Teacher assaulted my son - what to do?

Mitchka

This thread is unbelievable.

So people are suggesting that it's ok to throw an object at a child when they are not paying attention? That it's ok to isolate this child after the event?

jinky67

Mitchka wrote: »

This thread is unbelievable.

So people are suggesting that it's ok to throw an object at a child when they are not paying attention? That it's ok to isolate this child after the event?

Quite frankly yes.
The object, it would seem, was not flung AT him but close to him and bounced.
HE should have been paying attention, class is not for social networking

If my son came home with the same story i would say "tough luck, sunshine, maybe you will listen in future"

Mitchka

jinky67 wrote: »

The object, it would seem, was not flung AT him but close to him and bounced.

Oh that's ok then:rolleyes:

Seriously, these teachers should be setting an example not throwing objects. What's wrong with a quiet word in the boy's ear?

One of the best teachers I had was quite a quiet individual but had perfect control over her classes. Perfectly behaved kids would leave her class and cause havoc elsewhere.I don't recall any flinging of objects to get attention.

xmaslolly76

Jinky if it was the other way round would you be so flipant about it?

No everyone would be up in arms about it and the child would probably be excluded from school so why the hell is it ok for a teacher to act agressively and get away with it. It is no way to set an example to teenagers and this incident may have caused no physical damage this time but when i was at school our history teacher hurled a board rubber at a fellow pupil and cut his head open. it was irresponsible of the teacher to throw a brush across the room not knowing who or what it would hit and he should be disaplined in some way for his actions. I do agree the child needs a good talking to about paying attention in class.

jinky67

Maybe the teacher had already spoken to him?

i think you forget kids these days have no respect for authority, and this thread shows why

Susan_Frost

Take a friend/witness with you to any meetings so you can verify what was said.

Take notes yourself, you dont have to rely on the Head Teacher doing it. Make your own records of events.

Your son presumeably knows who was in class and who was a witness, so why not ask them directly to make a statement to you of what they saw.

Whether the teacher meant to hit your child or not, he/she did a dangerous thing by throwing an object anyway. It could easily have hit someone else as well, then what?

I would see it through.

And tell your lad to take lessons a bit more seriously in future, he also learnt nothing while messing about !!!

Susan_Frost

Jinky yes this thread does show why children have no respect - because some adults act in a way they would not allow children to act.

How do you respect someone who throws something at you as a way of dealing with things.

Jinky, if your child had been a innocent observer in all this, just one of the class, but it had hit him instead, would that have been alright because the teacher was not aiming it at him? Reply required please !!!

pinkshoes

bingo_babe wrote: »

He was merely talking with some kids and the teacher lost his temper and threw a broom head from about 3 metres. The teacher was at one end of a long desk, my son at the other. He was hurt, but there were no physical injuries.

Your son was in a classroom FULL of other children. Have any of those children come forward to support your son and back him up? Kids will be quite loyal when it comes to teachers!!

Seeing it from the teacher's point of view, your son was being disruptive, so they probably just threw the broom head near him to make him jump, but it accidently hit the desk and bounced up. No teacher in their right mind would directly throw something at a child nowadays, knowing it would immediately cost them their job.

No harm was done, & it was quite likely an accident. You weren't in the classroom yourself, and only have a 15 year old boy's word for it. At 15, I certainly would have over-exagerated the incident!! And although you might not think he's aggressive, perhaps his behaviour can differ infront of his peer group? Mine certainly used to!! At home I was a nice polite girl, and at school during GSCEs I was gobby and obnoxious!

Think very carefully about taking any further action. How does your son feel about this?

Doozergirl

The thread title says a lot to me. It's clear that the object wasn't meant to hit your son yet the thread title says 'teacher assualted my son'. You should climb down at least a litle bit and try to undetstand that your son's side of the story isn't going to be the absolute fact and that there will be another side to the story.

Honestly, I never behaved in a way that would have caused a teacher to get that frustrated with me.

In the same situation I would have asked politely of the school for an account of what happened, recognising the fact that my son must also have done something to prompt a reaction from the teacher. But I'd really not be happy that my son was not behaving correctly and I'm not sure that my first instinct would be to jump up and protect him, at 15? I'd worry that I was reinforcing or justifying his behaviour through trying to have the teacher punished for what was an unhappy accident. We all know they wouldn't have thrown it intending for it to hit and I'm sure that the result meant they won't do it again.

I'm a little dubious about your asking one polite question of the head teacher and them refusing to continue the meeting. I think you need to establish what it is that you want from them - Your list of options a-f, none of them appear to be seeking any kind of resolution; just kicking up trying to leave them to decide what it is that you are looking for. What are you looking for? Them to simply admit 'the truth' - when your account to us clearly says you've already decided on what that is

Indout96

What was a "BROOM HEAD" doing in a class room, was it just a board duster as others have asked? If so maybe the amount of exaggeration needs taking into acount.