MSE Pregnancy Club XI

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just finished a packet of thorntons summer collection ... feel sick and i didnt really enjoy them x

greent

always29 wrote: »

evening ladies - calling on your experiences (not medical advice!). Had 12 week scan this morning which was lovely - saw and heard heartbeat and baby moving around loads. Went to tell "in-laws" and smiles all round. Did a bit of pottering with lovely DP to make most of day off work. Sat down about 5pm and got call from midwife as am high risk for downs (bloods not back for combined screening at time of scan but came in at 20 past 4) - scan good, age etc results good but overall risk put at 1 in 63 as blood results had downs risk at 1 in 11. I am actually surprisingly OK but DP in bits. We will be calling midwife in the morning to say we want to see a specialist - she did say we could have CVS on Thursday but also we could just talk to specialist.
I know none of you can decide for me, I emphatically do not want to enter an ethical debate but I feel I really need to hear any of your experiences. If you can.

hello -
scuse typing - using 1 hand whilst feeding newborn.

i had a 1:47 risk of downs in november from nuchal/ blood test combined with age - i was 38 at the time. i was in bits. i had a cvs a week later - i couldn't wait for an amnio and HAD to know. personally i would not have continued with a positive result - but that is my choice and not everyone's, i know. (although a mum of a down's girl i know says sge would have terminated if she had known ) that's down to me having other children etc. but i don't want to get into an ethical debate either.

i had cvs on weds lunchtime - indicative results fri teatime and full results about 10 days later. cvs scary but i had lovely man do it. i was a problem as i have a prolapsed womb that is also retroverted - made it hard for him and he had to try a couple of times. have to say i didn't look at needle - husband did tho'. i went to bed and rested as much as i could with 3 other kids for next 3 days.

pm me if you want - any questions etc. scary stuff - but 62 people with the same risk as you will have healthy children.

take care + big hugs

greent xx

money_maker_3

always29 wrote: »

evening ladies - calling on your experiences (not medical advice!). Had 12 week scan this morning which was lovely - saw and heard heartbeat and baby moving around loads. Went to tell "in-laws" and smiles all round. Did a bit of pottering with lovely DP to make most of day off work. Sat down about 5pm and got call from midwife as am high risk for downs (bloods not back for combined screening at time of scan but came in at 20 past 4) - scan good, age etc results good but overall risk put at 1 in 63 as blood results had downs risk at 1 in 11. I am actually surprisingly OK but DP in bits. We will be calling midwife in the morning to say we want to see a specialist - she did say we could have CVS on Thursday but also we could just talk to specialist.
I know none of you can decide for me, I emphatically do not want to enter an ethical debate but I feel I really need to hear any of your experiences. If you can.

It is an incredibly personal decision, and anything we say will not affect how you feel one way or the other.
In my experience, I refused all of the downs tests, I have a cousin with downs and was aware of the fact that it was a posibility and decided that I would love my child no matter what, and to an extent felt that going into it blind would be better.
I have done this for my last pregnancy and this one. This however does not mean that it is the way to do it, some people will cope better with this than others, and only you will know

But ((hugs)) hun, it will be a tough couple of days / weeks

greent

someone has posted congrats on krystal's facebook wall???????? any news???????

greent x

Sami_Bee

Nicki wrote: »

Brings back happy memories. DS1 was 4 months when we realised I was pregnant with DD, and in the first 3 months I recall just lying flat out on the bathroom floor, because I knew I was going to be sick again in the nearish future, and was too knackered to crawl into another room for a proper rest!

