MSE Pregnancy Club XII

tarajayne

Aww Beenie, only a decision you can make yourself unfortunately. Been there and done that myself so I really feel for you hun! Us girls are strong though so whatever decision you make I'm sure you'll come through it in the end, and having a little one to look after made me much tougher. ((hugs))

tiamai_d

BeenieCat wrote: »

Not sure, mixed feelings. Head says give up, heart says keep trying. We've been trying for so long it never feels like it'll be good again!!

Confesion time. When DS2 was a year old DH and I split up. It was caused by DS2's birth and how DH did not support me through it as he could have. In the few months leading upto the split, I was messing about with a guy online. It was just to get that emotional support that DH wasn't giving me. We split up and went to councilling (which was free as DH had bupa cover through work and we got 10 couple sessions). During the councilling he realised that he hadn't supported me, I realised that it wasn't his fault he hadn't supported me and that we did have a really good relationship but a lot of outside stresses (kids, money etc) and also she suggested that I had PTSD (so then I got a few more private sessions). I have no idea if DH actually knew or knows about that other guy or not, I actually think he does but he has just chosen not to bring it up. The point is, messing about is fun at the time but it's not anywhere near as good as the real thing. If your OH wants to give it another go he has to learn that and stop it completely. In a way it is a bit of an addiction. I mean there is this person who always seems perfect and who is always there when you need them what could be better? But in the end it's not real and you have to give it up like anything else. It's also far easier to mess about with a stranger who will listen to everything you say than deal with whats going on in real life. Once that problem is dealt with you can start on the other problems, but you can't move on untill it is dealt with.

Now feels like a dirty slapper and ponders eating the cooking chocolate

tiamai_d

Bear_family wrote: »

Just done big clear out (on freecycle not the throne)! And there's been a reply for everything. Feel well chuffed. OH hasn't even been gone a day. Why is it we get so much more done when they aren't around.

Bearx

I had a big clear out too.... :whistle::silenced:

money_maker_3

tia, in a very strange way, you have described my life with you guys :rotfl:

Bear_family

Better than an episode of Eastenders this!

I wish you luck and happiness in what you decide, B

Bx

tiamai_d

money_maker wrote: »

tia, in a very strange way, you have described my life with you guys :rotfl:

Yeah, but now I can tell all this to DH also (well not all of it...). Before I couldn't or wouldn't. Takes two to tango.

Sami_Bee

Glamazon wrote: »

I am really missing Sami

Awwww :iloveyou:


I miss chatting to you too, but I'm having trouble just reading all my emails at the mo! :shocked:

Did you see the Chav estate I grew up on on River cottage tonight?? That landshare thingy in Leigh, those 'lovely' kids that were planting things happily are the very same ones that refuse to get their lazy bmx riding bums outta my way when I visit my mummy.
The road is for cars not scummy chavs :mad::p


Skinty - I don't know what has happened but good to hear that whatever it was you are ok now x

money_maker_3

I feel really lucky, cuz although me and OH have the odd fight, we are generally able to talk to each other about everything, although he doesnt like to talk to me about his feelings much ... but then I can tell what sort of mood he is in

tiamai_d

Bear_family wrote: »

Better than an episode of Eastenders this!

I wish you luck and happiness in what you decide, B

Bx

Can I be resident chav then?

I picked a name for tha baba, shez gonna bee......

Chelsee Ibifa Cloe Rochelle Princess Pineapple

Eh scuse me Sami, thatz ma boi your dissin there! Don yoo bee givvin him attitude when hez on hiz BMX, hez gonna be a STAR ya know!

BeenieCat

Thanks you, especially to Tia. I think when we're good we're really the best of friends but it feels like it's been a long time since we made each other laugh. Don't get me wrong we're not arguing 24hrs a day, but we used to have fun, he used to smile and be happy and that would make me smile and be happy.

Now it feels like he's never happy which constantly brings out the paranoid side of me, 'he doesn't love me/he's going to cheat/he's wishing he was still with ex/he regrets getting pg' etc etc and so it goes on.

I just feel like, if he got up one morning and was his old hyperactive happy self then his mood is infectious so i'd be same, but for some reason he can't have good moods transferred onto him!! (if that makes sense)