CSA ignored request to reassess, what happens?

Blonde_Bint

Zara33 wrote: »

:oI just open my gob and away it goes! but at least this time i am not the one to blame The contact went t!ts up already as i was not allowed to f*ck him off, if i did this then he would end the contact.

Well...you can guess i don't take too kindly to emails starting Dear b!tch...I asked him oh so nicely to refrain from calling me a b!tch and tada he's off throwing his dummy outta the pram.

Your joking. sorry to hear that. antagonistic isnt it. what does he hope to gain by starting an email like that. he already knows before he sends it the outcome is not going to be of benefit not only to him but for his children.

Do you know you could liken it to kids in the playground, we tell our children if someone is being mean to you dont rise to it. stay out of their way. In a way thats what we have to do too. no matter what my PWC does to me no good can come of me taking the bait so to speak. As with that deliberately antagonistic email from your NRP you need to blott out the uncalled for nastiness as if it isnt even there and carry on. 'righty ho so thats a no then is it for next tuesday, hows about Friday any good for you or not?' Not always easy to do. Then raises the question, question mind, is no contact better than really cr*p contact? thats a question and a half.

Zara33

Blonde_Bint wrote: »

Your joking. sorry to hear that. antagonistic isnt it. what does he hope to gain by starting an email like that. he already knows before he sends it the outcome is not going to be of benefit not only to him but for his children.

Do you know you could liken it to kids in the playground, we tell our children if someone is being mean to you dont rise to it. stay out of their way. In a way thats what we have to do too. no matter what my PWC does to me no good can come of me taking the bait so to speak. As with that deliberately antagonistic email from your NRP you need to blott out the uncalled for nastiness as if it isnt even there and carry on. 'righty ho so thats a no then is it for next tuesday, hows about Friday any good for you or not?' Not always easy to do. Then raises the question, question mind, is no contact better than really cr*p contact? thats a question and a half.

Erm he's not wanting visits atm as he wanted to get to know the child...which is understandable however two sentences per email (2 emails a week) would take a while to get to know someone.

I did suggest that as the school finishes next week for summer holidays maybe he would like a weekend with him, :rolleyes: he's busy all seven weeks of the holidays.

Go figure.

Blonde_Bint

Still the emails are a start even at 2 lines. perhaps after all this time he's feeling a bit sort of 'lost' dont know what things to say not sure what stuff to talk about with them. blokes are cr*p at having any worthwhile verbal interaction at the best of times:rotfl:

He better pull his finger out quick though because if he is boring to be around for the kids (even in an email) they will lose interest. For him time is running out as the kids turn into teens they go out with their friends then you've been binned lol. we see our teen when he has burger all else to do:D I dont blame him lol.