The only saving grace when they are so close together is that when they are really little they sleep for far longer than they do as toddlers, so you can often get away with a nap, or a long break to throw up, as worst case scenario they are safe in the cot, which would be harder if you thought your 2 year old might be falling down the stairs while you were incapacitated

:rotfl:(sorry shouldn't laugh!) I'll be in the 2nd group there, thankfully Chris was still in his cot until 2 mths ago but I was a rather rubbish mum while feeling rough . I'm not looking forward to looking after a newborn with no daytime naps but at least Chris is heading towards being potty trained so hopefully I won't we changing 2 sets of nappies for too long :undecided

I suppose all age gaps have their pluses and minuses you just have to go for it and hope it works out in the end!:p

Charlton_Taz

Cripes! I don't get a chance to read through the thread too often....but just done a catch up....congrats to everyone who's had their wee little babies!!!:j Thanks to everyone that has posted their birth experiences and other info i.e. sweeps......all helps to dymystify everything for me as a relative newbie....though I think at this rate I'm going to be terrified by the time its my turn!

On a sad note, i wanted to ask some advice. My boss (well its an ex-boss but I see him around the office quite a bit) told me last week that his wife was due to have a baby two weeks after me.....then they went for their 12 week scan the day after he told me and it was not good news. I only found this out from a friend that works for him (he hasn't told me himself)...so not sure how to deal with it now as I feel really guilty as I am now essentially one big reminder of what could of been for him. Don't know how to approach him now...anyone been in that situation?

candice56

Sorry Always, I had 1:580 but others have been 1:1000's. You need maybe to wait til your cvs, if Greent comes back on she maybe able to give an opinion as she too had a cvs but maybe wait until you have a better idea before committing to a decision.

My thoughts are with you xx

eta greents been on before i posted

jha

Always - i just wanted to send you a dodgy hug :grouphug: to make you smile as i have no knowledge, all i know is that we decided not to have downs test when the time comes.

tiamai_d

Always, before DS2 was born I had thought that I would have a termination if my baby was high risk of anything. Then DS2 came along, he has cerebral palsy not downs so it is different, but I personally would not be able to terminate. I've been along that road, we were told that DS2 may never walk, that he may have bad development difficulties and generally for the first 3 years we didn't know what he would be like. Luckily, mentally he seems ok, problems with sequences (numbers), colour recognition, but nothing social skill wise. He has still not talking, can only say the first syllable of words, still in nappies at 4 years, has a limp and gait... stuff like that. But we cope. I can honestly say that if you have a disabled child, in its own way it is wonderful. You simply can't imagine the emotion and pride you feel when they do something, be it roll over, sit, walk, say Mum (or Ma). Other parents think they are proud when their 'non-disabled' child walks, but it's like black and white tv compared to when the disabled child walks in full colour cineama screen HD.

Not to belittle any other parent by the way! I just see the difference between our reactions to DS1 who we just expected to walk, talk etc and DS2 for who it was a miracle.

I'm not saying it's easy, that moment when you are told that there is something wrong is like them breaking your knees with a sledge hammer and telling you to walk. Some days you cry, some days you are so frustrated, but then you get those good days and it is all worth it.

Somehow you cope. It changes you as a person for the best and you just learn to live a different life from what you expected.

However, it is something you and your DP have to think long and hard about. Nobody will think any less of you if you decide you can't do it, that's just as hard a decision as continuing with the pregnancy.

Look up lots of info on Downs, some are barely affected, some are more so. Find a support group online and read some stories, post asking parents about how their life is.

ETA, that DS2 was low risk in all tests during pregnancy, his disability is due to the circumstances of his birth.

Mrs_Moc

Just a quick post before I go to catch up.

My scan wasn't good and I got readmitted. So im back in hospital with a tear in my placenta and my cervix is dilated to 1cm.

FIL has said he will be checking in on DH nightly. Mum and MIL will be checking in daily and he will be here at the hospital every morning at around 9.am. He will be going to AA and promising to stay away from it. He knows everyone is checking up on him to keep me happy and calm and for the safety of the kids, I think he's more than a little embarrassed.

I feel disappointed to be back in hopsital, its my birthday tomorrow, but the most important thing is I feel safer here, and I believe the kids will be okay at home with DH. I've also threatened that im buying the dipstick tests.

Doctors dont think the placenta will last another 2 weeks. Im only 31 weeks today, so will be hoping to make this pregnancy last as long as poss.