**HAPPY BIRTHDAY SPUD - Daily Chat Tuesday 30th June 2009

sammy115

becky_rtw wrote: »

DD - I think you should quit because its obviously not the right place for you - take some time out and then try to find something that does work for you...

But its tough if money is tight as well...

Having tried to be a SAHM its really tough, long days with kids chip away at your confidence.

However I do get the feeling that you are not happy and how do you know if you don't try it DD. I just know that you should be very disciplined about being a SAHM and I have to admit I still struggle now and I am combing working from home with being a SAHM.. I am all over the place trying to do many things at once but not getting anything done properly, but its early days and I am hoping practise will make perfect.

redsquirrel80

Snaggles wrote: »

Happy birthday Spud!!!

Aww brilliant, a birthday Spud! :T Happy Birthday Spud! xxx

Eurgh it is all clammy and warm here this morning - well it's nice outside but nasty in the office.

DD - if you can't see anyway the job can get better, and you can manage without the money then I would seriously think about leaving (well I'm sure you have done that!).

Need to find some sort of motivation today but really can't be bothered :rolleyes:

sammy115

Ellidee wrote: »

Morning all btw ! I have missed you guys and all your news. I had a quick read of yesterday's chat so I want to send hugs to Bookie and Maz but would love for someone to bring me up to date with any important stuff I have missed- Leeds ? Take That ? XX

Leeds was fab:T Take That were unmissable:rotfl::D However, I managed to miss it (but thats a story in itself - I am sure some kind soul will fill you in)

bookseller1980

I only went to toddler group once with DD1. The mums spent theor time talking about the mums who weren't there so that was me out of there.

DD - I know it's slightly different but I have spent months going round in circles trying to make a decision. I'm scared silly (will have no income) but I know it is the right choice and I can't wait to walk out of here next week. It sounds like you have a good 2-3 years to find a job you like.

sammy115

DD - you can get back into work after being a SAHM. I did after I first tried it years ago and it lead to a whole new career.....

But I think its good to keep your mind active keep studying and doing things for yourself ie running. I also don't do toddler groups...

Toto

daphne_descends wrote: »

Thanks Becky and Bookie - money-wise yes it would be okay, because my salary pays for nursery, cleaners (would cancel obviously), parking at work - there is not much left after that. I just worry that I do get something out of 'having a job' that I don't know I'd miss until it's gone - does that make ANY sense?! But I have been having this conversation with myself for months and I'm not getting any happier

The only thing, is that it is secure. OH is a contractor. Currently he's at the BBC so safe for a good year or two... but you never know. While my salary is eaten up, if he DID lose his job, we'd stop the cleaners, pull Elliot out of nursery, he'd drive me to work - so we'd have some money. It is just that tiny bit of fear at the back of our minds. He is good at what he does and always has interest in him but y'know... recession... but can I submit myself to another year or two or three of misery 'just in case'? And by that time Elliot will be off to school and I will have lost that chance.

Sorry, I go around in circles over this, OH says 'do what you want' though does listen and support, my mum is the cautious voice who makes me doubt myself, it is hard to know what is right.

Am really off now so kick me if I come back without saying I've done the blinking essay

Ellidee, I have not been around until last week but welcome back :T

And Toto - I'll give you a hug rather than a kick, hope things go right for you today x

Daph you get one life honey and that goes in the blink of an eye. There is always a 'what if' or a 'yeah but' to stop us doing stuff we want to, or, in your case to keep you doing something you don't want to do.

Hubby might lose his job but it doesn't sound likely, and, even if he did, things will work out. I find these things ususally do. None of you will be left to starve and it's not as if your salary is crucial to the running of the house, is it.

These days I try to make a point of doing things which will make me happy and not do things which I know will make me miserable. It's a shame the rest of the world seems to want to force misery on me but when you are in a good place in your life it's a lot easier to bounce back with a stuff em attitude.

With all you have been through lately this is the perfect time to kick back a little, get yourself in a happier place and to spend some time with your beautiful little boy, because that time can never be replaced.

sammy115

Changes in the welfare state since the 50's easy peasy

In the 50's people worked hard and fended for themselves. If they didn't work they ended up in the poor house.

Fast forward to the 90's. You only get welfare state if you beg and then only if you are lucky. However, if you have a drug, alcohol or some other issue that is probably too politically incorrect to mention in an open forum you can have anything you like as long as you haven't worked hard all your life.

bookseller1980

I am trying frantically to generate enough cashflow to supply a huge school order with 30% profit. Or should I just admit defeat and let them down.

I also have to write a CV by Thursday! :eek:

redsquirrel80

Grrrr... computer rage :mad:

Toto

daphne_descends wrote: »

VERY well put! The one I tried a few times was like two hours of being forced to smile and boast about the things Elliot can do - which was great, the other mothers talking about how their baby can count to three (hmm, really?) and love asparagus and there's me going, well, he likes to stuff socks in his mouth, and he LOVES Skips

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

That's because you are a normal mum. You know full well that these mums sit there going on about how their 18 month old has mastered algebra and will only eat organic fois gras, then they go home via McDonalds and shove them in front of CBeebies like the rest of us.