** Wednesday 10th - Hump day, Horay Daily Chat **

Lucifa73

daphne_descends wrote: »

Patches? What's Patches? <village idiot here>

Thanks everyone for the welcome, you are all so lovely :grouphug:

Luc, wow, what a strong boy! How many weeks is he now?

Right: I hate my job, I am being targeted by the office witch and a power-hungry manager but there are NO part time jobs around, the dream house is falling apart, think we have a damp problem and everywhere I look I see things that desperately need doing, my organisational skills have deserted me so the house is full of piles or boxes 'to be sorted' that don't GET sorted, my weight needs sorting out (might start CD after holiday), everyone I know is pregnant and I have had a sad time, don't want to go into that but it just feels like life is saying 'ha ha - thought you had it all, think again' oh and I skipped an OU essay, you can only do it once, and am now behind again with the next one... I shall stop there in work and failing here too but it's hard to even care about that bit... <phew> sorry for spillage

Crikey DD - you are going through the ringer. Glad you came back to the chat as the peeps on here are super lovely. They helped me big time with my PND epiphany this week. I'm just taking things a day at a time now and it really makes a difference. If I get a bit of housework done that's great but if I don't I don't beat myself up about it (well not too much - it is a work in progress:o)

Nathan will be 15weeks on Friday but is very big for his age - length and weight are tracking along 91st percentile in his red book!! He's been doing the standing up thing since about 8 weeks - he'll have us on our toes once he's crawling:eek:. He's started grasping things in the last week or so - especially my hair! In the next couple of weeks he'll start weaning too so its all go!

redsquirrel80

daphne_descends wrote: »

Patches? What's Patches? <village idiot here>

Very emotional song by Clarence Carter, loved by Lenny, me, and not many other people on here :rotfl:

Right: I hate my job, I am being targeted by the office witch and a power-hungry manager but there are NO part time jobs around, the dream house is falling apart, think we have a damp problem and everywhere I look I see things that desperately need doing, my organisational skills have deserted me so the house is full of piles or boxes 'to be sorted' that don't GET sorted, my weight needs sorting out (might start CD after holiday), everyone I know is pregnant and I have had a sad time, don't want to go into that but it just feels like life is saying 'ha ha - thought you had it all, think again' oh and I skipped an OU essay, you can only do it once, and am now behind again with the next one... I shall stop there in work and failing here too but it's hard to even care about that bit... <phew> sorry for spillage

Aw hun, everything seems to come at once doesn't it? You'll get there.. stick around x

daphne_descends

:T Luc you sound like you're doing bloody brilliantly
When I took on cleaners last year (think it was around July?) I had not done a proper thorough clean of the house since Elliot was born in the October :eek: it had been cleaned in bits and bobs but not to shiny standards - and before that I was a bit of a clean freak so anything can slide, you really must not punish yourself.

It taught me a lesson anyway, a good one - babies don't mind a bit of dust (very useful to remember when I find Elliot eating raisins when I don't know where they came from!!!)

You will never say on your deathbed that you wish you'd spent more time dusting. anyway when Nathan is 2 or 3 he can help!

But I also know that it felt like a lack of control, well as in my last post, I have a crate full of post (it IS opened and bills have been paid though) there is no order to it, it is a jumbled mess, it started as a few letters to file, and grew...

I look at squalorsurvivors.com if I want reminding that I am doing okay!

schoolrunmum

On the good news front, A and L bank have refunded me the dosh those spanish !!!!!! robbed out of my current a/c !!!

Lucifa73

daphne_descends wrote: »

:T But I also know that it felt like a lack of control, well as in my last post, I have a crate full of post (it IS opened and bills have been paid though) there is no order to it, it is a jumbled mess, it started as a few letters to file, and grew...

LOL - I think I have a dining table somewhere under the pile of junk we keep dumping when we get home - I think Flylady would refer to it as a 'hot spot'.

