Keeping my marriage exciting

TotallyBroke

Laugh together, do silly things.
One of the best relationships I ever had was based around laughter.

We were shopping once in Tesco, I was pushing the trolley behind him. We turned into the busy Dairy aisle and he turned and shouted "Listen lady, will you please stop following me....I'm not interested" He then walked off, I was stood there looking like a stalker and getting dirty looks and tuts from complete strangers.

But it was the giggle and fun that kept us together.

The game Twister is also good if you are looking to spice up your sex life

Hardup_Hester

Hubby & I have 'Date Nights' too, we're usually too skint to go anywhere, but we make the effort to dress up for each other, even if it is just to sit in front of the TV.

brighterfuture_2

My OH and I make time for each other everyday, we also try to do an activity together once a week, such as walking, bike riding or hiking. OH is been waiting for me to get better so that we can run togther daily.

gorgeous_gwen

We haven't been together for a long time (although hope we will be!) but after having a baby with my boyf (I already have a DS from a previous relationship), I was very conscious of how that can affect things, so have made a particular effort to make sure I look nice and presentable- as much as I can with a boisterous DS and little baby in my midst anyway!

However boyf doesn't seem to grasp this and I swear spends every weekday evening still in the clothes he wears for work. It annoys me when I make sure I try and look like 'me' as well as 'mummy' and he doesn't reciprocate at any time except the weekend! He refuses to change and I've given up asking him because he never says yes!

Any tips on how to get him changed after work are very welcome!

robbiecaratiger

Communication is key.

If I'm not happy about something in some way, then I tell my wife. Same with her - she wastes no time in telling me to go jump in the shower, or she drops it ouit that "so and so" is in concert soon.

If you can't talk with each openly and honestly without fear of reprisal, then doesn't that say an awful lot about the relationship?

Hell_Dans_Un_Handcart

In all honesty...when I want excitement in my marriage...I buy myself something that makes me feel good (whether it's a lipstick or new shoes), we both make the effort...we go out somewhere, come home and have fabulous sex. Usually something pretty kinky, too. Trying something new makes everything feel fresher.

It's not the be-all end-all of marriage, but it sure is exciting.

BritRael

Debt_Free_Chick wrote: »

Did you tell him this? Did you make it absolutely unequivocally clear to him - men can be a bit thick when it comes to feelings and you have to drum it into them, sometimes

er....what are you trying to say?? :rolleyes:

windswept

Hell_Dans_Un_Handcart wrote: »

In all honesty...when I want excitement in my marriage...I buy myself something that makes me feel good (whether it's a lipstick or new shoes), we both make the effort...we go out somewhere, come home and have fabulous sex. Usually something pretty kinky, too. Trying something new makes everything feel fresher.

It's not the be-all end-all of marriage, but it sure is exciting.

That's all very well, but what happens when you run out of "new things" to try? Do you keep pushing your boundaries , getting into more and more extreme "practices" , that can be a very dangerous game in more
ways than one. Sometimes you just need good old fashioned lovemaking to re-connect - wild sex purely for recreation and excitement can be a bad thing as well as a good one. You also need deep intimacy, which very often , the more adventurous types of sex dont give you.
You can be so focussed on being wild and kinky that it actually detracts from the experience. I honestly believe that people get into swinging / group sex etc. that way, because they are always looking for something" more" .

Hell_Dans_Un_Handcart

windswept wrote: »

That's all very well, but what happens when you run out of "new things" to try? Do you keep pushing your boundaries , getting into more and more extreme "practices" , that can be a very dangerous game in more
ways than one. Sometimes you just need good old fashioned lovemaking to re-connect - wild sex purely for recreation and excitement can be a bad thing as well as a good one. You also need deep intimacy, which very often , the more adventurous types of sex dont give you.
You can be so focussed on being wild and kinky that it actually detracts from the experience. I honestly believe that people get into swinging / group sex etc. that way, because they are always looking for something" more" .

What do you think I do, go dogging? :rotfl:

angie12

Hardup_Hester wrote: »

Hubby & I have 'Date Nights' too, we're usually too skint to go anywhere, but we make the effort to dress up for each other, even if it is just to sit in front of the TV.

Hi hardup Hester.

I just asked my O/H, (He's watching a film.) what he thought of this idea. Without taking his eyes off the telly he muttered. "Wouldn't work for us" When I asked him why not, he said. "Because it would take you too long to get ready." We both burst out laughing.
This thread is great.