The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

teaandcakeordeath

Hope someone who knows these things will be along to help you out Tea.

I've got my first counselling session tomorrow as the lovely lady had a cancellation. I'm bricking it. Has anyone done IVF counselling? What did it involve? I'm dreading going in and just flat out bawling and kicking things for the hour session... I don't cry pretty either so I could scare the people in the IVF waiting room....

fluffnutter

teaandcakeordeath wrote: »

Hope someone who knows these things will be along to help you out Tea.

I've got my first counselling session tomorrow as the lovely lady had a cancellation. I'm bricking it. Has anyone done IVF counselling? What did it involve? I'm dreading going in and just flat out bawling and kicking things for the hour session... I don't cry pretty either so I could scare the people in the IVF waiting room....

We've had counselling as part of our IVF treatment but as a result of needing a donor. It was a stipulation of their donor programme. Counselling was available generally, i.e. if using your own eggs/sperm, but not mandated. IME, it's an opportunity to talk about how you feel; it's definitely not a way of assessing your suitability for IVF - you don't 'pass' or 'fail'.

Your counsellor will talk to you, ask you stuff. You don't need to have any idea of what to say beforehand. It's not intrusive and I found it really eye-opening actually. They really know what they're doing and they can help make sense of things for you. If you cry, you cry. It will be OK. I didn't cry when I saw the counsellor which surprised me actually because just about every other time I stepped foot in the clinic I ended up bawling like a twat.

Are you going with Mr teacakeordeath?

TeamLowe

tea_lover wrote: »

Is it normal for the first af after ivf/mc to be different? Am not calling cd1 yet but am spotting more consistently & am 11dpo so it's clearly on the way.

Problem is, I have weird pain! Not like usual period pain, or usual endo pain. More like where the f did that poker sharp, take your breath away pain come from??

I take it that's just things getting back to normal rather than something to panic aboutk

Tea it's completely normal for AF to change after mc, I never had spotting before mine but every time since. you might go back to your normal or you might have a new normal for your cycle now

It's the pain constant? I get terrible sharp pain in 2ww when I sneeze or laugh sometimes but gynae said that's normal x

fluffnutter

TeamLowe wrote: »

It's the pain constant? I get terrible sharp pain in 2ww when I sneeze or laugh sometimes but gynae said that's normal x

That's really interesting. I've had a sharp pain on my right for about 24 years, particularly on exertion. I'm guessing it's nothing serious else I'd be dead by now! I know my tubes and bits are OK because the gynae said so when she did the lap and dye. Just one of those things I guess...

Part_Mouse

TCD hope all goes well tommorow for you and you get out of it what you need.

Xx

teaandcakeordeath

fluffnutter wrote: »

We've had counselling as part of our IVF treatment but as a result of needing a donor. It was a stipulation of their donor programme. Counselling was available generally, i.e. if using your own eggs/sperm, but not mandated. IME, it's an opportunity to talk about how you feel; it's definitely not a way of assessing your suitability for IVF - you don't 'pass' or 'fail'.

Your counsellor will talk to you, ask you stuff. You don't need to have any idea of what to say beforehand. It's not intrusive and I found it really eye-opening actually. They really know what they're doing and they can help make sense of things for you. If you cry, you cry. It will be OK. I didn't cry when I saw the counsellor which surprised me actually because just about every other time I stepped foot in the clinic I ended up bawling like a twat.

Are you going with Mr teacakeordeath?

Thanks Fluff. Just had this image of the woman staring at me in silence waiting for me to go bananas, though to be fair it wouldn't take much waiting! I've got a single appointment for me first and then when I'm there I'm going to arrange a couples one. He won't go by myself but will go with me. He's not sure on it but he really isn't coping well at the moment so surprisingly he agreed to try it.

I selfishly took the single appointment first though as I want to rage without him there- I know he feels like this is his 'fault' rather than both of us and I know that whatever I say he'll take on board to beat himself up which I'd hate for him to do. I never used to cry all that much and I've had some pretty rubbish experiences but this has destroyed me.

Peonie

I went to the docs today to see if I had an infection. The good news is that I don't. But he did point that the hospital have not done a good job stitching me up. I had thought so but just thought I was being vain. He said I should go back in 8 weeks to see what can be done to reduce the scaring.

teaandcakeordeath wrote: »

We had our IVF bloods done a couple of weeks ago and I received a letter today saying I have to go back for a repeat prolactin test. When I rang the nurses refused to tell me why and just 'not to worry' and it's probably a little too high. Googled high prolactin and have gone right off the deep end. After having my smear come back fine despite being convinced it would be just my luck to be riddled the top 'Dr Google' search comes out as non-cancerous tumours on the pituitary gland...

It's easy to say but don't worry about it. I had high prolactin levels back in January. My February blood test results came back fine. The doctor explained that they can raise above normal levels by simply getting up and going to the toilet. I was actually disappointed when my levels came back fine, in my head I could have high prolactin levels without having cancer so did not worry about the big C. I had pinned my hopes that they would give me some miracle prolactin medicine that would solve all my fertility issues - thus my disappointment.

Instead I have severe endo and I'm absolutely gutted. On the plus side I read, thank you Dr G00gle, fertility increases in the 9 months following the tissue being removed.

becca0417

Peonie huge hugs. Did you have a lap? My scars became infected and I've got hardly any scarring now, hope they can sort it for you. How are you recovering?

tea_lover

Becca, me too! Most of my laps have been fine but 2 (out of 4) sets of stitches got infected last time. You have to look to see my scars, they're just tiny white lines.

becca0417

Tea did it take you longer to recover? I had to have 2 weeks off work & it was the most painful unpleasant experience!!