It seems my parents are not good enough

rosyw

Have to agree with others on tnis one, NO WAY would I let your mother look after your child in her own home!
I look after my 7 month old grand daughter while my daughter and SIL, who live with me, are at work, I have 2 dogs, one of them a Rotweiller, the biggest, softest dog I have owned, the other is a Yorkie, I trust the Yorkie less! I would NEVER leave either dog alone with my grand daughter, if they need to be shut in an other room then so be it! and my house is CLEAN! the idea of leaving a baby with anyone whose house is not very clean and who has a ealous dog loose in the house fills me with horror! ANY dog can snap and do major damage, or worse, to a small child, regardless of breed or temperament.

OrkneyStar

I would not be concerned about a slightly dirty/messy house,.....after all your mum brought you up and you are alive!
I would be concerned about the dog though and for that reason ask mum comes to yours, if she won't then I really think you need to find alternative care for that day.

Bitsy_Beans

What concerns me is your mums' complete lack of regard for your request to keep the dog contained. If she can't mind your child the way you wish her to then dog or no dog this issue will rears it's ugly head in one form or another. when my mum had my son 3 times a week she asked me for any specific instructions eg what snacks he could have etc etc.

SugarSpun

We'll be staying with my parents over Christmas. They have a badly behaved miniature dog, and we're already discussing how best to keep dog and baby happy without compromising the safety of either.

So far, I've bought a travel cot from ebay with mesh sides to act as a baby cage for when the baby's playing on the floor, which is the dog's space. That way she's visible and smellable, but not reachable and also can't reach out and grab the dog. If the baby's not in the baby cage, she'll be in the arms of a parent or relative and the dog will either be under close supervision by another relative or closed into another room.

The dog's never done more than growl or bark at a person, and we're not sure he knows how to bite people. But he's used to being the King of the Floor and the centre of attention so we're not taking any chances. If he snaps at the baby he'll either be relegated to the kitchen for the duration of our stay or we'll move to a hotel. Baby > dog. It's that simple.

*Louise*

SugarSpun wrote: »

Baby > dog. It's that simple.

Sums it all up really.

Nicki

kazmeister wrote: »

but I have told my daughter on many occasions that if she antagonises the dog it will bite. She chooses to ignore me and her dad and she does get bitten.

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and you are happy with sending the message to your child that the dog is more important than she is?

Unless by "antagonise" you mean that your child is mistreating the dog, eg by pulling its tail or taking biscuits out of its bowl while it is eating, then imho it is wholly unacceptable to blame her for the dog being badly trained and antagonistic. If she is doing those things to the dog, then I'd say its not really fair on the dog to keep it if your daughter won't behave kindly around it. My parents had a vicious dog when I was about the same age as your DD who bit myself and my sister and many of our friends on several occasions, for such "antagonising" crimes as singing, dancing, playing games, etc in its presence. As adults we are less than impressed that our parents would rather have kept the dog and suppressed these normal parts of childhood life. Still, we all have different priorities in life

kazmeister

Nicki wrote: »

:eek:

and you are happy with sending the message to your child that the dog is more important than she is?

Unless by "antagonise" you mean that your child is mistreating the dog, eg by pulling its tail or taking biscuits out of its bowl while it is eating, then imho it is wholly unacceptable to blame her for the dog being badly trained and antagonistic. If she is doing those things to the dog, then I'd say its not really fair on the dog to keep it if your daughter won't behave kindly around it. My parents had a vicious dog when I was about the same age as your DD who bit myself and my sister and many of our friends on several occasions, for such "antagonising" crimes as singing, dancing, playing games, etc in its presence. As adults we are less than impressed that our parents would rather have kept the dog and suppressed these normal parts of childhood life. Still, we all have different priorities in life

No my child is more important to me than the dog and for 99% of the time the child and the dog play brilliantly together and enjoy each other's company. If I chose to get rid of the dog my daughter would never forgive me but she has been told that if the dog EVER draws blood she is gone because I am aware that they get a taste for it. I would NEVER leave my dog alone with anyone elses child.