CSA ignored request to reassess, what happens?

Blonde_Bint

I shouldnt joke so much because when i'm being serious no one will take me seriously.

but, well, I cant change my situation, we have a bad PWC we are unlucky, I can either live with it or be really miserable, i've done the miserable bit, did it for too many years and the situation didnt change so stuff it. from here on in she is going to have to really pull out all the stops to make me feel as bad as she used to:p

If/when her next incident arrives, it will be interesting because I think it would be a good experiment to not re-act instantly I must remember that then I can scurry over her and get an opinion be for I do anything. It will be interesting.

An incident, though this is years ago.

I come home from work i'm with our 5 month old baby, i'm at the front door with my key, our PWC is at the bottom of the drive swearing and shouting at me, this is a surprise to me I wasnt expecting her and she lives a long way from us so would never pass by the house. I turn round holding our 5 month old baby next thing I know alongside her swearing and shouting she is thowing bricks yes bricks at me and my 5 month

Zara33

Blonde_Bint wrote: »

An incident, though this is years ago.

I come home from work i'm with our 5 month old baby, i'm at the front door with my key, our PWC is at the bottom of the drive swearing and shouting at me, this is a surprise to me I wasnt expecting her and she lives a long way from us so would never pass by the house. I turn round holding our 5 month old baby next thing I know alongside her swearing and shouting she is thowing bricks yes bricks at me and my 5 month

:eek: that's bloody disgraceful! I would have kicked her sorry @rse at the next available opportunity!

Blonde_Bint

lol sorry all I may well blush with embarrassment, I leaned on my keyboard and the whole thing started bleeping double

I hadnt finished so.

... shes throwing bricks at us, why bricks because we had a wall at the bottom of the drive and it was being re built or re pointed or something, and the builder had left his bricks there for using the day after, anyway, all I really remember is the pieces of bricks and half bricks whizzing through the air at us. I dont remember what I did. but when my husband got home from work, it turned out she had phoned him during the day for something, had had a row with him cant remember why now, note HIM not me I was at work and knew nothing about this. I come home and I get the bricks not the NRP, bl*ody typical fella innit lol. oh I know its not funny at all.
I agree with you Zara I should have punched her but the problem with that is she lives for these incidents its what she likes. I cant count the times in court the times she has been to the police station for rows she started, shot herself in the foot though because eventually the courts and the police and the csa were sick of her because she was so predictable.

Lol. my husband the NRP gets a phone call from the CSA (going back years now) the first thing they said to him was 'you've p*ssd off your pwc again havent you' . they cant even take more payslips off him because they are up to date on that front :rotfl: The police came round on one occasion, I had only been in the house 5 minutes when the knock is on the door 'alright babe get kettle on' seriously one of the cops coming in made a comment about being p*ssd off about calls like these ones his mate replied something like 'really cos when we get the call for this house I think oh great and its Tuesday she went shopping yesterday so she'll have the custard creams in':eek: this is the way my family have lived on and off for years it takes its toll. I've asked myself why she does it for her there was no point, money was always paid and contact was always stuck to, maybe jealousy cant think of anything else, I dont care what it was. Those bricks have stuck in my mind, i'm not bitter about it but what kind of person throws bricks in the direction of a 5 month old baby. thats the person i'm dealing with.

But if I had thumped her which she would have deserved I think I would have suffered the consequences of her phoning the police on us taking us to court (she got legal aid and we didnt). I cant explain it, you dont know what it was like, everything was always our fault, no matter what she did we always came off worse. Looking back now I dont know how I managed to live through it sometimes. I am the kind of person who just wants to live my life cant be ar sed wrecking someone elses life that would require too much effort.

In the end though the police and everyone saw through her. It took a while but it began to be obvious that she was the one causing the trouble.

