I've totally lost the plot, really, haven't I

zantelover

I think most people on this forum have had a tough time, bankruptcy isn't plain sailing...........
Everyone in life has problems...some more than others.......
I myself, have come through a lousy marriage, divorce, lost loved ones, coped with loneliness and depression.........just like millions of other people.......
I am now a single parent living on minimum wage, and bankrupt in to the bargain...... {and incidently I have told not a soul about my bankruptcy........}
But whinging about the past aint gonna help my future.......when I get knocked down, I pull myself back up again.......sometimes with help and sometimes without........at the end of the day you have to keep your spirit..........."woe is me" attitude doesn't attract sympathy......it's just irritating.
I would help ANYONE.........but you have to want to help yourself first.....and accept.......and "recieve" when people are doing their best for you.

elfieb

zantelover wrote: »

I think most people on this forum have had a tough time, bankruptcy isn't plain sailing...........
Everyone in life has problems...some more than others.......
I myself, have come through a lousy marriage, divorce, lost loved ones, coped with loneliness and depression.........just like millions of other people.......
I am now a single parent living on minimum wage, and bankrupt in to the bargain...... {and incidently I have told not a soul about my bankruptcy........}
But whinging about the past aint gonna help my future.......when I get knocked down, I pull myself back up again.......sometimes with help and sometimes without........at the end of the day you have to keep your spirit..........."woe is me" attitude doesn't attract sympathy......it's just irritating.
I would help ANYONE.........but you have to want to help yourself first.....and accept.......and "recieve" when people are doing their best for you.

fab advice!!!
You can ask for all the advice in the world, but unless you are prepared to actually put the hard graft in and put that advice to practice, you are wasting peoples time.

We all get down at times, believe me Ive been so down people have been practically walking on me, but you reach a point where enough is enough.

We only have one life, make the best of it whilst you can!

RecoveringAlcoholic

Is this the daily "poor me" thread?

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Deep_In_Debt

I'm getting bored with it too.

Merlin, you've offered some great advice and people have taken on board your advice...I have...why don't you do the same and take on board all the advice being given to you?

There is only so far people can go.

My mum always used to use the old saying..."there is always someone far worse off than you"...it used to wind me up...but it's true...there is. Your situation, and mine, is no worse than many of the posts I've read on here and on the DFW forum...in fact, I've read stuff on here that has upset me but it's helped me realise that my situation is not so bad.

Please stop beating yourself up. There is more to life, honest. I'm single, and enjoying every second of it despite the debt.

mr_&_mrs_2

I think you need professional help.....

My life from child to adulthood has not been at all easy....

But .... I have got myself through it ......

I am all for sympathy BUT.....help yourself first !

I think you have been very rude and the people on here do not deserve your rudeness !

lorac3

I think that just about everyone on here has had a big slap with a sh1tty stick, me included BUT we pick ourselves up dust ourselves down and start all over again. It is the only thing we can do if we want to move forwards with life.I know that things are bad for you at the moment but you have to move on, being bitter and twisted up about the past will do you no good.
Would it help if you actually told us what it is all about it might help you to get it out of your system.
Take care and good luck.

dalip

i have not been on this forum for a while.....although i have lurked;).

I think some sympathies have been displaced here.

Let us remember DEEDEE who lost her husband and son through a car accident,which also left her disabled,who spent many many hours helping others on this forum wthout any plea's for "thanks" and who died this year.

Also another poster...who adopts many disabled kids...who herself is now in hospital suffering from a brain bleed.

No one knows what goes on behind our own personal doors.......but we are not the bottomeless pit of ears and sympathy. As others have said there is only so much one can give....and take.


Dx

jenni75

Thank you to everyone who showed support to my reply to Merlin earlier.

As been said on numerous posts here, bankruptcy is difficult. As is the lead up to it, sometimes a short blast of bad luck, sometimes a lifetime of troubles but the road for the majority of us on this board has led or will lead to one place, bankruptcy. This forum is a place for support and I for one have found nothing similar, where we can stand shoulder to shoulder and offer support and advice. I can offer advice but not demand anyone takes it, but as I said earlier many folks had offered help and guidence to Merlin (without any reply.)and I felt that if Merlin listened to them comfort could be drawn not just from the advice we have all offered but also the knowledge that people cared enough to stop by and post in support of Merlin.

I for one do not underestimate the power of a mind to hold you back from coping. Help is clearly needed when comments are being left such as this,

Fine, the world has washed it's hands of me so I will wash myself of it myself. Enough is enough. So, please do not tell me what to do when I have already damn well done it.[/QUOTE]


I will not list my problems in life as whats happened has happened and nothing is gonna change anything. In my view it would not have been much of a life without complications, no one handed my mother a guarntee for my happiness when I was born. I hope that from my experiences I have learnt something and know I am a stronger person for it. At the end of the day the responsibility for my happiness stops in one place and that is with me.


Best wishes

jenni

lorac3

I really think that a rousing chorus of 'always look on the bright side of life' ( monty python ) is now needed !

So_Sad_Angel

dalip wrote: »

i have not been on this forum for a while.....although i have lurked;).

I think some sympathies have been displaced here.

Let us remember DEEDEE who lost her husband and son through a car accident,which also left her disabled,who spent many many hours helping others on this forum wthout any plea's for "thanks" and who died this year.

Also another poster...who adopts many disabled kids...who herself is now in hospital suffering from a brain bleed.

No one knows what goes on behind our own personal doors.......but we are not the bottomeless pit of ears and sympathy. As others have said there is only so much one can give....and take.


Dx

Can I second your sentiments D....debt can be overcome.....serious health issues are a whole different ball game.

Thankyou Honey for the reality check xxxx

Angiexx

Merlin....time to sort it out once & for all & get on with your life (yes you will have one !!!) ...remember there are others who have had that oppourtunity denied them . Choose to live your life & let the past go.

I mean that in the most heartfelt way too.