Choosing a name

LabLover

Think im going through what most brides to be go through , and I know its obviously my decision but would like to here what everyone else has done. I like my own surname its faily plain and Ive had i for the last 22 years , lol . My dad is last male with the name , so obviously after he has gone there will be none of us left , if you know what I mean ? The family name will just die. This leaves me feeling very sad and as Im not 100% keen on my OH name I thought I would double barrell. I mentioned this to my OH who thought it was silly and said he would not double barrell , the names done exactly gel 100% but it sounds fine to me. What has everyone else done ? Maybe as time goes by and the wedding draws closer I will learn to love new name ...... it just kinda feels like you loose your identity. Am I being weird or do other people feel the same ?
LL x

debs2327

hi ya i know it will be strange to just have your name changed but its your name if you want to double barrell then do it it sounds like your h2b is worried incase you dont take his name ! but i think both names would be lovely , , dont know if youve got or have any plans to have children but if you did you could always have your dad surname a a middle name in the childs name as thats what weve done and he loves it ,
im quite excited to change my name i`ll be mrs franklin whooo and i love it ,

username456

Hi,

I'm changing my name. This will mean the end of the family name from my dad, but he has brothers who have carried it on and if they've had boys or not I'm not aware. I don't mind my curent surname as there isn't many about where I live, but I have no issues being a 'Mrs X' as opposed to double-barrelling (which sometimes can just be too much - think of the children). It seems twee, but I'd rather 'belong' to my husband than to my father.

If you're worried, you could just keep your current surname.

lilian1977

We are thinking of double barrelling but it sounds far too posh (it'd be very similar to Parker-Bowles!). My brother has the surname but he lives in Russia so his children will have Markova/Markovnich rather than our surname for general formal use. I'm not sure what to do at all, although I'm quite happy to just take OH's as it sounds fine.

TangledMemories_2

I've been going through the same. We get married on 14 August and it's one more thing to get stressed about! Luckily I sign the register in my current name and then decide afterwards.
I'm tempted to take my OH's name, but then I kind of lose my identity. I could double-barrell but as my name is long already, it'll be even more of a mouthful!
OH has even offered to take my name, but it'll make it a bit of a tongue twister!
And to top it all, my Dad wants me to keep my name "to carry on the family name" even though he has two sons!

I think it's going to be one of those things.....I may just have to decide on the spur of the moment. One thing is, I'm not looking forward to having to change my name with the banks, dvla, work lol

LabLover

There is no-one else , my dad has no brothers , there are no male cousins , etc . To explain a little bit about why I feel so defensive over keeping my name , I did have an older brother and we always used to joke and say he better have kids to carry on the name etc, and even if he just had girls he would need to keep going till he had a boy. But my brother died three years ago , and it sounds really daft but Im the oldest now and I feel if I even kept part of my name it would still keep it going. I already have a middle name , but would I still be able to keep my own maiden name as another middle name ? My OH's name isnt awfull , it is a really common name ( not common as in chavvy ) infact there is a huge clan gathering on the 18th of this month as part of the homecoming Scotland campaign for everyone with the same name !!

narabanekeater

I kep mine, infact DH took mine
I think its very personal decision. Theres no way we would have double barrelled as OH previos surname sounded double barrled anyway
Imagine those with double barrelled surnames getting married in years to come. There married surname could be four names long!

Yellowbug

i think you should do what you want, if you really want to keep your name then thats whatyou should do

have you told your h2b why you are so attached to your name? im sure if you did he would help you to work out what you want to do

and of course you can keep your middle name and surname and take his name....there are some people out there with much longer names than that lol

follow your heart and you will be sure to make the right decision

nunnygirl

I'm taking OH's surname when we get married and I'm planning on giving our son (if we have one) my maiden name as a middle name, as it's, I think, a rather nice masculine name.

I think it's all down to personal choice. I'm the only child with my surname, but I am really looking forward to taking my OH's name when we get married, and I know my dad won't be too upset that he will be the last person in his family to have his surname

lilian1977

Have a look here: http://www.ukdp.co.uk/name-change-marriage/ - It gives you lots of options.

Re having your maiden name as a middle name:

You may choose to take your husband's surname and continue using your maiden name as a middle name. This allows you to maintain links with your family name as well as avoiding the perceived pretentiousness associated with having a double-barrelled name.
For example, if Louise Williams married Matthew Rose she would become Mrs Louise Williams Rose. It is also possible for a man to also take his wife's previous surname as a middle name which would allow both couple to share the same middle name and surname. In thisexample, Matthew Rose would then become Matthew Williams Rose. Collectively the couple would be addressed as Mr. and Mrs. Matthew Williams Rose.
If you wish to take this option you will need to apply to change your name by Deed Poll to have your maiden name incorporated in your new name. This will allow you to get your personal records changed into your new name, including the name on your passport.

*Louise*

I had this problem

I love my maiden name, it's traced back to the French Revolution (my ancestors left France to avoid the chop lol) and isn't very common round here. OH's name is traced back through the Scottish clans - so I decided to double barrell mine. They are both ony 5 letters long though, and sit well together (if they were massive names I wouldn't bother) Also, this way I can keep using my maiden name for work purposes.

There was no way I would expect OH to double his name, and our kids all have his - that way we don't have to worry in future about them meeting another D-B person lol.





What annoys me is when people address us as 'Mr and Mrs A *****', using his initial as well as surname. The surname doesn't bother me, but I'm not being known as his first blimmin name as well!!:rolleyes: