Teacher assaulted my son - what to do?

jinky67

bingo_babe wrote: »

Um no, it's because people are jumping to conclusions without checking the facts. Or answering my initial question asking for practical advice. None of you know me or my child, and so your moral opinions and judgments are irrelevant. we are going on the facts YOU provided

Anybody who believes that a teacher - an adult - a trained professional - has a right to throw an object at my child are at best, best ignored. It is they that should 'get real'. yet YOU stated he threw the object at the table, NOT your son. Make up your mind

I am a fair person and I'm not prepared to accept how the school has dealt with this. Why not? Because you dont like the outcome? Any parent that would stand aside and do nothing shouldn't be a parent. Shame on any of you that condone this sort of behaviour from a teacher. Shame on you for pursuing this ridiculous idea that you have a right to know of the schools internal disciplinary proceedure

Same question to jinky67 - how would you feel about it if a child lost some teeth or an eye - would it still be ok for a teacher to throw an object at a child - or is that different?

Or perhaps this question:

It would still have been an accident. The fact of the matter is this.....your son, along with others was not paying attention in class. The teacher was trying to get their attention. Which he did. End of.

Or it would be in most people's eyes, but no, you decide you want more. You are blowing this out of all proprtion

SugarSpun

I can't believe this is still going on. There's been no contact between the headteacher and the OP for six weeks, her son's had mediation sessions, disciplinary action has been taken and she's still seething because she's not seen the teacher publicly flogged and she's discovered that the DPA even applies to her.

The only judgement I'm making is of the OP. Her son, by everyone's admission, wasn't paying attention and got aggressive. The teacher tried to stop the kids talking multiple times and lost control. Both of these are spur of the moment mistakes. The OP's been ranting about this demon teacher for three months now, because the school's internal disciplinary procedures are, in accordance with the law, internal and confidential. She refused a meeting with the head because related documentation that is protected by law was not given to her. If I were the head I'd assume the matter was closed - there's nothing else to be done.

Money_maker

#15 gives you the answer.

splishsplash

I would go nuts if a teacher threw anything in the general direction of my child for talking in class. I would definitely demand a meeting with the school to express my dissatisfaction, and would want to meet with the teacher involved also, just to be sure that there was absolutely no confusion about my unhappiness. I would not expect to be made aware of any internal disciplinary action against the teacher - that's the school's business, not mine - I would be satisfied by being told that there was some action taken.

I don't understand, OP, why you were insistent on getting the written statements? Were you intending to go for blood or compensation from the outset? The talk about police and lawyers and written records suggests that you wanted more than a simple apology...

I would also be getting some answers about why my child was isolated for two days. I doubt that's on foot of this one incident only. Is your child generally disruptive in class? Are his grades good? Is he engaged and interested in his schoolwork and homework? That could be something to be worked on at home with you.

I have to say, if my child was involved in this incident, I would be sure to make it crystal clear to him/her that s/he had to bear some responsibility in this matter, and that s/he would be closely monitored by me working with the school for some time to come.

Three months later, I would have put the incident behind me and moved on with my life. That you haven't - despite the mediation sessions being put in place and the fact that the teacher in question is being nice to your son - leads me to think you're not being entirely rational in your reactions, or that you just want money at the end of this.

You also messed up in your attitude to meeting with the school. By demanding written records from the start, you bypassed the chance to informally and internally sort it out, and escalated it straight away to formal, and that means the school will be alerted to protect themselves immediately, as demonstrated by the head having to seek advice.

MrsTinks

Right gang - I'm afraid that I really don't think going over the same arguments again and again is neither money saving (this is technically MSE boards still ) nor constructive for the OP.
OP can I suggest you get some assistance in your quest against the school from a professional body like maybe the CAB or the mediation service that is in place to liaise between parents and schools?

Best of luck.