Trying For a Baby III

**confuzzled**

polkadot wrote: »

Confuzzled stop SSing-you too Bitzer

Whoops, We got caught:p
Polka you really need to drop your 'friend' she sounds awful!!! And (((hugs))) hope you feel more positive soon xxxx

Courgette wrote: »

Afternoon all

I'm now 12dpo and wondering whether to test. Don't feel as uncomfortable as I did yesterday although my boobs are still sore. Soreness feels different from when I was pg though so not sure what to make of things. It's very weird that cd1 this time was the mc, seem to be here again very quickly. I've read that AF can take up to 6 weeks to arrive after mc and it'll 'only' be 4 weeks on Monday.

I went to see my friend yesterday who I've know since we were 8 and who had a little boy last Friday. Had been feeling really guilty about not contacting her but it was too painful following the mc. Weirdly, seeing her and meeting her young man has actually made me really doubt whether I do want a BFP right now. He was completely gorgeous and we're more than ready as a couple for the responsibility but in a way getting BFP before the wedding would seem a bit like opening your Christmas presents on Cmas Eve. Does that make any sense at all??? I just mean, maybe we should focus on one thing at once and enjoy the wedding fully without the worry of another mc, then enjoy ttc without the wedding planning. Have pretty much decided now that I'll go back onto the pill when AF turns up, perhaps even just one packet (that's a mere 21 tablets, I can cope with that surely?). However, believe that when it happens, I have changed my mind about ttc pretty much every single day since the mc.

We haven't actually done much bding this month but when do you reckon I'd get a BFP if I was gonna get one? I don't want to do loads of tests cos they're quite stressful and quite pricey too - not very mse! :rotfl: I would test tomorrow with the clearblue early ones but could easily still be neg even if I am. Also, I'm assuming I couldn't get a false BPF this far after the mc?

Courgette if it was me I'd test just to put my mind at rest id nothing else:) And this long after I think it'd be highly unlikely you'd get a false positive.
After my mc(May) my period was pretty much on track straight-away, I went from a 28day cycle to 32 days though! I think I was one of the 'lucky' ones that my 1st AF after mc was almost normal.

Right now for me and my rant......sorry in advance guys...I'm bored stupid and I'm getting mood swings, one minute I'm fine(giggling to myself etc), the next I wanna stab someone and the next I feel like crying:eek: God knows whats up with me....probably just sick of cleaning on every fricking day I have off:mad::mad:
Done most of my jobs to get me up-to-date and am now doing a cleaning rota so that lazy [EMAIL="b@$t@rd"]b@$t@rd[/EMAIL] of a husband pulls his finger out and helps me...if he thinks we're having kids while he's still a lazy get he's got another thing frikkin coming!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:mad::mad::mad:

Sorry for being a moody, I hate feeling like this:o:o I'm naturally a happy, positive person.................honest:p

Had a right go at him on the phone and am refusing to speak to him....now I wanna cry:rolleyes: lol I'm a stupid cow at times:D:D
But I know I'll be fine again in a minute...................ggrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!! I feel so stupid when I'm like this and to top it all we've got a bbq party to go to later and I just know I'll have to bite my tongue a lot and the birthday girl will figure somethings up and try and give me a grilling and oh my god I'm welling up!!!

Bitzer you better feeling similar lady!!!!!!:p

CAFCGirl

awww confuzzled hun, big fat hugs for you today...

I think we've all hit days like that, I too am having one of those today, went from happy as larry with DH to practically threatening divorce I was so mad....

Couldnt tell you why for the life of me, think its just a bit of life's aggrevations just being at the fore front of my mind, and still not having a positive OPK either!!!

**confuzzled**

Thank CAFCGirl...think it just one of those days where I feel like everything & everyones against me:rolleyes: and the frustration of ttc doesn't help either:rolleyes:

Still no +ve...could it be a dodgy batch?!?!

CAFCGirl

I'm hoping so. I've now got another delivery of the same brand of opks as I was using the first 2 months which i was getting +'s with, so next cycle I'll be using those. I dont think we've managed it this month, going by my cm signs on ff. we've managed to bd just before and just after my fertile period....how annoying!!!

twinklie

Hmmm...can I jump on the OH needs a kick! I'm not in the best mood either. Lots to do and don't seem to be getting anywhere!

