6 July DFW Chat Yes, it's Monday Again!

(Land_of)_Maz

E-bay_queen wrote: »

Im back.
Im moving out the family home as he wont move out. Moving in with a friend till i get some money together and get a flat or something. He wonts me to stay here but i cant cos I cant stand to look at home. He make me feel sick! I trying to stay Strong But last night it got a bit to much and just broke down while i was having a walk down the beach. We got a house together, debts, bills and just book a bloody hoilday as well to cuba.

Need to cancelled the holiday and get the Debts cleared asap.

oh EBQ - does he want you to stay and try again? Or is he looking to make a future with this other woman and the child?

I am also moving out of my (non) marital home, but it's my choice to... surely if he's done the dirty, he should have the good grace to move out.....

babes... i know what you're going thru....

Lucifa73

(Land_of)_Maz wrote: »

I decided what to do about Rach's present.....

we have a friend who does all Rachel's beauty treatment, so am sending her a cheque to cover Rach to go for a pedicure or something... no point asking Rach to go anywhere cheaper as she'd never slum it at a college etc, and i know she only really like to go this one woman, so i'll send her a cheque and that's it sorted..

i've drafted a voucher type thing that can go in with her card..

HAPPY BIRTHDAY RACHEL

Please use this voucher next time you go see our chum Laura

Treat your 30 year old feet to a…. PEDICURE

Lots of love from Maz n Erin

Xx x xX

What a great idea Maz:T

(Land_of)_Maz

beanielou wrote: »

Maz~Glad Erin is ok~no news on house?
Can u get time to fill in forms for council?
Cant believe Rach is only 30!!

Wish Id done B&B now but best not as so low in energy.

No news on the house.....

i'm doing forms today...

Are you saying she looks older?! lol!!!

B&B would be ok in theory but i think you've done the right thing, there will be plenty other times! Plus B will bring home mountains of washing, even on a day pass to T in the Park.... you don't need the hassle...

redsquirrel80

That's a brilliant idea Maz

scorgeous

E-bay_queen wrote: »

Im back.
Im moving out the family home as he wont move out. Moving in with a friend till i get some money together and get a flat or something. He wonts me to stay here but i cant cos I cant stand to look at home. He make me feel sick! I trying to stay Strong But last night it got a bit to much and just broke down while i was having a walk down the beach. We got a house together, debts, bills and just book a bloody hoilday as well to cuba.

Need to cancelled the holiday and get the Debts cleared asap.

Can you not just move into the spare room or something? Moving out is not good especially when it comes to breaking down the assets. If you've already moved out he could mess you around.................I think. The guys that have gone through similar would be able to advise more than me

E-bay_queen

h EBQ - does he want you to stay and try again? Or is he looking to make a future with this other woman and the child?

I am also moving out of my (non) marital home, but it's my choice to... surely if he's done the dirty, he should have the good grace to move out.....

babes... i know what you're going thru....

Thank you I dont want to go but i seem to have no chose bout it cos i cant afford it. He wants to try again but i feel to hurt and need space. The other woman came round to the house yesterday and walk in like nothing as happen. Help her self to food and drink my tea and i just went upstairs. I told her she not wanted here but of course little girl is, IF he is there real father. He hurt me so many times lies after lies and missing money which he was giving to the woman before the little girl was even born. Sex in our bed aswel. I now sleep on the floor in the office cos i cant stand him.

I dont know what to do anymore ??

sallyx

Is this the first time she has been to your house EBQ? Did she just come out and tell you then? Im not suprised you feel the way you do and to be honest he doesn't sound like he is about to change. If he was serious about you trying to make things work he would have some respect to how you are feeling right now and not let this woman even enter your house.

Do you own your house? I would seriously take control of the situation and time to start standing up for yourself...let him see you get tough on him and his stupid actions..!!!!!!!

Lucifa73

E-bay_queen wrote: »

Thank you I dont want to go but i seem to have no chose bout it cos i cant afford it. He wants to try again but i feel to hurt and need space. The other woman came round to the house yesterday and walk in like nothing as happen. Help her self to food and drink my tea and i just went upstairs. I told her she not wanted here but of course little girl is, IF he is there real father. He hurt me so many times lies after lies and missing money which he was giving to the woman before the little girl was even born. Sex in our bed aswel. I now sleep on the floor in the office cos i cant stand him.

I dont know what to do anymore ??

So is this woman someone you knew? How can he say he wants to try again but have her come to your home?

(Land_of)_Maz

E-bay_queen wrote: »

Thank you I dont want to go but i seem to have no chose bout it cos i cant afford it. He wants to try again but i feel to hurt and need space. The other woman came round to the house yesterday and walk in like nothing as happen. Help her self to food and drink my tea and i just went upstairs. I told her she not wanted here but of course little girl is, IF he is there real father. He hurt me so many times lies after lies and missing money which he was giving to the woman before the little girl was even born. Sex in our bed aswel. I now sleep on the floor in the office cos i cant stand him.

I dont know what to do anymore ??

babes - if you move out you run the risk of leaving everything you've worked hard to build up in that home... i know he has hurt you immeasurably and he's still being an !!!!!! so i wouldn't trust him to treat you fairly when you've gone.... you could easily end up with more of the debts and less of the assets....

My advice would be to stay put... sleep in a spare bed or sofa, not on the office floor hun....

Have you got kids?

Cancel holiday - very important.

start mentally earmarking what you are taking out of that house with you...

Stop doing anything around the house unless it benefits you... stop shopping for him....

How does your money situation work at the moment...?

Lets be proactive hun.... let's help you sort this out....

Burlesque_Babe

dear god.........she just came into the house and helped herself? Has she no sensitivity?? Your husband needs to be told this is not on.