The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

littleme82

Hi everyone.

CWTW I second exactly what you say.

Well I tested this morning - spent £8 on an Early Response test.

BFN.

I am so p*ssed of its untrue. 4th cycle of clomid (the miracle drug - yeah right) and our 14th overall cycle.

Seeing the FS this afternoon and speaking to my dr in the morning about the way forward.

its a really !!!! day.

Part_Mouse

Little me so sorry for your bfn, really feel for you huge hugs your way.

time2deal

Sorry for BFN. I think it's a massive joke from the gods that PMS symptoms are the same as pregnancy symptoms.

I'm up for a pity party! Although I'm doing sober october... I obviously like to torture myself.

cwtw - booking appointments is such a pain. And going to them. I'm so tired of traipsing across London for one doctor or another to have a poke around. Or just a chat to then ask me to talk to his or her PA to book another meeting to have a poke around. And they are always so unclear on what the purpose of each appointment is. Is this a real planning for IVF appointment? Or a planning for planning IVF? Or an investigative poke around? Or a scan? Or maybe just a planning session for a poke around or a scan? And what would the next step be?

I never seem to know the answers to these questions.

And it's always at the office. So time off work, including extra time as the doctors are always running late. If only someone had invented another way of communicating... like a phone... or email... I'd even accept facebook chats! :mad:

Phew... seems I am in a mood this morning!

tea_lover

Seems like we've all got our grump on today ladies. I reckon it's time to roll out the dodgy group hug :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:

Well.... decision made. We're going to do a self-funded cycle. Next appt is 31st October, then we should be starting as soon as AF shows after that. Unfortunately I think the appt will be just after CD1, so we'll have a whole extra cycle to wait. But I'm trying to see that as more time to get vitamins into OH, rather than just wasted time.

Random question - does anyone know if decaf tea is ok when TTC? I know you can have some caffeine anyway, so I guess it can't be that bad. Have been doing pretty well on the no-caffeine front but it's getting cold and I need tea!

Part_Mouse

Grumps from me to ladies seems to be a long standing feature now

Rowingirl

So sorry littleme for your BFN, sending virtual brownies.

Sounds exciting tea and that things are really moving ahead for you. NICE guidelines state there is 'no consistent evidence of an association between consumption of caffeinated beverages (tea, coffee and colas) and fertility problems.' So I think you can drink tea with impunity .

DH received a phone call on Tuesday from our CCG asking which fertility clinic we want to be referred to so we've been approved for NHS funding :j. Now waiting for the clinic to contact us with the 1st appointment date so we can discuss IVF.

T2D please can you update my next step: NHS funding approved. Waiting for 1st appointment at the fertility clinic.

time2deal

Done rowinggirl.

frozenpenguin

time2deal wrote: »

Done rowinggirl.

Would you be able to update mine as well?

Currently on our sixth cycle of clomid. Next FS appt 15th Oct to discuss IVF.

Thank you very much! You're a star for taking care of the whole list :A:T x

tea_lover

Well while we're updating...

Next steps: ICSI #2 - first appointment 31.10.13

time2deal

IVF/ICSI/FET cycles currently ongoing.

Derby2: Start down-regging on 20th (?) October.
Wonder Woman: Starting down regulation on 24.10.13
Tea Lover: Starting down reg 31.10.2013

