What is your pet money hate?

lynzpower

Honestly, a while ago, I found myself creeping towards this behaviour a bit. HOwever, i noticed it, and now, stop going out unless I can cover myself.

I personally like the idea that if you are going to the pub with your mates, all put in a tenner, or twnety quid into a glass in the middle of the table. So its everyones money thats being spent during "rounds". those grabbers among us seem all the more relictant for thier doubles this way.

BACKFRMTHEEDGE

I'm quite abit older than you, so I don't do the pub thing anymore but I have friends who were like this years ago and still are. Now they are seriously rich but they are still tight :rolleyes: I like my friends (which is why we still are friends) but I see them less than I would do if they were'nt so mean....and I never mix them with other friends because they can't stand there meaness either. I think that being mean can become like an obsessive compulsive disorder...the other extreme of being a spendholic...and this can make them difficult people to be around. Sad really. There's nothing worse than being around people with loads of money who are tight. :embarasse

niceshoes_2

Thanks for all your replies - alot of them make alot of sense. There are some things that I will inntroduce on the next night out, and see how that goes. As I say I don't want to lose her as a friend, and it doesn't seem to be just me that she does this with. She was only here last night saying how she had £450 left this month and tomorrow is pay day! It seems that she does the same with other friends also, so it is not just me. I guess I have to accept that she is tight and mean, and just learn to live with it on a night out, and make sure that my money is spent on me!

paintygirl

surely this girl can only get what is given to her...why are you giving this to her?

**purpleprincess**

Hiya!! This thread made me laugh! I've had friends like this!!

One night I will always remember was my friend came round to mine for drinks, she had phoned me up earlier in the night desperate to go out "go on then!!" I said!!

So we got into town, I paid for the cab(!) and then got to the desk of the nightclub and I paid to get in, walked a bit turned round and my friend wasn't there, so I went back to the entrance and there she was!! "Why aren't you coming in?" I asked, well she had only brought £1 out with her!!!!!!! :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

And then after I had paid for her to get in(!) she only had the cheek to ask me to buy her drinks!! :eek: We're not friends anymore, not just cos of that though, she was a cow!!

One of my best friends is like this though, the amount of times I've paid for her! And she comes round to my house for dinner and drinks my wine! Well now if she asks if I fancy going out I tell her I am skint but will come out but only buy my own drinks!! And now if she comes round for dinner I hide the wine!!! She brought her own last time!!!

Little hints do work, just persevere with it!

Good luck!!!

amosworks

lol why not nip all this behaviour in the bud and next time someone asks you to pay for them, call them a cheeky mare with a grin. They'll get the point before they get used to taking you for a ride heh

equine_induced_poverty

explain you are a bit skint/tired/under the weather and you fancy a quiet evening, then say you'll stay on your own rather than get in rounds as you are not sure if you fancy a drink much. This is always my line, and as a confirmed lager drinker I cant afford to be buying wine and spirits for friends who have 3 drinks an hour compared to my one! Also switch to hand rolling tobacco - that might put her off smoking yours, and its a lot cheaper if she still does. dont lose your friendship, just modify your behaviour a bit and your friend may cotton on. Good luck!

ceegee

I don't go out at all......I'm too old and too poor, BUT, I too know people like this.

What I have wondered is whether it is deliberate tightness or if it is just that these people don't realise that not everyone has as much money as they do. I dunno........my ex- f-i-l is loaded but he's as tight as the proverbial you-know-what!

I suppose it could be either tightness or ignorance.

Hipkiss

I haven't read any of the replies yet, so I don't know what everyone elses pet money hate is.

Mine though is concerning my best mate. Love her to bits, but when it comes to money she drives me nuts.

She always has to have a salary that's more than mine, she always has to pay more for something, if she goes for a new job she won't accept less than £**,*** cos she's worth that!!

Grrr, at one point I was earning about £3,000 a year less per month than she was and severely struggling with debt, and did she rub it in.


HK

providence

this is a situation I am struggling with at the moment, a friend I have had since we were twelve has been exploiting my goodwill and natural generosity for years, and I have finally had enough. It reached a head about six weeks ago when my partner and I ended up paying half the share for her, her partner and daughter when we went out for a meal, what made it worse was that my OH and I didn't have starters, only had one drink and shared a pudding because we are in a great deal of debt, but they had starters, a pudding each, lots of side dishes and at least three drinks each.
Right now I haven't spoken to her since that night as I am so angry and after years of going round her house and being asked to pick things up on they way that she said she would give me the money for and never did, and my OH has done a few babysitting stints that were supposed to be paid but they conveniently never had the cash on them at the time I have had enough.
I feel like my good will has been exploited. Friends shouldn't treat you this way, especially when they know your finances are up s*$t creek.

The earlier poster was right, it is a drip drip effect, and I know the next time I see her or speak to her I am going to have to have words

which is why I am putting it off