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Blonde_Bint

Please can I ask what is DS and what is DD?

hjb123

Blonde_Bint wrote: »

Please can I ask what is DS and what is DD?

DS = Darling or Dear Son
DD = Darling or Dear Daugter

bdt1

Blonde Bint - I too have considered leaving my husband (he's NRP and I'm NRPP), not because I don't love him, he's a wonderful man - but because at dark times I have been unable to see a way out of the situation the CSA have inflicted upon us, but through being able to talk openly with my husband, what would a separation achieve?

Another CSA case for him as we have 2 children together, the awful situation of taking our children away from Daddy who they adore, the upset of us not being together, and playing right into hands of the ex or PWC, as this has always been the plan - she never stopped loving him, and I know even if we did this, at what point do we reconcile - after putting ourselves and children through Hell!! No never, if you love your husband stay with him, the CSA can be sorted (eventually), and I know of people who through illness do not have the chance to be with loved ones, we are the lucky ones in lots of ways - we have our health and happiness, just the burden of a corrupt CSA

Blonde_Bint

bdt1 wrote: »

Blonde Bint - I too have considered leaving my husband (he's NRP and I'm NRPP), not because I don't love him, he's a wonderful man - but because at dark times I have been unable to see a way out of the situation the CSA have inflicted upon us, but through being able to talk openly with my husband, what would a separation achieve?

Another CSA case for him as we have 2 children together, the awful situation of taking our children away from Daddy who they adore, the upset of us not being together, and playing right into hands of the ex or PWC, as this has always been the plan - she never stopped loving him, and I know even if we did this, at what point do we reconcile - after putting ourselves and children through Hell!! No never, if you love your husband stay with him, the CSA can be sorted (eventually), and I know of people who through illness do not have the chance to be with loved ones, we are the lucky ones in lots of ways - we have our health and happiness, just the burden of a corrupt CSA

Yeah your absolutely right. from the way you describe your situation and your feelings your whole scenario seems to mirror my own. lol I should be happy no incidents for over a year but from experience it never lasts so I think I feel abit uneasy lately feeling like we are running out of time and shes gearing up for giving us a 'tantrum/threat' after 11 years of this i'm exhausted with it. I feel like i've run out of fight, the next situation she chucks at us I will just crumple and fall.

Should try to take a leaf from Mr Blimey, his daughter is in her 20s now and his sh*t is on going I should be grateful that we dont have a problem with the CSA. we have had problems on and off but she tripped herself up with so many lies the CSA themselves were sick of her they could tell from her calls there had been a row over the weekend why? because she always called them 1st thing on a Monday morning, she created needless work which they knew would come to nothing sometimes they even had all our payslips etc from her last telephone call to them :Dwhich was good news for us. They could make comedy sketches from some of our incidents:rotfl: lol and the worst thing is this is how we live our lives.

Your a good bunch, i'll definately stick around because I may need you in the future :A

Blonde_Bint

Yeah bdlt one day this will all end. The children will become adults and then our particular PWC will not be able to do the things they are doing/have been doing. Every day that day gets closer. Its going to be wonderful never having to think or worry about the actions of our PWC you know what I'd like to go on a decent holiday with the kids. nice relaxing and peaceful a lovely time:beer: and plenty of beers too.

catenorfolk

Zara33 wrote: »

:rotfl:cute lol Mr DUTR can you please debunk this myth that your trying to romance me :A

Why??? it's nice to have a bit of romance - cant remember what is like!!!

bdt1

Blonde Bint - thanks for that! Much appreciated, but the NEXT time the ex or PWC decides to create mischief, you will have the strength, you have for many years now - as I have, the thing we have in common, is that we can hold our heads high, compose ourselves and respectfully think - ok round 3, as we hear the bell chime.

Our PWC has been despicable, and has lost all self respect by now, how low can one go. Last time she sent 'a private investigator' to our home, posing as a distant associate of my husband's, trying to gain access to our home, and contact number etc for my hubs - shame her 'private investigator' parked her red Polo car at the end of our drive, and failed to notice the cctv cameras we have surrounding our property - silly girl - think it was a pal of hers - it was all caught on camera. Imagine how silly PWC looked when she tried using some of this as evidence at Tribunal in 2005

Blonde_Bint

bdt1 wrote: »

Blonde Bint - thanks for that! Much appreciated, but the NEXT time the ex or PWC decides to create mischief, you will have the strength, you have for many years now - as I have, the thing we have in common, is that we can hold our heads high, compose ourselves and respectfully think - ok round 3, as we hear the bell chime.

Our PWC has been despicable, and has lost all self respect by now, how low can one go. Last time she sent 'a private investigator' to our home, posing as a distant associate of my husband's, trying to gain access to our home, and contact number etc for my hubs - shame her 'private investigator' parked her red Polo car at the end of our drive, and failed to notice the cctv cameras we have surrounding our property - silly girl - think it was a pal of hers - it was all caught on camera. Imagine how silly PWC looked when she tried using some of this as evidence at Tribunal in 2005

lol:D lovely, dear me, we didnt get the 'send a friend incognito' to find evidence to hold against us incident. Jeez. I dont go near our PWC anymore in so much as I get out of the car close to her house and wait out of the way. This seems to be working for us for now plus husband just keeps his mouth shut says nothing. sometimes having a smirk at past silliness makes me feel better, that at least today I can smile when at the time we were frantic. particularly harrowing though is how all this has affected the children involved I think. I'm hoping it just makes them tronger of mind because of the things they have seen and the things that have happened to them.

bdt1

Your step-children are lucky then - mine have never been 'allowed' to see their father (my hubs) since, I met my husband and we had - a PWC quote 'bast**d child' together, strange as I was married to my husband, and she never did when she gave birth to her children! But, I feel both my husband and all children have been deprived of more love and a wider family - my children have never met their half-siblings, and maybe at some point hubs children will come looking, we just worry they have been poisoned. We would have loved dearly to have taken them on holiday, shared the child-care burden etc etc, it was never an option. We did go down the legal route, but on Daddy access days, amazing how children had 'poor;y tummies' or at another childs birthday party, which we were not allowed to take/collect them from - just silliness on PWC part , a child cannot ever have too many people to love them

Blonde_Bint

On reading some of your and blimeys posts I think I had some things good. you dont realise how bad things could be do you. Hope it turns out good for you when the children are adults. theres always hope.