Daily Chat Thursday 2nd July - Everyone Welcome!!

redsquirrel80

sallyx wrote: »

Blimey Im going to have arms like some bodybuilder with all this digging :eek: Anymore whilst Im at it???

Yes please - but he won't take up much room, unless it's for his ego! :rolleyes:

Aww PAP, that's fab

Pooky

Ohhh Pap - kittens!!! There were 5 listed on my local freecycle yesterday, I'd have liked all of them but my old cat is 16 now and is having trouble with this heat, bringing in 5 kittens wouldn't be fair on him.

Toto - horrible when you have to rehome a pet but you're doing it for the best of reasons.

Sat out in the garden, in full sun, for 20 mins...no itching, no blistering, no allergy!!!! Whooohooo, finally found a cream that works....(well it's worked for 2 days and that's a great start) After Snaggs mentioned the piz buin one I asked a friend if I could use her staff discount to get some...she said to try this one first, she picked it up in Australia and it's ruddy fantastic.....only trouble is, can't seem to find a ukstockist..have just emailed the company who make it for advice.

To celebrate the no itching, we just had chips :j

Snaggles

Toto wrote: »

Ok snags, what do you know about Mr Sunday's history? Is he long out of a long term relationship or new-ish on the single's scene? Has he has many girlfriends in between the last significant and yourself of not?

When you met with him for coffee that day, did it seem like something he was really comfortable with, as if he does it often? or was he as nevous as hell.

Do remember that the one who has changed since the first date is you. When you met him you didn't want to go, you couldn't care less if you saw him or not, in fact, not would have been your choice. So, you may have given off quite strong chase signals and some people really get off on that.

I would go back to being the snags he met that day, I know it's hard but it will tell you if he's into you or if he just doesn't like things too simple.

I honestly don't envy you one bit, it's not too many years ago when I was doing this and it sucks, totally sucks.

Sorry Toto, only just read this from last night, and I'm trying not to ramble on about it any more but will answer it in case anyone else has a clue what's going on!

He was married for 6 years (together for 8), have 2 kids, the youngest is nearly 3, they split up last August, he moved out in October and he has only mentioned one girlfriend, although I don't know if there have been others too. So very similar to me.

On our first date, he didn't seem outwardly nervous, but I got the impression that maybe he was, a bit. I don't think it's something he has done often. It was quite comfortable though, the nicest first date I've ever been on. I was really shocked to find myself enjoying his company so much.

You're right, I've gone from completely uninterested and not even wanting to meet him, to really liking him a lot, in the space of less than 3 weeks. And I suppose that's changed how I am with him.

I flirted really obviously with him in my last text message, and he completely deflected it...but he does have a cheeky sense of humour, so again, still nothing is clear. He could be trying to let me down gently, or he could be assuming we are okay, and just having a laugh with me.

I very nearly sent a reply asking him outright, but I know he's really busy today, and seems quite stressed, so if he's just pre-occupied, and has no intention of dumping me, I will look pretty thoughtless landing something like this on him when he's already snowed under.

I think I might just not reply at all, and see if he contacts me again later. If he likes me, he will be prepared to chase a little bit.

Maybe.

I am rubbish at this stuff!!

postingalwaysposting

Toto ~ So sorry to hear you may have to rehome your cat, but as Pooky says you are doing it for the right reasons

Red ~ Thanks, fingers crossed we can have him. Havnt got anything for him mind but hey ho. Having Thomas means we have some food/litter and stuff. Mum will just have to do a quite ride to the supermarket tonight for kitten stuff

Pooky ~ Bless I couldnt cope with 5 though... Imagine all of them running around your feet at the same time :eek: Aww bless your older cat, we have thomas who is now just turning 4 I think. Hope he doesnt attack this new one :rolleyes:

Well I have been searching for 3 years but I have either missed all of them or they were too far away or too expensive... £100 for a ginger moggy This 'season' I was determined so I have been checking trade it each day... Yesterday I found 5 listing ~ all gone, today 2 listing, first one gone this one no answer... So I left a message and she got back to me. The funny think is she is 2min away in the car :rotfl: Cant wait :j

whatatwit

Snaggs....maybe he just set out to have a bit of fun and is worried about the strong feelings he has.
He might be thinking it's too much too soon and doesn't want to rush anything.
He is probably also thinking of his kids....just as you do....and wonders how they would cope/feel if daddy has a girlfriend.

whatatwit

PAP, I love ginger cats.
Charlie was our first kitty and he was all ginger, he loved chasing leaves and catching butterflies. A real sweetie.

