nrp help

Soubrette

Another thing to do to build trust with the PWC is to never screw around with the child maintenance. If you get go through the CSA then always report any payrises you get - if you have the child for 2 nights then you will get a 2/7th reduction in maintenance but this is acknowledgement that you have expenses on those nights - so make sure you pay a fair share (even if sometimes you think that your child is living a lifestyle of eating pedigree chum and living in stained vests). If your job looks dodgy or you might be taking a decrease in income then let her know as soon as possible.

This part is about building trust with the PWC and showing the courts (if need be) that you are able to put the child first even if the PWC can't so you have more than fulfilled your part of the bargain as the NRP.

Sou

stokefan

yeah, well im going to start tp have my child 1 night a week soon, hopefully more too.
at the minute im unemployed so i give what i can when i can (think she is happy with that at the minute) she knows my situation, i hope she doesnt go through the csa, but no doubt she will if she thinks she can tip the apple cart. thanks for your help

Soubrette

stokefan wrote: »

yeah, well im going to start tp have my child 1 night a week soon, hopefully more too.
at the minute im unemployed so i give what i can when i can (think she is happy with that at the minute) she knows my situation, i hope she doesnt go through the csa, but no doubt she will if she thinks she can tip the apple cart. thanks for your help

I think (but don't quote me on it) that if you are unemployed then you only pay £5 per week contribution but I'm not sure.

Nights a week from a CSA point of view are spread throughout the year so you would get a 1/7th reduction if you had your child from 52 to 103 inclusive nights over the whole year. I have a vague feeling that if you do have your child over then you don't have to pay the £5 but again I've done a lot of reading about this recently and could easily be confusing different websites.

More experienced people such as Kelloggs would be able to advise this more accurately than myself.

If you are paying cash to your ex then it is always worthwhile getting her to sign a receipt noting that 'this payment of £whatever is in respect of child maintenance for xxxx child's name' better safe than sorry and more evidence that you are paying your way and perhaps more than paying your way with your child if it should get to court.

No problem with the help - I am passionate about the rights of children to benefit from the income and presence of both parents.

Sou

stokefan

yeah, im doing it over bank transfer from mine straight in to hers, i dont mind paying what i can, in my opinion it aint enough anyway, but as my situation is not to good at the moment i cant give much anyway,

Soubrette

stokefan wrote: »

yeah, im doing it over bank transfer from mine straight in to hers, i dont mind paying what i can, in my opinion it aint enough anyway, but as my situation is not to good at the moment i cant give much anyway,

Do you have a facility to write what that bank transfer payment is about? If there is then it really is the best thing to label it as 'child maintenance payments in respect of XXXX'

The way I personally look on the NRPs contribution to the upkeep of the children is that if we were married the children would benefit from both of our income whether that be high or low - we have to cut our cloth to suit our income and even if together sometimes people lose their jobs etc.

Sou

stokefan

yeah, its labelled as maintenance, but no name, i will change that for future payments

Wasteland_Drifter

Zara33 wrote: »

As your named on the birth certificate you automatically have parental rights and responsibilities.

That is incorrect.

The father only has parental rights over a child if he was married to the childs mother on the date of the child's birth (or has legally adopted the child).

Zara33

Wasteland_Drifter wrote: »

That is incorrect.

The father only has parental rights over a child if he was married to the childs mother on the date of the child's birth (or has legally adopted the child).

I think you will find the law changed around 2003 :think:

Zara33

Parental responsibility is a legal term defined as ‘the rights, duties, powers, responsibilities and authority which by law a parent of a child has in relation to the child and his property’ (section, 3(1), Children Act 1989).
Until recent changes in the law, this responsibility was only automatically conferred upon mothers and married fathers. Unmarried fathers could only gain parental responsibility through:

• A parental responsibility agreement with the mother
• A parental responsibility order from a court
• Appointment as the child’s guardian
• Marrying the mother

From 1 st December 2003, unmarried fathers are able to get equal parental responsibility simply by both parents registering the birth together.
Parental responsibility gives important legal rights as well as a say in your child’s welfare. Decisions on medical treatment, education, where your child lives and even the name by which your child is known can all be influenced by whoever has parental responsibility.

Wasteland_Drifter

Zara33 wrote: »

From 1 st December 2003, unmarried fathers are able to get equal parental responsibility simply by both parents registering the birth together.

Parental rights are not the same as parental responsibility.

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Zara33 wrote: »

As your named on the birth certificate you automatically have parental rights and responsibilities.