Blonde_Bint

I dont feel as bad when I read of others and think its not just me. Other people be it NRP or PWC are having a shoddy time and they are dealing with it.

lol. I cant see Zara or Kelloggs living and taking the things I did. Our PWC would have suffered if they were the NRPP in my case lol. I admire Kelloggs persistance and energy for the way she deals with her particular case. maybe a bit of me wishes i'd had a bit of Kelloggs in me years ago. But in all honesty if i'd opened my mouth and been a bit more vocal and physical I think we would have just suffered more re courts solicitors etc. she wouldnt have stopped so no point. I did the right thing trying to keep quiet and not rock the boat. lol I think if my husband (the NRP) had been married to anyone else they'd be alone now

Theres a thought, maybe that was an objective, dont know and i'll never know. Funny woman though. because she didnt get anything out of it. she didnt get more money for her trouble and we didnt have the child more etc. strange. had him at the weekends because we worked.

Zara33

Blonde_Bint wrote: »

lol. I cant see Zara or Kelloggs living and taking the things I did. Our PWC would have suffered if they were the NRPP in my case lol. I admire Kelloggs persistance and energy for the way she deals with her particular case. maybe a bit of me wishes i'd had a bit of Kelloggs in me years ago. But in all honesty if i'd opened my mouth and been a bit more vocal and physical I think we would have just suffered more re courts solicitors etc. she wouldnt have stopped so no point. I did the right thing trying to keep quiet and not rock the boat. lol I think if my husband (the NRP) had been married to anyone else they'd be alone now

Theres a thought, maybe that was an objective, dont know and i'll never know. Funny woman though. because she didnt get anything out of it. she didnt get more money for her trouble and we didnt have the child more etc. strange. had him at the weekends because we worked.

:oI just open my gob and away it goes! but at least this time i am not the one to blame The contact went t!ts up already as i was not allowed to f*ck him off, if i did this then he would end the contact.

Well...you can guess i don't take too kindly to emails starting Dear b!tch...I asked him oh so nicely to refrain from calling me a b!tch and tada he's off throwing his dummy outta the pram.

woody01

stokefan wrote: »

i think the whole system with the NRP's stinks, and needs sorting out, im a bitter nrp but totally agree they should pay for the children they bring in to this world, but on another note, i think pwc who stop the nrp from seeing the child (without good reason) should have all benefits stopped, that would sort them out, alot of pwc (not judging everyone btw) find it to easy to use the child as a weapon with no repercussions. the system is geared towards pwc and in todays society where plenty of teenagers are gettin 2/3 kids by different dads, the system needs sorting out and quickly (i know there is plenty of bad nrp out there, but them idiots should not ruin it for us good ones)

Good post

stokefan

jesus blnde bint, thats harsh, i would have payed someone to fill her in, im not an aggressive person in general, but that really would have tested my patience, you did excellent in rtestraining yourself

woody01

maybe a bit of me wishes i'd had a bit of Kelloggs in me years ago

You couldv'e sold tickets to the show and made the cash that way :T

Blonde_Bint

lol. I'm laughing now but I wasnt at the time believe me. It was a lonely frightening time. I didnt know what to do for the best. I restrained myself because knowing our PWC my actions were only likely to harm me. If anyone of you have ever had experiance of a person like my PWC then you will fully understand that you cannot reason or hope for an explanation from a person who behaves like she does.

A woman who throws bricks at another is bad enough but when a baby is clearly visible and she still does it well ... have to ask myself what else will she do. about 6 months after that incident me and the baby were inside the house when she turned up throwing things at the house dont know what my husband phoned me and told me to stay away from the front of the house until he walked in. Then when the baby was about 2 ish my husband rang me at work and asked me to ring the child minder. our PWC had rang my husband asking if we knew where our daughter was and saying that she might just go missing cant remember her words now, she was alluding to the fact that someone could steal the child from the childminder. ho hum here we go again. so hubby just asked me to ring the childminder just to check. I dont really believe the PWC would steal a child but I wasnt 100 per cent convinced so just rang the childminder to ask if she still had the child. Fortunately the childminder was a good un and took it in her stride:D our little girl was never taken it was just another threat.

I admit in the old days a pleasant daydream was that she would kindly be involved in a deadly RTA not nice of me I know.

Blonde_Bint

one of my friends at the time said if Eastenders ever run out of ideas, they could always call on me :eek:

thats acually what it felt like living in a permanent episode of Eastenders and not even a good episode lol. :eek: