HOw do I manage all the presents my 6 year old will be getting for birthday

Mumto2

My 6 yr old has just returned from a bowling party. Apparently the whole class was invited, along with some siblings. 8 bowling lanes had been hired. Party bags are supplied by the venue (imo not bad quality), however these had been supplemented by 2 additional toys and more sweets.

I have booked a bowling party for my dd in a months time (quite small scale compared to this!!). She looked in her brothers party bag and said 'wow, look what we'll get in ours Mum'. I don't think so... :rolleyes:

Janepig

It does seem that the story has changed somewhat since the OP. And the OP does seem to have developed into some kind of amateur saint!!

Anyway, I've just come back from a birthday party in a community centre hall with a children's entertainer and most of the children from DD's class, and afew others were there so about 35ish in total, where everyone afaik took a prezzie so that's 60+ prezzies for the parents because the birthday boys are twins!!!!! :rotfl:Good luck to them I say.

Slightly OT, but I also discovered today that there's another "class" party on Friday, which I knew nothing about because DD hasn't been invited, along with one or two others, but it's okay, because although the child whose party it is is lovely, I hate her two faced lying trollop of a mother so it saves me the bother of explaining to DD why she's not going!! And I'm not alone because none of the mums who had been invited are going either!! And truly we're not a cliquey bunch of b1tches, but this mother is totally horrible, and in fairness I don't think her little girl and DD play together much anyway.

Jxx

fernliebee

Janepig wrote: »

It does seem that the story has changed somewhat since the OP. And the OP does seem to have developed into some kind of amateur saint!!

Anyway, I've just come back from a birthday party in a community centre hall with a children's entertainer and most of the children from DD's class, and afew others were there so about 35ish in total, where everyone afaik took a prezzie so that's 60+ prezzies for the parents because the birthday boys are twins!!!!! :rotfl:Good luck to them I say.

Slightly OT, but I also discovered today that there's another "class" party on Friday, which I knew nothing about because DD hasn't been invited, along with one or two others, but it's okay, because although the child whose party it is is lovely, I hate her two faced lying trollop of a mother so it saves me the bother of explaining to DD why she's not going!! And I'm not alone because none of the mums who had been invited are going either!! And truly we're not a cliquey bunch of b1tches, but this mother is totally horrible, and in fairness I don't think her little girl and DD play together much anyway.

Jxx

I could never leave 1 or 2 out. If your having a class party then everyone gets an invite, if not you just invite their immediate friends. That just shows that your feelings about the mum are right! Horrible cow.

Janepig

fernliebee wrote: »

I could never leave 1 or 2 out. If your having a class party then everyone gets an invite, if not you just invite their immediate friends. That just shows that your feelings about the mum are right! Horrible cow.

Well that just cemented my feelings towards her really. I've had parties where just the girls in the class are invited, and then last year I had a joint party with another mum so that we could invite all the class. This year was back to just girls again. But I could never cherry pick, certainly not while they're this young and haven't really formed cliques of their own.

Certainly DD has her special friends, but they all play together in the yard and they all get on well. Looking at who has and hasn't been invited there seems to be no rhyme or reason to it, just a random pick. I couldn't do it like that myself - or if I did, for instance if it was a cinema trip with a handfull of close buddies, then I wouldn't do it through the school, I'd approach the mums myself.

DD hasn't mentioned this party so I'm guessing it was lucky the invites went out on Friday when they get their homework bags to bring home and the teacher has obviously sneaked them into the bags without the kids seeing.

Jxx

helwarren

Anyway, I've just come back from a birthday party in a community centre hall with a children's entertainer and most of the children from DD's class, and afew others were there so about 35ish in total, where everyone afaik took a prezzie so that's 60+ prezzies for the parents because the birthday boys are twins!!!!! :rotfl:Good luck to them I say.


Jxx[/QUOTE]

This is why I started reading this thread - the week before xmas my twins will be hitting 5. Start school in seperate classes in September so will want to invite different people. No way I would cater for 2 classes so I hope they don't ask but going from my older childs reception year it does seem to be the norm these days.
Its all gone way over the top in my opinion - my birthday is in january and i remember usually having 8/9 friends round and getting boxes of matchmakers -probably xmas leftovers, but it was enough.

peachyprice

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Spendless

helwarren wrote: »

Anyway, I've just come back from a birthday party in a community centre hall with a children's entertainer and most of the children from DD's class, and afew others were there so about 35ish in total, where everyone afaik took a prezzie so that's 60+ prezzies for the parents because the birthday boys are twins!!!!! :rotfl:Good luck to them I say.


Jxx

This is why I started reading this thread - the week before xmas my twins will be hitting 5. Start school in seperate classes in September so will want to invite different people. No way I would cater for 2 classes so I hope they don't ask but going from my older childs reception year it does seem to be the norm these days.
Its all gone way over the top in my opinion - my birthday is in january and i remember usually having 8/9 friends round and getting boxes of matchmakers -probably xmas leftovers, but it was enough.[/QUOTE]IME reception has often been 'whole class' invite. These start dwindling from year 1 to smaller parties. Might not be so in schools where there is only 1 class per school year, but it's what I've found with mine (3 classes in their years) and also my sister with twins (2 classes in their year but both twins same class).

Janepig

That's how it's been with DD - in the nursery class it was a whole class invite, perhaps even in Reception, but year 1 has seen the invites dwindle as the children have formed closer friendships with afew others. But there's always been alot of parties where two or three have clubbed together to have a party (DD's last two have been with others) and that saves alot and also means you can invite more children than you would otherwise be able to afford to. DD's sixth birthday party cost me £22 including a cake!

Anyway, by way of update on the party I mentioned in a previous post - DD got invited on Thursday, the DAY BEFORE the party. I had a feeling she would because everyone I knew who had been invited had declined so numbers had to be made up somehow!! I was so cross about it, how horrible is that? Anyway, I didn't RSVP - the mother in question is lucky her RSVP wasn't the invite ripped up and given back in the envelope!!

I've seen photos from the party anyway, and the children were sitting on the floor eating the party food on paper plates, which I'm sorry but I wouldn't be too thrilled about. I've been to one previous party like that, when DD was two and they had plastic sheets on the floor and the children were given hotdogs. My children don't eat off the floor in my house, much less the dirty floor in a community centre!!!

Jxx

3plus1

fernliebee wrote: »

I could never leave 1 or 2 out.

My mum said that when I was little. So, against my wishes, she invited the class bully to my first proper birthday party. I had a miserable time. To this date, I have never had another party and I never really celebrate my birthday. Reading that back, I sound really traumatised. I did have a happy childhood though, promise!

I think when you're young, it's fairly common for children to invite the whole of their class to their birthday party. Children end up being invited who don't really know the birthday girl or boy, which makes present buying for the parents fun when their child can't give any clue as to what to get. Gift lists are a good practical solution in theory, but I can't see them ever going down well in this country. It's just the way most people are here.

The British thing would be to say nothing, take what you're given (if anything) and then recycle any unwanted gifts through giving them to other children at parties or giving them to charity. It's a bit early in the year, but a great way to get rid of unwanted toys is to donate them to giving tree or shoebox appeals. Making up a shoebox is a lot more fun than putting toys in a sack and dropping them off at a charity shop. From what the OP has said about her son, he might enjoy making up his own shoebox for another boy who isn't as lucky as him? You can't tape up the box, but you can decorate the box and the lid and choose what to go in one. It could be fun to do, whilst reinforcing values about charity at the same time.

DianneB

donate to charites that collect for children in Hospitals or less fortunate. . . . .

Hi this might sound weird but please think before donating toys to hospitals at christmas!!! Unfortunately my daughter has a serious genetic condition and has had to spend some time in hospital over christmases and they are inundated with toys, really stacked out and don't know what to do with them!! Seriously, these children aren't poor or deprived, they are sick and have families who are already over compensating because they are in hospital. Local shops and businesses give loads already, round here the radio station does a 'gift drive'. IMO this is such a waste when other charities could so so much with the money spent on toys.