Our cat at the moment is a black imp....who catches birds and never shuts up.

Toto

Snaggles wrote: »

Sorry Toto, only just read this from last night, and I'm trying not to ramble on about it any more but will answer it in case anyone else has a clue what's going on!

He was married for 6 years (together for 8), have 2 kids, the youngest is nearly 3, they split up last August, he moved out in October and he has only mentioned one girlfriend, although I don't know if there have been others too. So very similar to me.

On our first date, he didn't seem outwardly nervous, but I got the impression that maybe he was, a bit. I don't think it's something he has done often. It was quite comfortable though, the nicest first date I've ever been on. I was really shocked to find myself enjoying his company so much.

You're right, I've gone from completely uninterested and not even wanting to meet him, to really liking him a lot, in the space of less than 3 weeks. And I suppose that's changed how I am with him.

I flirted really obviously with him in my last text message, and he completely deflected it...but he does have a cheeky sense of humour, so again, still nothing is clear. He could be trying to let me down gently, or he could be assuming we are okay, and just having a laugh with me.

I very nearly sent a reply asking him outright, but I know he's really busy today, and seems quite stressed, so if he's just pre-occupied, and has no intention of dumping me, I will look pretty thoughtless landing something like this on him when he's already snowed under.

I think I might just not reply at all, and see if he contacts me again later. If he likes me, he will be prepared to chase a little bit.

Maybe.

I am rubbish at this stuff!!

Ok, well, he doesn't sound like a serial dater then so that's a good thing. I like a bit of nervousness when I first meet someone, it shows that they aren't just putting notches on the bedpost and do have some sense of self doubt (which is a good thing in my book having spent 4.5 years with the ex who thought he was gods gift to life in general).

It might just be stress on his part, being comfortable now and generally moving the relationship on from full on chase to boyfriend girlfriend 'pipe and slippers'. It's no fun sitting seeing a change and not knowing why though.

Knowing blokes as I do, I would just come out and tell him what you are thinking. They are hopeless with hints and clues, they need 'this is the problem, what is the solution?' So, as hard as it is I would send a message saying 'I'm seeing a change in you since last week, is there a problem? Do you want to see me again or shall we call it a day?' I like you a lot and hope you do want to carry on but if not that's cool too.

He might be feeling a bit scared having just come out of a long term relationship, it suddenly might have hit him that you are becoming a couple and he might need a while to get his head around it all. Honestly though snags, we could go on all day guessing what (if anything) the problem is when the only person who can answer is him.

So, be brave little snaglett and ask him. You won't seem needy just someone who can't be bothered with game playing. The not knowing is much worse than any answer you will get. he might even be really surprised you feel like this.

scaredy_cat

Toto wrote: »

Ok, well, he doesn't sound like a serial dater then so that's a good thing. I like a bit of nervousness when I first meet someone, it shows that they aren't just putting notches on the bedpost and do have some sense of self doubt (which is a good thing in my book having spent 4.5 years with the ex who thought he was gods gift to life in general).

It might just be stress on his part, being comfortable now and generally moving the relationship on from full on chase to boyfriend girlfriend 'pipe and slippers'. It's no fun sitting seeing a change and not knowing why though.

Knowing blokes as I do, I would just come out and tell him what you are thinking. They are hopeless with hints and clues, they need 'this is the problem, what is the solution?' So, as hard as it is I would send a message saying 'I'm seeing a change in you since last week, is there a problem? Do you want to see me again or shall we call it a day?' I like you a lot and hope you do want to carry on but if not that's cool too.

He might be feeling a bit scared having just come out of a long term relationship, it suddenly might have hit him that you are becoming a couple and he might need a while to get his head around it all. Honestly though snags, we could go on all day guessing what (if anything) the problem is when the only person who can answer is him.

So, be brave little snaglett and ask him. You won't seem needy just someone who can't be bothered with game playing. The not knowing is much worse than any answer you will get. he might even be really surprised you feel like this.

*pinches Auntie Toto's advice and stores it on phone!!!!!*:D

pepe2008

Bit too close to a hole being filled with useless men to stay here!

Snaggles!!!...been here before haven't we? let him do a bit of chasing, if he doesn't then that saves you beating yourself up over another waster not worthy of you!
Meant with much love:D.

Toto

scaredy_cat wrote: »

*pinches Auntie Toto's advice and stores it on phone!!!!!*:D

Oh bless you, not you too. Men are such hard work and far more complicated than any woman I know.