My Girlsfriends benefit has been refused, I have to cover her expenses?

Oldernotwiser

vegankris wrote: »

As I've mentioned before, we pay, or have paid, National Insurance and tax too- more in the past than we'll take in benefits and shall continue to pay this in the future with interest, so as far as I'm concerned, the way I look at it we're not scrounging off anybody but effectively using our own insurance contributions in our (hopefully brief) time of need.

Yet another one who doesn't understand the way that the benefits system works!

Your contributions were used years ago to support people who were unemployed THEN. Your benefits are paid from current workers' NICs. If you want to use your own money when times are difficult then you need savings or insurance.

calleyw

vegankris wrote: »

Calley, it was spent long ago due to my OH and I not being psychic.

Neither am I. But we have not wasted every penny we have earned or been lucky enough to inherited. And lucky we did not.

As stuff happens, my household income has halved and it could be permanent due to my husband having a stroke.

For 3 and half months while he was in hospital he had no income and I was on £6.50 a hour for a 40 hour week. I had to pay all the bills and buy him stuff as well as putting £35-£40 worth of fuel in the car every 3-4 days.

Up to last may I paid all the household bills until I dropped till part time as my husband was struggling at home all day on his own. Now I take some money from my husband for bills.

But then we keep a lid on bills and keep them as low as possible without suffering.

Benefits are really only short term that is why they are so low. As oldernotwiser said everyone bangs on about how much tax and NI they pay and seem to think it is a personal account to dip in and out of when needed. if only that was the truth. it is to support people who less well off themselves. I suppose there are people out there that begrudge my husbands benefits. They can have them if they take his disability along with it.

For most being out of a job is a temp thing. Yes it does happen.

We never expected of planned for my husband to become disabled. But hey stuff happens and you get on with it. If that means supporting both financially and emotionally my husband I do it. That is what partners do for each.

All the best.

Yours


Calley