MadMac_2

Courgette, if I were you I would not go back on the pill but opt for other means of contraception for now to allow your body to settle and will then be ready for when you do feel the time is right to TTC. But of course I am not you as I would do anything to get a BFP now, even though we are planning the wedding and it will take place before I popped! Hormones can play dreadful havoc with our emotions, so I would blame your moods and changing thoughts on that hun, so don't worry too much about it.

Smartie, try not to think about the chemical pregnancy possibility - just say to yourself you've had one weird cycle and try to look forward to the next one. Remember that illness, stress - even the weather! - can alter our patterns so there could be a multitude of other reasons, x

I'm sorry if I'm missing giving a positive reply to anybody else, but I really am struggling at the moment to hang in there and 'sound' normal. But I feel (ashamedly) kind of relieved TBH that I'm not the only one finding I've lost my PMA - I am normally the one to cheer everybody else up, but try as I might, my front is slipping and I'm terrified others might start to notice my dark mood... thank goodness I have a lovely OH and that we don't really argue about anything - otherwise that might send me over the edge!

So a big huge (((((((hug))))))) to all in need, x

polkadot

MM I think there've been a few dark modds brewing the last few days at least. I too, was quite relieved that I'm not alone. Isn't it so true that sometimes you dont actually want to cheered up though? You just want to be in your dark mood for a little bit and sometimes its quite nice to have company in that I think it comes from boarding school.
confuzzled that is EXACTLY how Im feeling today- although worse than earlier though as DF STILL isnt back. Apparently they parked the car where they collected the street van and DF dropped "friend" at her seminaar. Then the boys got the sofa and took it where it needed to be, then "friends"Oh was collected for bachelors-DF was supposed to pick up "friend" from seminaar in van, return van and collect car (still with me?) "friend" would bring DF home in car. Just had a call now (yes, its 15:50) to say "friends" husband took car keys with to bachelors and so they cant get in the car :rolleyes: I really hope she doesnt come in when she drops DF. The trouble is Im fairly sure he will be feeling as bad as I am because he was looking forward to a weekend at home.

CAFCGirl

OK everyone!!!!

Thats it we cant let it go on any further....

we need positives positives positives....

So..... a bit of a break from it all to say thankyou for what we've got:
Loving partners (who dspite everything) are the ones we want to spend the lives we've got with, and make a new life with....

And we will all have that life we want, we will we will WE WILL!!!!

I've even decided to plan out what i will need to buy when we get our baby, ad how I'm going to decorate our second room....

I MUST NOT GO INTO THE DARKNESS!!!!

cedrickerry

twinklie wrote: »

Hmmm...can I jump on the OH needs a kick! I'm not in the best mood either. Lots to do and don't seem to be getting anywhere!

me too .....hi gals ... been reading and lurking all week, but this does ring so true. Mine is asleep on the sofa in his pjs "watching" the cricket. he got in a strop last night in middle of a dvd, was a pig this morning, and after being nice as pie when i got back from town, is now ......well.......

I've just had second lot of blood tests (all fine first time) and appointment booked with consultant in couple of weeks. I think part of his problem is that out ttc problems are looking like just to do with his issues, and it's me that is turning into a pin cushion already ..... I try to give him credit for this ....but sometimes the behaviour is still too much ......

cedrickerry

CAFCGirl wrote: »

OK everyone!!!!

Thats it we cant let it go on any further....

we need positives positives positives....

So..... a bit of a break from it all to say thankyou for what we've got:
Loving partners (who dspite everything) are the ones we want to spend the lives we've got with, and make a new life with....

And we will all have that life we want, we will we will WE WILL!!!!

I've even decided to plan out what i will need to buy when we get our baby, ad how I'm going to decorate our second room....

I MUST NOT GO INTO THE DARKNESS!!!!

sorry posted my reply before getting to your pleas for pma .... gonna go read in the garden with a choccie cookie (oops that'll be 4 .... no room for t!)