To be fair, Hubbles gets up at 5am after I've given Nathan his 4am feed and he is wide awake so I can get a couple more hours sleeping and he manages to hoover, wipe down the kitchen and keep the wee man happy:A

daphne_descends

redsquirrel80 wrote: »

Very emotional song by Clarence Carter, loved by Lenny, me, and not many other people on here :rotfl:

Ah, see now you've said that the wording looks clear as anythign! I'll look it up on YouTube when I get home

redsquirrel80 wrote: »

Aw hun, everything seems to come at once doesn't it? You'll get there.. stick around x

Thanks squiz x Somehow I haven't lost my will (yet) so I am determined to change the things I can... and accept the things I can't... We've rented a cottage in Devon for a week (PLEASE be sunny) so hopefully it'll bring the space I need to clear my head and come back with a plan

(Land_of)_Maz

daphne_descends wrote: »

Right: I hate my job, I am being targeted by the office witch and a power-hungry manager but there are NO part time jobs around, the dream house is falling apart, think we have a damp problem and everywhere I look I see things that desperately need doing, my organisational skills have deserted me so the house is full of piles or boxes 'to be sorted' that don't GET sorted, my weight needs sorting out (might start CD after holiday), everyone I know is pregnant and I have had a sad time, don't want to go into that but it just feels like life is saying 'ha ha - thought you had it all, think again' oh and I skipped an OU essay, you can only do it once, and am now behind again with the next one... I shall stop there in work and failing here too but it's hard to even care about that bit... <phew> sorry for spillage

babes... i dunno what to say really....

the job situation sounds dire... is there noone you can speak to about the witch? Don't let it grind you right down hun, you need to address it in some way to preserve your sanity.....

the house, well it will keep... at least until you're in a better head space.

keep getting the joy from E number, as it's easy to miss those details when you get bogged down in life and all the shhit that goes with it.

daphne_descends

Lucifa73 wrote: »

LOL - I think I have a dining table somewhere under the pile of junk we keep dumping when we get home - I think Flylady would refer to it as a 'hot spot'.

To be fair, Hubbles gets up at 5am after I've given Nathan his 4am feed and he is wide awake so I can get a couple more hours sleeping and he manages to hoover, wipe down the kitchen and keep the wee man happy:A

Your hubby always sounds like a star, having his support will go such a long way... glad you get that bit of sleep, the mantra is 'this too shall pass'... Elliot only started sleeping through last month, now he is not typical and most do it sooner but I never thought he would and the difference it makes is amazing! I am sure you won't be waiting as long as me though

After 19 months OH still lets me lay in at the weekends, once he is up, he is up! Good point - I get sleep, bad point - I never have got up for a morning run

Lucifa73

daphne_descends wrote: »

Your hubby always sounds like a star, having his support will go such a long way... glad you get that bit of sleep, the mantra is 'this too shall pass'... Elliot only started sleeping through last month, now he is not typical and most do it sooner but I never thought he would and the difference it makes is amazing! I am sure you won't be waiting as long as me though

After 19 months OH still lets me lay in at the weekends, once he is up, he is up! Good point - I get sleep, bad point - I never have got up for a morning run

He mostly is a star:D but if I mention that it might take 18 months for Nathan to sleep through he may file for divorce:eek::rotfl:

I find you get caught between wanting them to get by this period of sleep deprivation and wishing time would slow down because you want to experience every moment to the fullest:rolleyes::o

daphne_descends

(Land_of)_Maz wrote: »

babes... i dunno what to say really....

the job situation sounds dire... is there noone you can speak to about the witch? Don't let it grind you right down hun, you need to address it in some way to preserve your sanity.....

the house, well it will keep... at least until you're in a better head space.

keep getting the joy from E number, as it's easy to miss those details when you get bogged down in life and all the shhit that goes with it.

Thanks Maz :grouphug: the thing with the witch - she looks at the clock and writes down when I come in, when I leave - but does she see me working at home for 2 hours a night? I have mentioned it a couple of times but the power-hungry boss doesn't like rocking the boat with certain other people - because she (witch) is friendly with some of the top bods... it's all so political, there's no getting away from it, I try to keep my head down but when it all gets too much... that's when EVERYTHING becomes a problem, you know?

Half of this stuff I would either ignore, or tackle immediately but things spiral... I have lists everywhere, and sub-lists! It is all about control, and I think if I can get that back in 1/2 areas, the rest will follow... the alternative just isn't worth thinking about xxxx