Teacher assaulted my son - what to do?

mspig

jinky67 wrote: »

You want a reply, you will get one......

Quite frankly, as I am sure most sensible people would see it, was an accident. I would certainly not be rushing down to the school to complain or talk to the head or a solicitor.
What a complete over reaction


It is a total lack of respect though. Pupils are in school to LEARN, not to talk to their friends.

I was hit once when the teacher flung a duster at the pupil next to me, did i swear? Did i go running home to tell my Mum?
NO, I accepted it was not meant for me and it was an accident, did i lose respect for the Teacher? NO, I did not

And unless directed by the teacher, pupils should NOT be talking in class, they should be working or listening

Kids do talk in class - and kids do get told off - it happened when my granparents were at school, my parents and when i was at school. The difference is that it was exceptable to use physical punishment on our grandparent/parents generation, and wasen't unheard of when i was at school - i had my hair pulled on a daily basis by one teacher, chalk board dusters thrown numerous times, and one teacher even went as far as threatening a pupil(though he did get sacked). Its now definetly not acceptable.

We can all sit here and say kids shouldn't do this and shouldn't do that, but we have all been kids and i can guarentee that at some point all of us have spoken in a classroom when we shouldn't of been, or done something we shouldn't have been - as i doubt everyone on this earth is perfect - its not natural to be perfect -(not all the time anyway:p)

Zazen999

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Zazen999 wrote: »

The important thing is; is he now back in a class or still in some sort of isolation? As it's his education and exams that is really the issue here.

Or was it just the 2 days isolation?

Has he learnt not to talk in class?

Is he being taught by the same teacher and what is the relationship now?

bingo_babe

...Also I have accepted that my child should have been paying attention.

However I'm not sure throwing a broom head at him - striking his face - is a proportionate punishment for the teacher to administer for this misdemeanour.

Curv

There are 2 entirely separate issues here - the first is the incident in question and the second is your displeasure with the way it has been dealt with by the school.

Try to take the emotive tone out of the way you handle the second issue and you'll probably get a decent response from the LEA. But if you insist on banging on about how your baby has been wronged and is suffering terribly at the hands of this villainous teacher, you'll probably not get much of a hearing anywhere.

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bingo_babe wrote: »

I wonder how many of the people here who suggest that I just accept what has happened as a part of life would accept a broom head being thrown at their own child by a teacher.

I also find it odd how an assumption is made it was an accident. If an object is thrown towards a child it is entirely foreseeable that it would hit them isn't it?

Let's take a step back to what your little darling was doing in the first place to disrupt the class to such a degree. Hmm? You feel like telling us what your little darling really did in the first place?

Nah, you will just carry on focusing on the teacher because you know that your little darling is spoilt and that anything he does will always be right in your eyes and he knows you will always defend him as you're doing so here.

Do you actually accept that your little darling did anything wrong?

chatta

I think for you (and would be for me) the worst bit is the way this is dragging on, it could and should have been dealt with on the day..... Your son and you and the head and teacher sat in a room and a good talk about the incident..... Instead it has dragged on with your son excluded and endless time spent on letters and e-mails etc. Common sense has gone out the window replaced by reports etc. Good luck to you and I really hope your son gets good results in his exams xx

Idiophreak

bingo_babe wrote: »

I also find it odd how an assumption is made it was an accident.

It would be odd to find it any other way. Whether you like to think it or not, teachers are hardworking professionals that have a great deal of passion for what they do. They're paid pathetic money for the hours they put in and every day they're forced to walk a tightrope of whether they'll get sued for doing this, that or the other, or otherwise enrage children's parents.

Frankly, it's unthinkable that in this day and age a teacher would try to hurt a child (and in doing so most likely lose their job) without *serious* provocation. (I did once see a teacher hit a child - after he'd been sworn at, spat at and been nearly pushed down a flight of stairs...) And since you're insisting your son didn't provoke the teacher, the assumption has to be that the teacher didn't intend to harm your son.

bingo_babe wrote: »

What gives the teacher to behave in such an unprofessional and reckless manner and expect not to be held accountable for this?

Who's saying they're not being held accountable? I thought the head said it had been dealt with?

This comes back *again* to what you want. You're not worried about accountability, are you...It's not enough for you that the teacher be warned, or spoken to inhouse. You want them sacked, or warned, or struck off, or some grand gesture to show what an awful human being they are for daring to accidently *almost* injure little johnny... In short, you want to ruin the teacher's career, one way or another, for one stupid mistake.

Mitchka

I'm amazed at the level of animosity in this thread.

A teacher has reacted inappropriately to a situation. Surely a more appropriate response would have been to remove the child from the lesson if he was being quite as disruptive as people here imagine?

The school then failed to keep mother informed of the outcome of the investigation who then had to write a letter to the headteacher.

The headteacher is then unwilling to show witness statements and seemed unable to deal with the parent face to face. Any wonder this parent is upset?

All a bit shambolic, no? Any teachers out there who can provide helpful comments on the way forward?

bingo_babe

urbankoala wrote:

Do you actually accept that your little darling did anything wrong?

Read my previous posts - I've stated that he (among a small group) weren't paying attention - nothing more than that. I have also said that my son is not spoilt or mollycoddled. If my son had done the same thing to a teacher he would have probably been expelled - and rightly so. It works both ways - so why should the school turn a blind eye to this? Is this really want we want from our schools?

Most sane people that have moved on from Victorian times will agree that it is unacceptable for a teacher to respond in the way he did.

My question was how best to deal with it.

Curv

bingo_babe wrote: »

My question was how best to deal with it.

You've been given the answer to this several times. Repeating the question until you get an answer you like is something my three year old tries on.

You've tried solicitors and they aren't interested. You've tried the Board of Governors and THEY aren't interested.

You could try getting the Police to charge the teacher with assault, but I suspect they won't be interested. Call the LEA and Ofsted to see what they have to say, but I suspect they will be of the same opinion.

There is a reason so many people are telling you to go away away and it isn't a great big conspiracy... you work it out.