It seems my parents are not good enough

richardw

If they are hungry Dogs will eat flesh.

sarymclary

Glamazon wrote: »

I think it does depend on the dog - my mum has a gorgeous labrador who wouldn't say boo to a goose whilst my sister had a staffordshire bull terrier.

I would never leave my baby in the same property as the staff as I've seen it go for my Mums dog but I would be happy for Mum to look after baby with the Labrador as long as dog and baby were not left alone in a room.

My sister worked for a Pet Insurance company, in the claims department, and the highest proportion of claims came in from Labrador owners or those attacked by Labradors. She said it was more common for 'family' dogs to be the cause of incidents than any other, which she found very surprising. It could possibly be due to their popularity there are more of them owned, but the fact that they are the cause of so many more claims is surely telling?

Pee

Glamazon wrote: »

I think it does depend on the dog - my mum has a gorgeous labrador who wouldn't say boo to a goose whilst my sister had a staffordshire bull terrier.

I would never leave my baby in the same property as the staff as I've seen it go for my Mums dog but I would be happy for Mum to look after baby with the Labrador as long as dog and baby were not left alone in a room.

I think the dog thing is an issue but don't think the untidiness is - a bit of dirt is good for kids! I would say that as long as there were no dangers in the house then it would be OK - dangers could include the dog.

It does depend on the dog, I agree, but the dog not just the breed.

I think a grandchild going into the dog's home is always going to be a potential problem with a dog and that wherever possible a child should not be left alone with a dog, but the kennel club recommend two breeds of dogs with children, one of them being Staffies.

mountainofdebt

If you still have any doubts read
this : http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/wales/8118708.stm

shelley_crow

Pee wrote: »

It does depend on the dog, I agree, but the dog not just the breed.

I think a grandchild going into the dog's home is always going to be a potential problem with a dog and that wherever possible a child should not be left alone with a dog, but the kennel club recommend two breeds of dogs with children, one of them being Staffies.

Completely agree, here is a good article about Dogs/ Staffies and children

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/magazine/7239464.stm

Bettyboop

KellyWelly wrote: »

Surely this is a troll???

I'm curious but why is this a troll? I am failing to understand how people can figure this out and on what basis?

Bettyboop

I agree that you should in no way leave your baby with your mother. If your child was ever attacked how guilty would you feel? And only so little. Dogs can kill and as the dog sort of owns the place the baby will come second. If the house is dirty like your OH says then do you really want the little one bring looked after in that environment. Sure some houses are dusty or need a hoover but I think with dogs you have to be a lot more careful!

Don't even consider it. You OH is right in what he is saying. Your daughters health and wellbeing while you are working is more important. Sacrifice and find a daycare centre. Of course your mother might resent your inlaws but it cant be helped. Take the time to plan for her to visit for lunch or dinner in your own home... she can look after baby while you get on with things.

milliemonster

I agree with a lot of the above posts but I think you also have to consider what if your mum refuses to drive the 60 miles to your house to look after your baby while your wife goes to work?, she may say if you can't drop your baby off at her's then she isn't willing to help out, do you have a contingency plan for someone to look after your baby on a Friday if your mum won't? I think you need to tread very carefully here if you need both mums for childcare as you risk alienating your mum

Mely

whitewing wrote: »

On the basis of the dog incident, if it were my child, I wouldn't let them babysit at all. I'm sorry.

I agree completely!

kazmeister

macchicken wrote: »

Women often have trust issues with anyone other than their own mothers.
Get everyone together for an informal meal and decide on babysitting rules and make it clear that if they cant adhere to the rules then they cant babysit. Make the rules apply to everyone so as no one feels picked on.

I agree with the previous postings.

Even sitting down and sorting out 'rules' for both sets of parents is not going to help as you know your mother has let the dog loose before. Do you really want to find out that the first time she breaks the rules is when you have to visit your poor child in hospital or worse.

You have stated that your mother has a jealous dog. ANY dog regardless of the breed will bite. I have the most gorgeous sweetest little Shih Tzu but she has bitten my daughter. At 10 years old I dont follow my daughter, or the dog around to make sure they are not left alone together, but I have told my daughter on many occasions that if she antagonises the dog it will bite. She chooses to ignore me and her dad and she does get bitten.

I have a small dog and a large child, you have a baby and ? size dog. Do you want to take the risk.

On another issue if you are asking parents and inlaws to look after your child, they are helping you out and In my opinion shouldnt be given a set of rules (other than safety re dog). If you want to set rules as to how your child is looked after, then you need to employ someone to work in your own home and pay them to do this.