF please Jo.

'night all (and that includes you gingernight):A

eselt

budget_babe wrote: »

Hi Eselt,

Thanks for the post, BUT YOU HAVE MISSED OUT THE BIT WHERE YOU TELL US ABOUT THE NEW MR E.

We are all wondering you know So please don't put that little green light out just yet

Hugs to Fay and one glass of champagne is good, I am glad the opportunity wasn't there for more. I know what I am like as well in such circumstances
:T To a clear head in the morning :T

God Bless everyone and nite nite
Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Ps Eselt I shan't go to bed until you divulge

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:Er...theres no new Mr E....just a couple of dates, a mad ex- wife..whole thing ended with a short course of antibiotics IYKWIM....don't really want to say anymore (even though I know I can tell you lot anything and you won't breath a word)...onwards and upwards:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Different_Corner

Had a quick read of the new thread, life is being cruel for a few and I'm sending peaceful thoughts.
Had family down for a week, and alcohol has been aplenty. I'm up to 11 AF this month. I am really looking forward to spending the rest of July without it. Never thought I'd say that !

Miss_Piggy_2

Morning all!

Budgie - I do hope you are feeling better today! I have my fingers crossed its not swine flu. ((hugs)). We can't have our Budgie being poorly!

69chick - (hugs)) to you too. Hope you are slightly better today? Do you think the Tamiflu is helping?

Welcome Gingernights. This is a great thread to be on so I do hope you decide to stay. As our wonderful Budgie says, why not decide on some AF days for the rest of this month and then set a target for next month?

Eselt - :eek::eek:

GG - I think I too can quite honestly say all the arguments and upsets that have happened around me in the last few years are directly linked to me having had a drink at the time. :eek:- actually thinking about it I would say in the last 15 years!!! I had a massive falling out with my brother when I was 22 because I was hideous to him when I was drunk and that was 13 years ago! Looking back I can see a definite pattern Shame I didn't realise earlier. And I too, like you, have grown up with a lovely supportive family etc.

**waves to everyone else** Hope you are all ok?

21 for me please Jo!!!

Busy day today - stripped all the beds off so they can be clean for the kids coming the weekend. Piglet off to nursery at 1pm (Miss P breathes a sigh of relief!) so can get on with stuff this afternoon.

I was in tesco yesterday with Mum and she was buying a bottle of wine for Dad. We started talking about me stopping drinking and she admitted it was a huge relief to her. Apparently when I was in my early twenties she sent off for leaflets from some Drink aware type group as she was concerned then about my level of drinking. It did slow down in my mid twenties but definately picked up again in my late twenties. Of course, by then I'd moved in with OH so she didn't see me drinking so much. But she knows when we are out for a meal or something that I can down a drink about four times faster than everyone else. She admitted she was worried lately and that she's pleased I've stopped. With so much alcoholism in her family I can understand her concern. Its very sobering (if you see what I mean!)

Anyway, enough rabbiting! Off to throw Piglet in a bath. may even put water in first!!:rotfl::rotfl:

Miss P
xx

Pippilongstocking

graemecarter wrote: »

What happened to what you said yesterday 'I must remember it's the first drink that gets you drunk' ?? :rotfl::rotfl:

I am weak, and a work in progress - a great excuse coming up it was the french students birthday - she was alone in Orkney and had lugged a bottle of champagne from france. I didn't want to drink yesterday but felt obliged to, but was guarded.

Given the opportunity to drink after 1 drink I will try my damnest to get drunk. Oddly in my case I don't tend to drink around people (or only people I know very well and trust) - its out of my comfort zone and I only generally get drunk alone.

Given no opportunity to drink or to limit the drink by slealth force, locking in a room or a lack of money, or sometimes even I just think - OK that will do - I exercise restraint.

GC you are as sharp as a bag of nails my friend -

Eslet sorry to hear about the bunny boiler...........