Bumbling along to be Mortgage Free

taxi73

that must have been horrendous for you and will always crop up now and again especially when DH is away.

Bet you're really looking forward to him coming home.

have a good day x

Iris_Blue

That's what I love about this forum, especially mfw It really is a little community and you can type what you want and know that others understand , there's always someone that can relate to you.

Have you tried writing it down Michelle? They say its better than talking about it. I gave my friend advice once to write to someone she was angry with but not to send it them, just destroy it...she wrote it and sent it! Whoops ! Don't think they spoke to her again. She said she definitely felt better about it though !

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hi michelle
sounds like a lovely relaxing morning and like DH owes you some serious time on nappy duties when he is back!! :rotfl: it was a gorgeous day here too and I almost stole my nephew to go to the park and feed the ducks as its just that kinda weather! :rotfl:

I think different people can deal with traumatic situations differently , but may be worth letting DH know how you feel about it? I dont know if its something you find hard to talk about together as you were both involved or not? sometimes friends and those closest to us find it hard to hear I think, I know some friends although they know about it, arent really able to hear any more than that and its hard sometimes to bring it up again.. I think reactions and parts of these experiences will stay with us for years and years, perhaps forever but not in the same way- I know for me there were times when what happened felt on my mind all day everyday and was almost the only thing I defined myself by - gradually it faded and some days I didnt even think about it , other times it is still in the forefront and I just need to notice and accept that it is there- for me too I think it led to depression and mixed with other events (esp stress at work) this has come back at other times I think...

on the "positive" side (if you like?..) getting through it has made me stronger and given me so much gratefulness for life sometimes as I truly didnt think Id survive or make it out of there, so in other ways it has been a positive (though I wouldnt wish it on anyone) ... were you ever offered any support or counselling through victim support or criminal injuries comp?

sorry- dont feel you have to answer things if you dont want, I know these things can pass and can go from wanting to talk about them to wanting to focus on other things, but wanted to chip in with my two cents for anything its worth!

Iris- I agree it is quite like a community here, I need to remember somtimes not to use it to the exclusion of real life, but I think a lot of the people here are quite like minded, quite possibly with some similar experiences and things in common too , like the suggestion of writing things down- sounds like your friend felt better for it!

gratefulforhelp_2

cha97michelle wrote: »

grateful please do start a diary. They are great for keeping you on track and i am so nosey i would love another one to read. :rotfl:

Thanks, and thanks for dropping in.

Stinky nappies, always passed onto DH when he's here in this house too!

LilacPixie

I think its nice having similar minded people around you. I don't know about anyone else but i'm 29 and had a mortgage since 22, my hubby is 26 and never had a mortgage. Our friends are mostly still in the going out, getting drunk and having one night quickies than anything stable let alone buying a house or having a family. One of my friends has 2 little boys but their dad died when the youngest was only 6 weeks old in a car accident so life insurance has enabled her to buy a modest ex council semi outright and she doesn't really get the whole mill stone around the neck feeling.

Michelle how scarey about the robbery and everything. Do what you need to do, writting it down might help you get closure.

LilacPixie

I think if your holding things back and bottling things up you need an outlet. Find some outlet either a notepad or a blog but just get it all out.

You could have a go at more knitting or veg in front of te TV and then hit bed

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hi michelle
wondered if you got any emotional support/victim support/counselling sessions too at the time or afterwards? sometimes it can feel much easier to tell everything to someone who is slightly detached from the emotional situation (in a way family/friends cant be) - writing it down can be another way of getting it out there as well...whatever works for you really. I would imagine there are organisations that can offer support ..sounds like you are recognising things dont feel quite right mood wise at the moment, and you have a lot on your plate ... hard to know sometimes what comes from past experiences, what is depression and what might be us working too hard/fast and tiring ourselves out ... and it sounds like you are really thinking through each option and what u might need to do!

hope you have a relaxing eve and nappies get less messy! made me giggle about your cunning plan to get DH to change more nappies! :rotfl: what will you do if he susses it out?

Tesco_points_addict

Big hugs cha, you are a fantastic mum, wife and friend to many of us on here - don't ever forget that!

Getting your purse returned was obviously pay back for the bits n pieces you generously gave away, what comes around, goes around and all that:)

Look after yourself honey, I can soooooooo relate to the over eating/drinking/lack of motivation feelings, it's like I have a self distruct button, almost as if I don;t feel I deserve good things, I have no idea why the black cloud of depression decides to decend on some of us, other than someone, somewhere must think we are strong enough to cope and come out the other side in one piece.

TPAx

CathT

Michelle, so sorry to hear about your frightening experience. Your DH being away seems to have brought it back to you a little. Is he home now?

Good news on the kitchen, talk about turning a negative into a positive.

SmlSave

Hi hun.

Gosh your DH is star - I'm very impressed. Hope he get home at a good time tonight.

I really need to start using my slowcooker more, I'd heard you can make porridge in it - have you tried?

Hope you find your scanner and yay to the money arriving!