Team TTC info

• Angeltreats TTC#1 since 08/12, NTNP for at least a year before that. 33 OH 33. Investigation so far: Scan & 21 day bloods for me, all ok. OH has low sperm count & low motility. Next step: waiting to see GP hopefully for FS referral.
• bigmomma051204 TTC#2 since 01/12. PCOS. One ovary due to childhood issue. Overweight, but regular 28 day cycle.
• Chickpea 40. TTC#2 since 09/09. Low AMH. 12 cycles Clomid BFN, 6 cycles ovulation induction (Gonal F + Ovitrelle) BFN. Natural BFP 06/13, MMC 08/13.
• codemonkey TTC#1 since Oct 2010. 33, DH 31. Possible problems on both sides, just started investigations into why it's taking so long.
• cwtw Ttc #1 since Jan 12, me 31 OH 32. Me: PCO normal weight and symptomless except bleeding too often; some anovulatory cycles. OH normal everything. Next Step: On inositol, first fs appt Sept 13 eek.
• Derby2 TTC#1 since 09/08. 34, DH 34. Stupidly low AMH, DH fine. Miracle BFP ended in m/c 01/13. 6 rounds clomid, 4 IUI. Next step start down-regging on 20th October.
• Elsie37 TTC#1 since 02/12. 31. Next step: FS appointment 29 July
• emmaj30 37. DH 43. Im am awaiting my laprscopy and dye test which should come through very soon. Have had various blood tests which seem fine and a scan which came back normal.. If all clear in laprscopy will be put on IVF waiting list .
• Fairy Dust TTC#1 since 2006 (well NTNP for the first year). DH 38 Me 38. Unexplained infertility. All tests normal (strange how you hope that they find something wrong that they can "fix"). Failed IVF 1st cycle August 2013. Next Step Booked in for 2nd cycle Feb 2014.
• Fannyanna TTC#1 since 05/11. 28. DH 25. PCOS. Primary infertility (not ovulating). Overweight - losing to get Clomid. Next step:Awaiting AF for HSG.
• Floaty TTC#1 01/09. 33. DH 38. No obvious fertility issues from GP tests, slightly low SA. Next step:1st FS appointment 19 Aug.
• FrozenPenguin TTC#1 since Dec 2011. 30, DH 35, Me: mild PCOS, irregular cycles and irregular ovulation. DH: low SA in all 3 areas (count, morphology and motility) and a varicocele. Currently on our sixth cycle of clomid. Next FS appt 15th Oct to discuss IVF.
• goodvibes TTC#1 since 04/12. 36 OH 38. Investigation so far. Me no problems OH low sperm count. Next step: Current on 3 cycles of clomid on 3/3 BFN. Next appointment early Oct.
• lisawood78 TTC # 1 since 2003, I'm 35 hubby 38. Hubby no issues. No fallopian tubes due to ectopic pregnancies caused by severe adhesions. 9 Failed IVF/ICSI/FET cycles. Surrogacy consultation on October 4th
• Littleme82: TTC 06.09.12 when coil removed. Regular cycles 26-30. Blood tests show low progesterone. Scan all ok. DP SA all fine. 3 clomid cycles unsuccessful. Next Step Seen FS. Advise 3 further cycles of clomid. If unsuccessful then book in for HSG and possibly IVF.
• lucyloo77 TTC#1 since 07/2011. 35, OH is 41. OH has low SA/motility, me no known issues. 1x unsuccessful IVF/ICSI in May 2013. Next step:About to start IVF/ICSI #2 at beginning of August 2013 (eek!).
• MrsDavo TTC#1 (together) since 01/2011. 25, OH : 35. I have 6yr old girl, he has 4yr old girl both from different relationships. MMC April 2012. Diagnosed PCOS Dec 2012 - i ovulate on my own maybe twice a year! Male slightly low. Next step: Cycle 2 Clomid 100mg - possible Ov - BFN
  Cycle 3 Clomid 150mg - bloods 23/10.
• onestep TTC#2 (dd 9) we've stopped actively ttc now, & are investigating adoption. Waiting to be assigned a SW
• Part Mouse TTC#1 since 2009. 29 DH 36. PCOS, blocked right tube, no ov. Male problems as well. No response to tamoxafin. Currently injecting Menpur to stimulate ovulation.
• Peonie TTC #1 since 08/10. 34, DH 37. Severe endo. 1 MC 06/12.Next step: IVF.
• Purcy81 TTC#1 since 09/12 aged 32 DH aged 32. 2MC (Oct 12 & Jun 13) Irregular and long cycles with late OV and short LP (managed to get it to 10 days now with AC and Vit B6). Other than this no known problems on either side. Next steps Just keep trying, both MC have been confirmed by the doctor but no medical help or even testing will be forthcoming as we can get pregnant and they only test after 3MC as having 2 is "probably just bad luck"
• Picklekin TTC #1 since July 2012. 35, DH35. No problems found on either side. Have had bloods, HSG and SA. On 4th cycle of Clomid, even though I was seen to ovulate it without it.
• Primmer TTC#1 since 2009. 39, DH 48. Unexplained infertility. Unsuccessful IVF treatment. Considering adoption but still hoping for a miracle.
• Rowingirl TTC#1 since March 2011. 30, OH 37. Regular cycles, no chronic illnesses, blood tests, SA, HSG & hysterscopy all came back normal. GP diagnosed unexplained infertility and applied to CCG for fertility funding. Next step: NHS funding approved. Waiting for 1st appointment at the fertility clinic.
• Sewit TTC #1 Oct 2011. Me - 35, DH 38. Unexplained Infertility. AMH 4. 1st IVF 8 eggs, 4 fertilised, 2x2dt -BFN Stepping away from TTC until Jan 2014.
• skint_catt TTC#2. (DD aged 2). Weve been trying for 12 months & hubby is 42 & I am 36. next step: pelvic scan 24/10/13 & waiting for AF for GP to do more bloods on CD3.
• Skaps So far have had my blood tests, OH has had his tests which have come back fine. Had an ultrasound and they think they found a polyps so am going to have a hysteroscopy to check and remove it if its there. Skaps do you want to put something else/more info?
• Smookle TTC for approx 18 months. Aged 27. DH 29. Had laproscopy and diagnosed with moderate Endo and adhesions. All allegedly fixed and fine but still not pregnant. Regular, short cycles, ovulating 2 out of 3 times. Next step - Start IUI in November/December if still not pregnant.
• teaandcupcakeordeath TTC #1 since 04/2011. Me (30). BMI 31. Unicornuate Uterus, PCOS, Mild Endo. Irregular cycles. Elevated Prolactin. DH (30) Poor SA results (count, motility and morphology). Next Step: Slowly going mad. Awaiting Brain MRI results to check for benign tumour. 2 cycles of NHS IVF with ICSI approved when results are in and BMI at target.
• Tea Lover TTC#1 since 2009. Me - 34, endo, pcos. OH - 41, v poor SA results (count, motility, morphology). Clomid - didn't do much. One ICSI cycle - BFP then early m/c. Next step: Next steps: ICSI #2 - first appointment 31.10.13
• theonlywayisup TTC#1 since feb 12. Me (29) pcos, long irregular cycles. OH (30) awaiting results of SA. Also awaiting fs appointment and results of possible partial molar pregnancy.
• time2deal TTC#1 since 10/11. 37. DH 376. Low AMH, Low SA - but ovulating fine. Overweight (29 BMI). Cervical cancer 12/12 (remission 03/13). IVF 01/13 9 frozen embryos. AF problems since cancer treatment. Next step: Who knows. Possible small operation as retaining blood in the uterus so clinic won't attempt IVF. First NHS IVF appointment on 2/10/2013 to move to if/when cash runs out.
• Whattodonow TTC#1 for for over 2 years. 32, Had all scans - OK, OH has supersperm, I have around 11 AMH, so not great. Three rounds of clomid - totally eff-ed up my cycle and effected my eyesight, so didn't complete 4th round. Next step Awaiting consultant appointment to begin IVF treatment
  
• Wonder Woman TTC#1 for approx. 1 year. Me: 27, no known problems, DH: 34, problem with vas deferens. Have had bloods and initial consults. Next step Starting down regulation on 24.10.13.

Graduates:

SexKitten. 26-08-2013. Cautiously optimistic! IVF cycle
mrsHappy :jBFP 22 September. :j
History: I am 40, OH is 49. TTC since March 2011. I have a 16 year old son from a previous relationship. OH is a Cystic Fybrosis carrier, which had led to him not having any vas deferens, so although he produces sperm it has nowhere to go. We have had private treatment at Glasgow Nuffield, no NHS funding at all as I have the teenager. OH had PESA so we have sperm in the freezer. Unsuccessful ICSI Feb 13. donor egg ICSI cycle now. Next Step ET Sat 14/09

vseviour :jBFP 23 September. :j
History: TTC#1 since 04/2011. 30, DH 28. I have irregular cycle, he has poor count, motility, etc. Both overweight. Lost 4 stone to get BMI to 30, 6 month of Clomid no joy, just been for Prostap jab, Next step: 22nd Aug and having ICSI at end of Aug.

Ladies, please post any updates in magenta. I only update this from time to time, and it's easier to see the changes if they are in colour.